Connecting with your ex is a risky move that can hurt you again, but it can also give you the thrill of getting back together with someone you dated. If you want to start dating your ex again, that's one thing, but if you want to find out how to hook up with your ex, then it's a completely different game. To do so successfully, you have to keep things spontaneous, make sure both of you are on the same side and have fun without getting hurt. If you want to know how, just follow these steps.
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Method 1 of 3: Getting Ready to Have a Relationship with Your Ex-Girl
Step 1. Stay spontaneous
If you want to connect with your ex without being tied down and to have as much fun as possible, then you need to start being spontaneous. Don't call him or text him asking what he's doing. However, you should go to a club, party, or out during the day and start to get his attention and let him know that you want to hook up.
If you call him or start checking in with him, then he may misunderstand and think you want something more than hooking up. Treat her like meeting a new and nice woman at a bar and then take her home
Step 2. Let a considerable amount of time pass
If you want to start dating your ex, you'll need to wait at least a few weeks, otherwise months will pass before you start trying to hook up with your ex again. Even if you broke up amicably and mutually agreed and there are no more unhappy feelings, you should still wait after things turn back to normal before you try to go back to bed with your ex or things will get even more complicated.
- Allow enough time to pass so that you can view your ex as the sexy person you want to be with, rather than letting old complicated feelings or emotions come back when you see him.
- . Allow enough time to pass until you get rid of any lingering anger or resentment or hatred.
Step 3. Let him know that you want to hook up
After a considerable amount of time has passed and you meet your ex, you need to make it clear that you want to take him home. Don't say she's pretty and you miss her smile; however, say that she looks great in her new dress and that you miss her body. You don't have to be too subtle because you should be comfortable enough with the other person – just let him feel that way too.
- Don't give him a look like monkey love. Look her up and down and let her see that you think she looks sexy.
- Frankly. Invite him to come or wait to be invited to his place.
Step 4. Clearly state what you mean
Before you touch your ex's lips with yours, you should clearly state your intentions and expectations. Let them know that you want to be in a relationship without being tied down, that you don't want to date again and that you just want to have a little fun. Let him know that you only want to meet "to" connect, not do the usual things that continue to be in touch.
Don't be a loser. It's not cool to cheat on your ex, reconnect with him, "and then" say you don't want to reconnect
Step 5. Make sure that you guys are on the same side
Keep in mind that when you're about to hook up with an ex, "it's highly unlikely that both of you will be on the same side." It could be said, the case is almost always that one party will still feel pain, still mention and be emotionally hurt due to a breakup. It could be that he left you and you pretend he just wants to hook up when all you really want is back, or he's still totally dependent on you while you just want to fuck him. But if you both want the same thing, then it's pretty safe to move on.
- Look him in the eye when you talk about your relationship status. Does he really agree that it's a good idea or does he clearly think this will lead to something more?
- Think about how serious the relationship was at first. If you've only been dating for a month or two, then you're more likely to be okay with just being in a relationship than if you've been dating for a year or two.
- Make sure you both agree with dealing with other people as well. If not, why not just go back?
Method 2 of 3: Connecting with Your Ex-Girl
Step 1. Make sure you are “only” in touch
As harsh as it may sound, if you want to hook up with your ex, then you should "only" have sex with them.
Be honest about it. Don't make excuses every time your ex wants to go out in public with you. Tell him that you don't want anything more than a relationship
Step 2. Connect moderately
Hanging out with your ex can be fun and exciting, but that doesn't mean you have to do it every night, guess why? It will start to look like a courtship. If you're basically just hooking up with your ex, then you shouldn't allow yourself to meet other women or have any fun on the other side. The more time you spend together, the more likely you are to get hurt, so keep it fun and spontaneous instead of scheduling a date nightly.
Keep it fun and spontaneous. If you see her out, then take her home. If not, then don't call her or text her to find out where she is. Keeping it fun and spontaneous. If you meet him outside, then bring him home. If not, don't call him or text him to find out where he is. You shouldn't care that much, remember?
Step 3. Don't get too comfortable
It can be quite difficult to relate to an ex without feeling too comfortable.
