Dominatrix is a person who takes a dominant role in BDSM (bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism) sexual relationships. Even if someone plays the dominatrix professionally, you may just want to imitate them for fun. If you want, you can realize your partner's sexual fantasies for mutual pleasure. Good behavior, communication, and procedures are very crucial to make a relationship last, and prevent physical and mental injury for both parties.
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Method 1 of 3: Behave like a Dominatrix
Step 1. Decide what you are comfortable doing
A professional dominatrix may choose to limit sexual activity with the client or eliminate it altogether. However, there are also those who provide sexual services to their customers. Even if you want to role-play with your partner, it's important to set limits on what can be said and done. A dominatrix must feel comfortable and in control at all times.
If you want to become a professional dominatrix, it's important to know the risks. Even though you have taken various precautions, someone could be violent towards you. In addition, there is also a risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)
Step 2. Open your mind and don't judge others
If you choose to be a professional dominatrix, you shouldn't judge others. Your clients can come from a variety of different backgrounds, and have a variety of reasons to visit. Even if you are paid to be in control, treat each client with respect and understanding. Even when you are playing with your partner, you should respect their wishes.
For example, a client may say that he wants to be served because his desires are controlled in real life. Don't judge the reason because it is part of your responsibility
Step 3. Show a confident attitude
You can't dominate others unless you're good at being in control of situations. Focus on the fact that you are in control. Don't be afraid to say or do anything, as long as your partner agrees.
For example, at first you may feel embarrassed when you order a customer to be quiet or sit down. Don't hesitate, unless he feels uncomfortable
Step 4. Maintain an upright posture
Remember, you are in control. By maintaining your posture, you will subconsciously let your partner know that you are in control. Stand up straight and lift your head.
Step 5. Focus everything on yourself
It is important to emphasize that this is all about you and your satisfaction. If there are no special requests, do what you want to do, as long as it's not dangerous. This also applies to professionally hired dominatrix.
Method 2 of 3: Role Playing
Step 1. Have a professional dominatrix teach you
This isn't necessary if you just want to role-play with your partner, as you can find references through videos and books. If you want to become a professional dominatrix, it can be very helpful to ask an expert for lessons. Your mentor can teach you how to protect yourself, negotiate, and teach you how to behave properly.
Step 2. Practice verbal communication
The behavior of a dominatrix is paramount, but words also play a role. Practice telling people and speaking confidently. This may seem funny at first, but you'll get used to it over time. Watch videos of professional dominatrixes to find out how they talk.
Step 3. Make a list of things to do while you're in the dominatrix role
There is a large role-playing component to this art. Practice regularly so you don't get nervous about the role being played. Create a practice schedule and practice so that it's easy for you to live up to the appearance of a dominatrix.
- You can watch videos of professional dominatrixes for ideas.
- Ask your partner if they have any particular desires. Include those desires in your exercise list.
Step 4. Purchase and learn how to use various accessories
The use of accessories is essential to the BDSM action. A whip, blindfold, bat, rope, and handcuffs are some of the common accessories used by dominatrixes. You can order these accessories online or buy them at a sex shop. Make sure you and your partner are comfortable with the accessories you are wearing.
Some other accessories that can be used are harnesses, neck straps, and chastity belts
Step 5. Turn ordinary objects into accessories
If you can't afford accessories, turn things around you into BDSM accessories. For example, you can wear a belt, tie, or blindfold to sleep. Be sure to get permission to use them if they belong to your partner.
Step 6. Practice using accessories
You need to learn to use accessories properly. For example, you should practice with a whip to determine the extent of the pain in the client's skin without leaving a scar. Practice using the accessories you have and study their characteristics before using them.
Do not use too much force. Too excited can actually result in injury
Step 7. Set a password with a partner
Usually, the person who becomes the submissive has a password to hold or stop the dominatrix in the middle of the action. Ask your partner or client for a password so you know when to stop. For example, the word used could be “Purple”. Over time, you can "adjust" the password you use so that it doesn't interfere with the action.
Step 8. Be sensitive to your partner's needs
Bully your partner and take full control. However, be responsive to his requests. In addition to being responsive, you should also stop when your partner or client appears to be in pain or is unconscious. A little pain is okay, but your partner shouldn't be seriously hurt.
Method 3 of 3: Dress Like A Dominatrix
Step 1. Buy a costume that makes you feel confident wearing it
Black leotards that cover the whole body are the standard in this industry. Make sure your shirt is made of latex or leather. If you don't want to wear the costume, wear sexy underwear or a black dress. Your partner may also ask you to wear certain clothes.
- Leather clothing should be used only in the room, not for activities.
- There is a difference between a “dominant” lifestyle and fetishism, but the black rubber shirt has become an icon for both communities.
Step 2. Buy high heels
Thigh-high stiletto boots are usually worn by a dominatrix. Like a rubber suit, these boots are known as a dominatrix icon by the public. Platform shoes and stilettos can also be worn. You can also replace them with black flat boots if you can't wear heels.
Step 3. Put on a corset
A corset is a tight underwear (usually worn as a top) that can shape (and hold) your body. A strappy corset has become the standard for fetishism. Bustler shirts can also be worn as an alternative. This shirt should be worn with underwear or gowns, not rubber garments.
Step 4. Choose another sexy accessory
Net or plain stockings are standard accessories that go well with dresses and undergarments. You can also wear gloves that cover your fingers or that reach up to your elbows. If showing some of your identity can boost your confidence, wear a mask that shows half of your face.
Tips
- Toys and sex toys are an important part of the dominatrix world. If you are confused about what to buy, come to the nearest sex shop to have a look.
- Always clean all toys after use.
- If you wear latex clothes, remember to buy special items to keep them in good condition. Necessary items include disposable aids, cleaning spray, disinfection liquid and silicone oil for washing clothes after use.
Warning
- Most dominatrix clothes are made of PVC (polyvinyl chloride). This material is a toxic plastic. Try to avoid wearing clothes made of this material.
- Don't be rude to your partner. Stop when he says the agreed password.
