No one will argue that raising children takes time and effort. Having children is a gift, but being a good parent is much more complicated. If you want to know how to raise a child, follow these steps:
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Part 1 of 4: Forming Good Habits
Step 1. Put parenthood first
This is difficult to do in a competitive world. Good parents deliberately make plans and devote time to parenting. They set the development of the child's character as a top priority. When you become a parent, you must learn to put your personal priorities after the children, and sacrifice your days caring for them over yourself. Of course, you don't have to ignore yourself completely, but you should make it a habit to put your child's needs first.
- You can take turns with your partner babysitting, so you can have "time for yourself."
- When planning a weekly routine, the needs of the child should be the main focus.
Step 2. Read a book to your child every day
Teaching a love of the written word will help your child develop a love of reading as he grows up. Set a time to read a story each day -- usually around nap time or at night. Do it at least half an hour every day. Children will not only develop a love of words, but they will also have a greater chance of academic success and understand how to behave. Research shows that children who read every day perform better at school.
When children start learning to read or write, let them take over. Don't correct their mistakes every time, or they will be discouraged
Step 3. Have dinner as a family
One of the most dangerous trends in modern families is the loss of family mealtime. The dining table is not only a place to eat and talk about family matters but also a place to teach and convey the values of our lives. Manners and rules can be absorbed at the dinner table. Family mealtimes are a time to talk about and pass on ideal concepts that children will carry with them throughout their lives.
- If your child is a picky eater, don't spend dinner criticizing his eating habits and watching what he eats and doesn't eat like an eagle. This will give your child a negative impression of eating with the family.
- Involve your child. Eating will be more enjoyable if your child "helps" choose the ingredients to buy or helps set the table or small food-related tasks, such as washing vegetables to be cooked.
- When eating, talk about light and open things. Don't interrogate. Just ask things like, "How was your day?"
Step 4. Set a strict bedtime
Children don't have to sleep at a certain hour right down to the minute or even the second, you just have to set a bedtime routine that is obeyed and obeyed by the child. Research shows that children's cognitive abilities can drop by two levels if they get less than an hour of sleep, so it's important for them to get enough rest before going to school.
- This habit includes a relaxing time before bed. Turn off the TV, music, or other electronics, and you can have a soft chat in bed or read to them.
- Do not give your child a sweet snack before bed, as this can make it difficult for him to fall asleep.
Step 5. Each week, encourage children to develop skills
You don't have to make your child do ten different activities each week, but you should at least find one or two activities that your child enjoys and incorporate those activities into his weekly routine. It could be anything from soccer to art classes -- that's fine, as long as your child demonstrates talent and a love for something. Tell him he has done a great job and encourage him to keep going.
- Getting your child to take different courses will help him socialize with other children.
- Do not be lazy. If your child complains that he doesn't want to go to piano lessons, but you know he actually likes it, don't give up just because you're too lazy to take him.
Step 6. Give your child enough play time each day
"Playtime" doesn't mean letting her sit in front of the TV and suck on toys while you wash the dishes. "Playtime" means letting your child sit in the play area and be actively involved in growth-stimulating toys and you help him explore. Even though you may be tired, it's important to show your child the benefits of playing with the right toys so that he gets the stimulation he needs and so that he learns to play on his own.
It's okay if you don't have many toys for your child. Quality, and not quantity, is what makes a toy useful. And you might find that his favorite toy this month is an empty tissue holder
Part 2 of 4: Loving Children
Step 1. Learn to listen to your children
Making an impact in their lives is the biggest thing you can do. It's easy to overlook what they're saying, but you're missing out on an opportunity to provide meaningful guidance. If you never listen to your children and yell at them more often, they won't feel valued or cared for.
Encourage children to talk. Helping them express themselves early in their growth will help them communicate well in the future
Step 2. Respect your child
Don't forget that children are living and breathing human beings who have needs and desires like all of us. If your child likes to choose food, don't nag them at the dinner table; if he can't use the toilet, don't embarrass him by talking about it in front of people; if you promise to take him to a movie if he's nice, don't cancel the appointment just because you're too tired.
If you respect your child, he will respect you too
Step 3. Know that you cannot love your child too much
"Too much" love, "too much" praise, or to give them "too much" affection will spoil them is just a myth. Giving children love, affection, and attention will positively encourage them to develop themselves as human beings. What will spoil them is to give them toys instead of love, or not to reprimand them for being unkind.
Say you love him at least once a day -- but you should say it as often as possible
Step 4. Get involved in your child's daily life
It takes effort and strength to be by your child's side every day, but if you want to encourage your child to develop his or her own interests and character, you have to create a strong support system for him or her. This doesn't mean you have to follow them every second, but to be with them in all the little moments, from that first ball game to a family picnic on the beach.
- When your child enters school, you should know the lessons taken and the names of the teachers. Help her with homework and difficult assignments, but don't do it for them.
- As your child gets older, you can start to limit yourself a bit, and encourage your child to explore his or her interests without you being around all the time.
Step 5. Encourage the child's independence
You can still be with your child while you encourage him to explore his interests. Don't tell him what lessons to take; let him make various choices. You can help your child get dressed, but ask him to buy clothes so he has a hand in his appearance. And if your child wants to play with his friends or play alone without you, let him build his own identity.
If you practice independence from an early age, your child will get used to taking care of himself as an adult
Part 3 of 4: Disciplining Children
Step 1. Please note that children need boundaries
They will ignore these limitations on several occasions. Proper punishment is the way humans learn. The child must understand the purpose of the punishment and that he is being punished because his parents love him.