No cuddles, no passionate kisses when you're about to leave, and no wandering around the house in wet pants eating cold nachos left over from the night before. All of these signs suggest that you're too comfortable in this no-relationship and you're on your way to dating again
Step 4. Stay in control
If you want to be in touch with your ex without any problems, then you need to be in control of the situation at all times. Don't let him set the terms of the relationship and try to just do it in his place so that you remain the ruler of your territory. Don't cancel your plans to travel with your best friend if she wants to travel; say that you will go out with him again when he is free.
This doesn't mean you have to tell your ex what to do; You should find a time and place that works for both of you, but you shouldn't fall prey to his needs
Step 5. Keep your new relationship private
Don't go out with your ex in front of your friends, go to a party with him because he doesn't want to be alone, or tell your friends that you're getting back together. The more people you involve, the more complicated this will all be, and you should keep it simple – just for the two of you.
- If you start out in public with him and travel with his friends, they will immediately disagree and tell your ex that he has to set the terms for this relationship.
- If you take him to his friends, he'll start to feel like your boyfriend again.
Step 6. Avoid "romantic" things when you are in a relationship
Maybe when you were in a previous date, you would be gentle with your woman, telling her how beautiful she is, how much you love her and how much you love her dimples. All your steps-Romeo must be removed at this point or he will misunderstand. He will think, “He said I was beautiful – he must still love me,” or “He stroked my hair with his hands – this must mean something.” By doing this, you will outwit him and make him feel like you still want to date him.
You can tell her how sexy she is and how much you love her body, but stick to it – not a soft compliment if you want to continue
Method 3 of 3: Knowing It's Time to Quit Relationships
Step 1. Stop if any of you start having feelings again
Unfortunately, it can be hard to stay in touch with your ex without having feelings for that person again. The moment that happens, you have to hit the exit button on this no-connection or things will start to get worse from then on. Unless you still really love your ex and are using a relationship move to win him back -- which happens to be a very bad idea -- you should either stop him in your second or he will start showing signs of being callous.
- If you're starting to feel hurt and pondering about what a good relationship you once had while knowing it wasn't going to work, then it's time to go.
- If your ex says he misses you, sends you sweet (not sexy) messages, or says he wants you to do dating stuff together, then it's time to step down.
- If you have to end your “relationship” for this reason, explain that first. You don't have to be a loser just because it's over.
Step 2. Stop if one of you starts liking someone else
If one of you starts to have feelings for the other person, even if you haven't pursued that person yet, you should end this relationship. Connecting with your ex is something you do when both of you want to act and are bored because there are some romantic expectations in your life. But if one of you starts liking the other person, it's time to stop being in touch so you have room to explore those feelings.
- If you find out your ex likes someone, you're doing him a disservice by continuing to be in a relationship and wasting his time.
- If you start liking another woman, she won't want to be with you if she finds out you're dating your ex.
Step 3. Stop if you get into a routine
Relationships with your ex should continue for a month or "at most" two months before things get more serious. Even though the two of you are trying your best to keep things normal, if you get into a rhythm, basically feel like you're dating, and know when you're going to see each other next, then it's time to stop being in a relationship. If you know when you will see each other again and you stop feeling the thrill of the hope of intercourse, then the fun is over.
Be realistic. You can't expect a relationship to last more than a month or two without moving on to something more
Step 4. Stop if you guys start fighting like a couple
If you guys start fighting again, you have to stop this relationship. If you're not actually dating, then you shouldn't be fighting. As simple as that. If you hear him say, “Where will this take us?” or “What does all this mean?” So he's starting to get back into the way of dating, and your intercourse sessions have gone a long way. You shouldn't fight over anything if one of you does something wrong, because you're supposed to be “just hooking up, right?
It might be tempting to get back into a fight with your ex once you're used to it, but remember that this will get you nowhere but back on track – a bad relationship
Step 5. Quit if you don't get pleasure
The whole point of being with your ex is so you can enjoy each other, have sexual pleasure, and have fun without being tied down. If you don't feel that connection anymore, if you feel like it's just an obligation, or if you're hooking up with your ex just because you're bored, then it's time to start looking for someone new. You didn't have fun before and that's why the relationship ended.
Be honest about ending the intercourse session. Don't just start avoiding or ignoring your ex. Let him know it's time to look ahead
Tips
- Be comfortable and make sure he feels the same way too.
- Slowly.
- Be fun and funny.
Warning
- Give it a room or they will leave.
- If you're always with them 24/7, they'll get bored (even in a genuine relationship).
