Sometimes we don't manage to relate to other people. However, many times we have no choice but to face it. Even if we can keep them away, we need to do it in a way that doesn't encourage them to act worse. Dealing with people we dislike requires us to be sensitive to our own interests and those of those around us.
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Method 1 of 4: Stay Calm When Others Annoy You
Step 1. Don't react
People often bother you to get a reaction. Try not to lose control or express displeasure with body language. Don't roll your eyes, put on a displeased face, or mumble under your breath, otherwise you'll only make things worse.
- Remember, being silent doesn't make you weak.
- Take deep breaths and focus on breathing to calm yourself down.
- Imagine the bigger situation. Engaging in physical confrontation can be detrimental to your health, job, or education. Remember, what really matters and try to put these little annoyances into perspective.
Step 2. Change the subject of the conversation
If you can sense conflict arising, talking about something different can be a good way to distract someone. Often times, annoying people will be defiant even though they are clearly at fault because they see confrontation as an ego battle. Once you've calmed down, chances are they won't feel the need to defend themselves anymore.
For example, if someone comes into your area, try to point them to something in their surroundings that is funny or interesting. If someone bothers you with an annoying topic of conversation, try to talk about something else that you know will interest them
Step 3. Stay calm and happy
The ability to tolerate annoying people is comparable to being emotionally and mentally stable. Be calm and try to be happy. If you find yourself being distracted by other people too often, consider if there is anything you could improve on in your life to develop more positive traits.
Step 4. Remember, sometimes you may be annoying
It is difficult to recognize our own faults. If someone is constantly complaining about your behavior or asking for something you don't think they deserve, it's important to consider that you may be a difficult person. Listen to friends and family when they criticize your behavior so you can understand your own mistakes.
Method 2 of 4: Asking Others to Leave You Alone
Step 1. Tell the time when you have to leave
It's a lot easier to get out of a conversation if, at first, you explain that you can't stay long. Let them know if you have an appointment or need to call. Be specific when you only have five or ten minutes, so he won't be surprised if you leave.
Step 2. Start signaling that you have to leave
Most people will understand if you start packing your bags and start looking into the distance. Body language telling you that you have to leave can save you from awkward conversations and convince the other person that they should stop talking to you.
Step 3. State an excuse politely
If you tell someone you have to leave, you've started packing, and they still haven't responded, you need to tell them in person when you have to go. Try to be polite and pretend you're sorry.
Step 4. Ask others for help
Give a signal that you can send a friend over so that friend will come over and get you out of the conversation. Or if not, start talking to other people around you. The person will understand that he or she is no longer part of the conversation and will eventually walk away on his own.
Step 5. Shout
If someone doesn't want to leave you, go to a crowded place and scream. Say "leave me alone." The fear that other people will want to get involved in protecting you will cause even the toughest of people to give up.
This is an extreme solution. You should refrain from using this method unless you believe this person could endanger your safety
Method 3 of 4: Repairing Relationships
Step 1. Show off his annoying behavior
Don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. Instead of blaming him for doing the wrong thing, use “I/I-statements” to explain how his behavior affected you. To do this, say "I feel----when you do-----because---."
There are several advantages with I/I statements. Instead of blaming others, you can share your feelings. Also, instead of making matters worse by making vague statements without evidence such as "you're always angry," you can state appropriately when the bad behavior occurs. This will make it easier for the person to correct his behavior
Step 2. Ask him why he is behaving the way he is
If he's having a hard time, is anxious, or talks too much, it may be because he has a personal problem. Ask him if there is a problem. Talking about it might help him get out of trouble. If not, see if there's anything you can do to help solve the problem.
Step 3. See if he wants to change
After pointing out the person's faults, you should give them time to respond. See if he is willing to change his behavior and become a different person. Don't be too pushy because he can strike back. You've said what you think; give him time to think.
- Remember, patience is important. If he doesn't seem to be responding, try to provide clear evidence when his actions bother you. Do it in a non-confrontational way such as saying “Don't you know that this question is a little too personal?
- Evidence shows that people who have close personal relationships are happier than people who don't, but dealing with such people can be difficult and requires sacrifice. Don't give up before giving other people a chance to be better.
Step 4. Let him know when you need to separate
If his behavior doesn't change and you don't seem to have the patience to tolerate it, invite him to sit down and be honest. Let him know that this friendship is not working for you and that you need time to separate. Say that you feel bad about saying this, but that it's better than lying to her.
- This will give him time to think about what you're saying and try to mature. This can improve your relationship by saving you from angry outbursts that will only make things worse.
- Remember, you might be able to help him. If everyone around you thinks you're annoying, would you like to know how to change that?
- Be polite and stick to “I/I-statements.” “I'm going through a tough time right now and when you ask me personal things, it bothers me, because it reminds me of what happened. Can you leave me alone for the next few weeks?”
Method 4 of 4: Ending the Relationship
Step 1. Introduce a new friend to the person
Maybe you know some people who share the same interests as that person, or maybe you know some people who have a higher tolerance for annoying people than you. Try to introduce him to people at your school or work who can distract him. Don't introduce her to the same friends, as this will make you feel compelled to spend time with her.
Step 2. Stay away from him
If you are not close to the person, it is okay to end the communication. Unfriend social networks, ignore or block phone calls and emails from the person, and try to avoid situations where you might run into them. Most relationships have a trial phase, which should be predictable if you need to end it if things aren't going well.
This isn't a great strategy if you've been friends for years or if you live or work in close quarters, so you can expect to see each other often
Step 3. Let him know that you no longer want to be his friend
When ending a relationship with a close friend, you need to do it in person and personally. To make things easier, start by talking about what you like about him and your relationship with him. Be honest about why you no longer want to be friends with him but do so in a neutral, non-offensive way.
