There are many things we want in everyday life. There are desires that we can fulfill on our own, but sometimes, we need the help of others, such as parents or co-workers. A good way to make a wish come true is to define what you want and understand how to get it done or ask someone else for help.
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Part 1 of 3: Formulating a Wish
Step 1. Determine the virtues that you believe in
Make sure you know what's most important when you go about your daily life so that your life goes the way you want it to. The things you want must be in harmony with these virtues. Otherwise, your wish will be difficult to come true or you will need to sacrifice something important to make it happen.
The conflict was not clearly felt at first. For example, if you want to start a business, this plan will take up a lot of time. If you place a high priority on being with family members, the plan will put you in conflict
Step 2. Be specific about what you want
Formulating a general desire, such as "richer" or "healthier" is a good start, but the more detailed the better. Define success clearly and define quantitative targets to be achieved. This step helps you measure how far you are progressing and determine the steps you need to take to reach your goal.
For example, instead of setting a general goal, such as "being healthier", set a specific goal, for example, "I can run 10 km in 1 month" or "I lost 8 kg in 2 months"
Step 3. Write down your wish
Explain why you want something so that it feels more concrete and easier to remember. Also, you can make sure that you really want it or that something else is more important.
Step 4. Tell yourself that you deserve it
Many people, especially women, don't have desires because they feel they can't or don't deserve them. If you experience this, think about why. By reflecting and being aware of your fears, you will be able to determine the steps to take to make your wishes come true.
Don't be distracted by other people's desires and problems. Everyone has different backgrounds, boundaries, and desires. Understanding what you want as a personal preference is an important step towards making your wish come true
Step 5. Do new things
There may be something you want, but haven't thought of yet. Be ready to accept new things, such as achievements, jobs, new experiences, or anything that is useful to broaden your horizons and change your perspective about other people.
Listen to other people's suggestions about new, useful activities, such as taking a skills course or being outdoors. Who knows, you may find a new hobby or purpose in life that you haven't thought of yet
Part 2 of 3: Taking Action
Step 1. Clear doubts
Many people do nothing because they doubt his abilities. Make sure this doesn't stop you from broadening your horizons and overcoming doubts.
Step 2. Get in the habit of saving
Many desires require funding, such as buying property, learning a new skill, or starting a business. Calculate the cost of doing new things and make a financial budget.
- If you want to buy expensive items or engage in high-cost activities, start saving every month or every week so that the funds are available when you need them. If done regularly, this step will help you form good habits when it comes to saving and spending money.
- Instead of just considering the need for funds, calculate the amount of expenses that you have been doing. If there are expenses that can be reduced so that the funds can be saved, start saving and saving.
Step 3. Develop a work plan
After defining what you want, decide how to make it happen.
- Find out the possibility of an obstacle or problem and then anticipate it by determining how to overcome it. This is an opportunity to beat the doubts that often trigger pessimism. Constraints can occur due to lack of funds, time, skills, or support from others.
- Set a realistic schedule so that wishes can come true. This step keeps you focused on the goal, by doing activities that are easy to complete, instead of wanting to reach the end goal all at once. For example, if you want to lose 8 kg in 2 months, start by setting a goal to lose 2 kg in 2 weeks. This method is better than a crash diet because you want to lose 8 kg in 2 weeks.
- Make a work plan with clear deadlines. You'll stay focused and eager to make your dreams come true if you have clear deadlines and schedules. In addition, you stay focused on the end goal.
- Execute the plan consistently. Many people fail because they give up too soon. Obstacles are common when achieving success. Execute the plan as best you can and keep trying even if you face difficulties.
Step 4. Learn to accept failure
Sometimes, plans do not go smoothly so the target is not achieved. Instead of deciding to quit, take this opportunity to look for other ways with better prospects.
For example, you're saving to invest, but the property you want to buy sells out when funds become available. Instead of feeling disappointed, you can buy property in another or more strategic location. Alternatively, wait until a better property becomes available
Part 3 of 3: Asking Others for Help
Step 1. Ask for help
The other person doesn't know what you're thinking and he won't ask until you tell him you need something. People are usually ready to help, especially to friends or family members.
- Ask for help directly. Instead of calling or emailing, it's a good idea to meet in person for help. Usually, people feel reluctant to refuse if asked for help directly.
- Provide detailed information. When asking for help, be clear about what you want and when you need help. Provide a specific schedule, instead of using ambiguous words, such as "as soon as possible". A clear request shows that you've thought through what you want and what help you need.
Step 2. Show enthusiasm
Your wish is certainly very pleasing to you. Show him that your wishes mean a lot to you so he doesn't refuse. If you're excited when you talk to him, he's also excited and willing to help because enthusiasm is contagious.
Step 3. Try to lighten the task
Usually, other people are reluctant to help if they have to do all your work. Make requests clearly and unambiguously. Explain the help you need so he knows that you don't want to burden other people.
In addition to asking others for help, ask for information so you can do the work yourself. If you want to improve your job performance, the person you ask for help may simply explain how to use a particular program, instead of teaching you
Step 4. Promise a return
If someone wants to help you, return the favor, for example by offering to help or paying off debt if you borrow money.
- In return for a friend or coworker, offer to buy him lunch or do something good in another way. When working in the office, reward coworkers by helping them complete tasks.
- Small children or teenagers who ask their parents for something can still provide something in return, for example promising to wash the dishes after dinner or improve their test scores.
Step 5. Prepare for rejection
Sometimes, the person you are asking for help refuses your request or needs to be convinced to help. Think about the reasons he might give and then prepare a response. He may give you the reasons you've thought of so that you're ready to respond.
- If he refuses, ask why. Ask for an explanation if the answer is ambiguous or non-specific. Ask, "Is there anything I can do?" is a way of knowing the real reason and turning resistance into a willingness to help.
- Don't whine or make fun of him. People who don't want to help are not bad people. Negative responses discourage others from helping you.
Step 6. Say thank you
Don't forget to sincerely thank the person who helped or gave you something. State specifically what he did so that you thank him. This behavior makes other people willing to help you in the future.
