If you're a fling who wants to maintain a relationship with someone who already has a boyfriend, you need to know the ground rules. You can't expect to be more than just a mistress. This is simply an opportunity for the two of you to have fun without having to worry about where the relationship will take you. As soon as you question your status as a mistress or want more of a relationship, all the fun ends. To be a good mistress, you have to stop thinking complicated things and learn how to have fun with your partner. Then, if you feel like you can't have fun, you should get out of the relationship. This is how to support a shallow-minded man.
Step 1. Give him space
Don't always text or search first. Give him room to breathe. He doesn't want to have more than one wife/girlfriend/lover. He already has that and your job is to be someone different. You have to please him and not bother him. You deserve to have fun on your own, just like him. Take a walk with your friends. Have fun. You don't need to check on him every five minutes because he'll think you want to be more than just a fling.
Step 2. Keep your relationship interesting
When he texts, keep your conversation interesting. The main task of the mistress is to make the atmosphere fun and interesting. Answering briefly and being nonchalant will only distance him from you or even make him want to be with his girlfriend. Tell a joke, ask him how he feels, surprise him. Do whatever you think will help keep things naturally interesting.
Step 3. Avoid having serious conversations with him
Asking questions that seem to force him to make you more than just an affair will keep him away from you. You must know yourself. You're his mistress, period. Indeed, there are mistresses who eventually become girlfriends, but that is very rare. If you just want to have fun, you don't need to bother having a serious conversation with the guy. Talking seriously will only drive you away from each other.
Step 4. Go with the flow
There should be no reason for you to argue with him. Arguing is her boyfriend's job. Cheating should always be relaxed and not stressful. You are his vacation, his time off, and his pause when he has problems with his girlfriend. If you start bickering, criticizing him, or complaining about everything you guys do together, he'll start to wonder why he's cheating on you.
Step 5. Don't ask too many questions
You should already know this. You can't ask questions like where he is, why he doesn't call you, why he's always busy, why he never sees you, who he called, and so on if you want the relationship to continue. This is not a question that should be asked by a mistress. You are the one who plunged yourself into this kind of relationship. There's no point in being jealous or surprised, even though you already knew the situation when you started the relationship.
Step 6. Don't expect to spend holidays and birthdays with him
If he cares, he will celebrate the day with you the day before, but usually, don't expect gifts or recognition from him. Those days will definitely be spent with his girlfriend. You can still text her to wish her a happy holiday or birthday, but it's best to avoid calling her. For Valentine's Day, you need not hesitate anymore. He must have spent the day with his girlfriend.
Step 7. Let him contact you first
He's the one having the affair, so, sadly, he's the one who has to decide everything. If he wants to contact you, he will text or call you. If you try to text or call her, you could be giving her a hard time because she may be with her boyfriend. Even more so if you try to contact him at night. Don't call or text late at night because his girlfriend might see your text and things can get messy.
Step 8. Always look beautiful
As an affair, keep your appearance to always be beautiful. You're not his girlfriend and you shouldn't be hanging out with him in sneakers and a sweater. If you're looking for a guy to hang out with, you should be looking for a girlfriend. The fact is that the guy wants you to always look perfect if you are his mistress. No one said being a mistress was easy.
Step 9. Let him think that he is the only man for you
Don't let him think you like partying even if it's true. You are his mistress. Don't let him think that you're approaching other guys too. However, if that's the case, then why? You have the right to do as you please. He's not wearing a ring on your finger, is he?
Keep your Facebook account clean. Don't let him see pictures of you with multiple guys
Step 10. Don't obsess over his girlfriend
Honestly, if you want to stay happy, just ignore it, and avoid looking around for information about his girlfriend or overthinking her. The more you know about his girlfriend, such as her appearance, her job, or her name, the more upset you will be at the thought of your partner dating someone else. You may start to obsess over his girlfriend, get overly jealous, and stalk her boyfriend. You definitely don't want to be like that.
If you start bringing up her boyfriend or asking a lot of questions about him, he won't want to continue the conversation
Step 11. Get out of the relationship if you're not happy
No one said being a mistress was easy. It's okay if you really like the guy even though you already know he has a girlfriend and don't want his relationship with you to be serious. However, it's hard to be in a relationship for a long time because at some point you'll just get fed up with the situation and want something more. If you're upset and frustrated, you don't have to pretend everything's okay. Simple. If you are not satisfied with the relationship, just end it.