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As a parent, you have to give understanding when you want to give punishment. Instead of giving confusing, unrelated punishments like, "If you're riding a tricycle out into the street, you've got to keep this book in balance on your head," withdraw the privilege. The child should be able to link disenfranchisement with behavior: "If you ride a tricycle out into the street, you can't ride it anymore all day long."
Raise a Child Step 12 - Do not punish with violence, such as slapping or hitting. Children who are slapped or spanked will not listen. Parents should not hit their children, under any circumstances. Children who are slapped, hit, or slapped are more likely to fight with other children. They are likely to be bullied and use violence to settle disputes with others. Children who experience domestic violence are more likely to develop post-traumatic stress disorder.
Step 2. Reward good behavior
Rewarding children for being good is more important than punishing them for bad behavior. Letting children know that they are doing the right thing will encourage them to behave well in the future. If your child is being nice, such as sharing toys with other children or being patient during a trip, let him know that you noticed his good behavior; Don't just be quiet when your child is being nice and punish him for being bad.
- Don't underestimate the importance of praising your child for being nice. Saying, "I'm so proud of you because…" can make your child feel like her good attitude is appreciated.
- You can give toys or gifts from time to time, but don't let your child think that he deserves a toy every time he does something nice.
Step 3. Be consistent
If you want to discipline your child effectively, you have to be consistent. You can't punish your child for doing something wrong one day and give him candy the next day to stop doing it, or maybe not saying anything because you're too tired to tell him. And if your child does something well, like pooping properly, make sure you praise him every time. Consistency is what reinforces good and bad attitudes.
If you and your partner are raising children together, then you need to stick together, using the same method of discipline. There's no such thing as a "good parent, bad parent" in your home
Step 4. Explain the rules
If you want your child to know your disciplinary methods, you have to be able to explain why your child shouldn't do certain things. Don't just tell him that he shouldn't be mean to other kids, or to clean up his toys; explain why this behavior is good for him, for you, and for society at large. By getting your child to understand the connection between their behavior and what it means, you will help them understand why you made certain decisions.
Step 5. Teach children to take responsibility for their actions
This is an important part of building discipline and shaping his character. If he does something wrong, like throwing food on the floor, make sure he admits it and explains why he did it, instead of blaming someone else or denying it. After your child has misbehaved, talk to him about why it happened.
Children need to know that everyone makes mistakes. The error is not as important as the reaction to the error itself
Part 4 of 4: Building Character
Step 1. Don't underestimate the meaning of the word character education
We gain merit by practice. Parents should help children by developing moral action through self-discipline, good work habits, good behavior and concern for others, and serving the community. The essence of character development is their behavior. If your child is too young to act like any other human being, you can always teach him to be kind to others, regardless of age.
Step 2. Be a good role model
Admit it: humans learn primarily from example. In fact, you cannot avoid being an example to your children, good or bad. Setting a good example is probably your most important task. If you yell at your child and then tell him to never yell, kick the wall when you're angry, or make bad comments at your neighbors, your child will think that this behavior is okay.
Start being a good role model from the first day you become a parent. Your child will be able to recognize your mood and attitude earlier than you think
Step 3. Keep your eyes and ears on everything your child absorbs
Children are like sponges. Many things they absorb are character and moral values. Books, songs, TV, internet, and movies are constantly conveying messages-moral and immoral-to our children. As parents we must control the flow of ideas and images that affect our children.
If you and your child see something disturbing, like two people arguing in a store or a piece of violence in the news, don't miss the opportunity to talk about it with your child
Step 4. Teach manners
Teaching children to say "thank you," and "please," and to treat others with respect will help them succeed in the future. Don't underestimate the power of teaching children to be kind to adults, to respect those who are older than them, and to avoid fighting with other children or choosing friends. Good manners will follow your children for the rest of their lives, and you should start setting the example as soon as possible.
An important aspect of good manners is taking care of one's own needs. Teach your child to clean up his toys when he's three, and he'll be a great guest at twenty-three
Step 5. Use only the words you want your child to use
Even if you feel the urge to swear, complain, or say negative things about your acquaintance in front of your child, even if it's just on the phone, remember that your child is always paying attention. And if you're having a heated argument with your partner, it's better if you do it in a closed room so your child doesn't imitate your negative attitude.
If you say a bad word and your child notices it, don't pretend it didn't happen. Apologize and say it won't happen again. If you don't say anything, your child will think the words are okay
Step 6. Teach children to empathize with others
Empathy is an important skill and you should teach it from an early age. When children know how to empathize with others, they will be able to see the world from a non-judgmental perspective and will be able to put themselves in the shoes of others. Let's say one day your son comes home and tells him that his friend Jimmy was mean to him; talk about what happened and see if you can figure out what Jimmy might be feeling and what's causing him to be unkind. Or, if a waitress forgets your order, don't tell your child that the waitress is lazy or stupid; instead, indicate that he must be tired from a long day at work.
Step 7. Teach children to be grateful
Teaching your child to be sincerely grateful is different from forcing him to say "thank you" all the time. To really teach your child to be grateful, you have to say "thank you" yourself every time, so that your child sees a good attitude. If your child complains that everyone at school has a new toy that he doesn't have, remind people who aren't as lucky as he is.
- Bring the child together from all walks of life so he understands that he is lucky, even if it means he won't get a Nintendo DS for Christmas.
- Saying, "I didn't hear you say thank you…" doesn't send the same message as saying "thank you" yourself and making sure your child hears it.
Tips
- Get to know the parents of your child's friends. You may develop a friendship with them later, but at least now you can be sure that your child is safe in their home.
- Read the book "parenting guidance" carefully. Today's model of parenting can be a sinking mistake that will be a problem tomorrow.
