For some women, dating a shorter man is a little hell that can make them feel inferior and insecure in the relationship. are you one of them? To improve that perspective and mindset, try setting your priorities in the relationship. In other words, instead of focusing on the height difference between you and your partner, try to focus more on the character and internal qualities that made you fall in love!
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Part 1 of 3: Going through the Early Stages of a Relationship
Step 1. Don't screen potential partners based on their height
Some online dating apps allow you to screen potential partners based on many things, one of which is height. Be careful, this option can lead you to ignore a guy who is actually perfect for you just because he's a little shorter than you expected. Therefore, do not include the height of a man that you think is ideal to open up opportunities for more men out there.
- If you include the ideal height of a potential partner or write the sentence, "Only open to tall men!", indirectly you have closed the door to many men, including men who are actually qualified and suitable for you.
- This method also needs to be applied in the real world. Don't turn down a guy who wants to get to know you better just because he's a little shorter than you!
Step 2. Understand the things that make you feel inferior or insecure
Most women feel the need to have a partner who is taller because they are inferior to their own height. At the same time, a shorter body often makes them feel more feminine! In fact, a person's character and personality have absolutely nothing to do with his body image when juxtaposed with other men's bodies. Remember, you will never feel safe in a relationship if you don't feel safe in your own body.
- Try to think about the problems that will arise if you are in a relationship with a shorter man. Will you feel inferior because you feel very big like a giant? Would a taller body embarrass you? Take the time to explore all the feelings that arise!
- Try to change the way you think. Having a body that is taller than your partner will not reduce your femininity and make you look like a giant beside him. Remember, a person's femininity is only reflected through his character and behavior, not his height.
- Take the time to say positive affirmations in front of the mirror. For example, you could say, "I love the smooth curls of my hair." Do this regularly to build confidence and shake off your insecurities!
Step 3. Be as casual as possible when dating
In other words, there is no need to wear very high heels on your first date with your partner. There's no need to attract other people's attention by elevating your body, but don't look inferior with your height either! Also don't make comments related to the weight difference between the two of you if your partner doesn't bring it up first as a joke.
Step 4. Don't make fun of your partner's height
You wouldn't like it when other people joked about your height, would you? Therefore, don't make similar jokes to your partner, especially if the two of you have just been dating.
Step 5. Eliminate your biases
If you've been dating taller men more often than not, it will likely take longer to adjust. Do not worry; This condition is very reasonable. If necessary, you can even date other men while trying to fit into his existence as long as you both agree not to be monogamous. Give yourself as much time as possible to adjust, get to know him more deeply, and improve perspective regarding the difference in height with your partner.
Remind yourself that your partner's masculinity won't decrease just because he's shorter than you. On the other hand, your femininity will not diminish in the slightest just because you are taller than him
Part 2 of 3: Focusing on the Positivity
Step 1. Focus on the things you like about her
If the difference in height can make you anxious, it means that you are only focusing on the things that appear on the outside. Instead, why not try to focus on your partner's positive internal characteristics such as their charisma, sense of humor, intelligence, or kindness? Remember, the longevity of your relationship is determined by the compatibility of characters, not the height of both parties.
Step 2. Be grateful for how easy it is for you to kiss him
If your partner is much taller than you, you will likely have to try harder to kiss them whenever you want. Fortunately, this situation will not be experienced by a woman who is taller than her partner! So instead of cursing the height difference between the two of you, try to be grateful for the fact that you don't have to work so hard just to kiss him.
Step 3. Read scientific research on short men
In fact, men of short stature need to work harder to do and achieve more. That's why, they are more likely to have a higher enthusiasm to help you with household chores when compared to tall men.
Step 4. Try changing your perspective
Has your partner's taller height made you insecure? If so, try changing your perspective on the condition. In fact, having a shorter partner can make your body look slimmer like a professional model, you know!
Step 5. Observe happy couples around you
Although you may rarely see a woman dating a man who is shorter than her, the truth is that this situation also happens to other couples and they are still able to have a happy relationship. Therefore, try to take the time to observe other couples around you. Most likely, later you will realize that the difference in height is not a big problem for these loving couples.
Part 3 of 3: Dealing with Your and Your Partner's Height Differences
Step 1. Be confident in your height
In other words, there's no need to feel the need to hide your height when dealing with shorter men! Believe me, most men think confident women are very sexy and therefore, you don't need to bend over or sit in a slumped position which actually shows your low self-confidence. Instead, stand as straight as you can, look the other person in the eye, and give the person you're talking to the widest smile.
However, of course you still have the right to do everything you can to be more equal in height with your partner later
Step 2. Don't wear high heels
To equalize the height of you and your partner, try to always wear flat heels. After all, flat heels will also feel more comfortable on your heels, right? If forced to wear high heels, at least choose heels with a reasonable height.
Step 3. Practice leaning to the side
One way to equalize your height (especially if you're wearing high heels) is to bend your waist slightly and lean toward the side. Of course, the body needs to be supported by something, like a partner's shoulders. Make sure your body looks casual, natural, and comfortable while doing it!
