The most important thing to get acquainted with a girl is that you have to go where she is. In summer, the place is the beach, which is the perfect location to meet the girl of your dreams. Girls on the beach usually relax and come to have fun, so this fact will ease your task of making a positive first impression. And the best part is that even if you fail to get to know a girl, at least you're having fun in the sun! This guide will give you tips on how to prepare to meet the girl at the beach and ideas on approaching and meeting her while you are at the beach. At the end, you'll find out how to start a chat when you get a chance to talk to a girl.
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Part 1 of 3: Preparations for the Beach
Step 1. You have to look cool (but don't overdo it)
Your goal is to look attractive and approachable, but don't waste your time dressing up and preening all day. Comb your hair, but don't overdo it and choose nice, comfortable clothes.
- If you feel confident wearing just your swim trunks, that's fine, but you can also wear a t-shirt, or polo shorts and shorts.
- Don't forget to wear sunscreen, especially if you have pale skin. Looking like a lobster might get people noticed, but don't expect to get the girls' phone numbers.
Step 2. Make a plan
Think of some ideas for getting to know a girl before going to the beach. Take some time to think about what you're going to say, and the things you can do to get girls' attention.
Step 3. Invite a friend or two
Some ways to get to know girls on the beach can go smoothly by bringing friends. But there is also a better way to do it yourself. Think about what approach you want to take, and choose the friends you'll take to the beach wisely. You have to look like you're having a good time, so bring a friend you like. And make sure beforehand that your friends understand if you'll be leaving them for a while or for the rest of the day when you meet the right girl.
Step 4. Pack your gear
Bring the usual beach gear, including sunscreen, towels or blankets, and a cooler and a few bottles of drinks. Also bring some beach toys for the adults. Bring items like a frisbee, a soccer ball, and a bucket and shovel to build a sandcastle. You won't meet anyone else if you just lie on the mat. You need a reason to move around and the toys you bring will make you seem like a fun and approachable person.
Step 5. Bring your dog
It's great to have a dog when you meet a girl, and the beach is a great place to show off your dog and show that you're a good pet owner. Bring a ball and play catch and throw with your dog in the sand. Then take the guguk for a walk with a neck strap. Assuming that your dog is well-behaved and cute, you're more likely to have girls coming to meet the guckoo, and maybe you.
- Some beaches don't allow dogs. Check the rules of the beach you are going to first.
- Bring equipment to clean your dog's litter. Irresponsible dog owners will not appeal to girls.
- Research shows that some purebred dogs have higher success rates when it comes to meeting girls: chihuahuas, golden retrievers and labs top the list of most attractive dogs.
Part 2 of 3: Meet the Girl on the Beach
Step 1. Get to know the beach
Find the perfect spot to spread out your mat and spend some time strolling and enjoying the sun. Look around for attractive girls, but do so in a friendly manner and without grinning. If you manage to get the girl's attention, nod and smile or say hello, then go back for a walk.
Step 2. Look like you're having fun
Strolling around the beach and posing in a towel may get people to see you, but it won't get you a date. You will look more attractive to girls when they see you playing and having fun. Play a game of throw and catch with your friends. Swim. Fly a kite. Start building sand castles. If you run into a girl while doing any of these activities, make it an opportunity to start a conversation.
Step 3. Invite the girl to play
Play frisbee or catch-up with your friends, or start building a sandcastle. If you see a girl watching you, smile and wave to ask her to join you. If he smiles back at you but doesn't walk right up to you, approach him and ask if he'd like to join you.
- Sometimes a girl will be shy and say, “No,” or, “I don't know,” but in an attitude that shows that she wants to play. If it looks like that (smiling and giggling are good signs), cheer the girl on. Sentences like, “Oh come on, you can do it,” or, “I guarantee you'll be able to throw spirals pretty cool,” will work well.
- If the girl says “No,” and doesn't seem interested or want to play, be aware of the signs and let her be. You will not accept a positive attitude if it is pushy or aggressive.
Step 4. “Accidentally” lose your frisbee or ball near the girl
Another way to get a girl's attention while playing is to deliberately throw the ball too fast, or fail to catch it so that the ball or frisbee falls near the girl and to pick it up, you have to approach the girl. Use this excuse to say hello and start a chat. (You can start by saying, "Sorry, my eyes were blinding in the sun." Or "My friend is not good at throwing…")
- Make sure your ball doesn't land right on the girl or drop her things. There's a line between awkwardly adorable and annoying.
- Dropping the kite near the girl is also a good way to break the ice, but make sure that you can control the kite, and don't crash the kite at the girl.
Step 5. Offer the girl a drink
Take a cooler filled with bottles of cold water to the beach. If you see a girl that catches your eye, approach her and say, "Hello, you look hot, I have more to drink, would you like?" If he says yes, give him a bottle and proceed to shake hands and introduce yourself. (“Hello, my name is Brad, you?”)
Step 6. Ask the girl to look after your belongings
This is a popular first step to getting to know girls on the beach, but to do so, you will have to part with your friends and go it alone. Once you're interested in a girl, collect your stuff and ask her if she can help look after stuff while you swim or surf. ("Hello, I'm going for a swim, could you take care of my things for a bit?") If the girl agrees, say something cute like, "Be careful, I heard there's a nasty sunscreen thief on the loose today."
- Swim or surf for 20 minutes before returning.
- When you get back, thank the girl and ask on a whim if there's a problem, or if she had a fight with a sunscreen thief. Make sure you express your gratitude for the help and take this opportunity to have a longer chat.
- If all goes well, ask for the girl's phone number. Better yet, ask him what he's going to do tonight. If he doesn't have any plans, make an appointment to meet a few hours from then.
Step 7. Don't be a scary sunscreen dab
There's an old-fashioned cliche that says that the best way to get to know a girl on the beach is to offer to put some sunscreen on her back. 99 out of 100 trials prove that you will look scary or cheesy, you will be avoided, even slapped! If you see a girl nearby who is wearing sunscreen, you can try to make eye contact and give her a chance to ask for your help, but don't flirt, and don't approach the girl unless there is a sign (smile, wave, or request). direct: “Can you help me?”) that he wants to ask you to approach him.
Also avoid introductions with, "May I fix your swimsuit?" This approach is described by some online dating sites as an approach that is guaranteed to fail badly. Remember, touching a girl who doesn't want to be touched is sexual harassment! Don't touch a girl's swimsuit without asking permission
Part 3 of 3: Starting a Chat
Step 1. Think about the context
A little more careful planning will make your attempts to start a chat more successful. Are you on a beach where most of the local people are? Or are you on a tourist beach where most people are from out of town? Do you know of a fun and interesting event that will give you the opportunity to invite the girl over that night? Do you know a good local restaurant or secret surf spot you can go with a girl?
- Check local movie listings and event calendars for ideas for activities for the evening.
- Find out about when the party will give you a chance to take the girl out.
Step 2. Start a chat
Whether you've caught a girl's attention during an activity or dared to approach her while surfing, at some point you have to start a conversation. The best way to chat at the beach is to keep things light and girl-centered. Start by asking if he is enjoying his day so far. (Hopefully he says yes; if he says no, ask him what's wrong.) Then continue your conversation depending on the type of beach you are on.
Step 3. If you're at a beach where the locals hang out, ask the girl if she's off today to go to the beach
Hopefully the answer will give you a chance to ask about his work. Ask him if he likes his job, or if his boss is nice. Look for clues about what he likes about the way he talks and ask lots of follow-up questions.
If it turns out that the girl is a student, ask about her studies and what she likes best, and so on
Step 4. If you are on a tourist beach, ask the girl if she is local or from out of town
If he's from out of town, ask him how long he's been and what he thinks of the city. Then ask how long he will stay, and if he still wants to go elsewhere. If the girl seems to enjoy chatting with you (smiles, laughs, and other signs of liking), offer to accompany her on a night out or to a favorite local spot.
Step 5. Ask this classic, “Do you come here often?
Try mixing it up a bit with other words like: “This is my favorite beach, what do you think?” Or you could try asking him about other beaches he likes or has been to and so on.
Step 6. Focus the conversation on the girl
Whatever you talk about, this is the first rule. Ask him what he likes, what his interests are, and so on. Make yourself mysterious unless he asks you directly, and you should be enthusiastic and interested in whatever the girl has to say.
