Chatting with a girl over the phone can be a great way to get her to fall in love with you. By talking on the phone, you don't need to use body language and make eye contact like you're chatting face to face. Plus, you can pay more attention to what he's saying while making a good impression of yourself by showing your humor and your ability to listen to other people.
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Method 1 of 5: Prepare Before Calling
Step 1. Determine the right time to chat
You don't have to set a specific time if you want to call a girl. Find the right time so you can have a long chat with him without rushing. He'll wonder why you're calling if you don't have enough time to chat.
If this girl isn't ready to chat when you call, ask when you can call her again. Maybe he is at work or has an appointment. Let him decide the time and don't forget to call him again
Step 2. Find the best location
You should find the best location before calling. Don't call if you are still on the bus or in a crowd of people. It would be very difficult to hear voice on the phone in these conditions. Worse yet, your phone connection can be disconnected and can not be connected again.
Step 3. Clear your throat
Don't start chatting in a hoarse voice because it will sound weird. Clear your throat or cough first so that your voice is clear again.
Your speech will be difficult to understand if you have a severe cold and your nose is blocked. It's okay to call just to say hello to this girl, but don't chat too long. End the conversation by saying that you'd like to rest so that you'll be well again when you see him
Step 4. Don't chat while eating
The sound of someone eating can be very disturbing to others. The phone can make the sound of someone biting a pizza or sipping milk coffee. This girl will also have a hard time understanding what you are saying if you are talking while you are busy chewing food.
Step 5. Don't wait 3 days before calling
There is advice that suggests that you call a girl 3 days after getting her number. This advice is really bad. Show your interest in him by calling whenever you want. You can call him one day after meeting. If he waits too long, he will become irritated and feel that you are not important.
Method 2 of 5: Calling in a Nice Voice
Step 1. Deepen your voice a little
With a slightly deeper voice, your speech will be easier to understand. Also, listening to deeper sounds is more comfortable and relaxing. Keep your voice soft, calm, and friendly.
Try modulating your voice so it doesn't sound like you're screaming. Of course you're welcome to shout if you need to, but excessive empathy on the phone can be misunderstood
Step 2. Don't speak too fast or too slow
Try to make the girl you're chatting with understand what you're saying. Slow down your speech to a normal tempo (but don't go so slow that it sounds weird either). Speak in a relaxed, calm voice.
Step 3. Try smiling on the phone
Even though this girl can't see you, she can still hear your smiling voice when you talk. Relax your body and sit comfortably while you chat on the phone. Smile if the story is funny or when you tell a story.
Try recording your voice smiling and not smiling and observe the difference
Method 3 of 5: Chatting
Step 1. Find a light and funny topic of conversation
Use your sense of humor to make jokes and tell funny stories. Talk about the fun people you met or the funniest things you've ever had.
- Don't joke so much that you just keep making jokes. Don't forget, this girl just got to know you. So make him believe what you say.
- You can tease him a little, but don't be rude. You should pay close attention to the response he gives. If the attitude is cold, don't continue.
Step 2. Talk about small things
You're not going to succeed in attracting a girl if your chats are on heavy or controversial topics. Choose light topics like movies or travel.
You can also chat by discussing past conversations
Step 3. Discuss polite things in your chat
When you're just getting to know a girl, you certainly don't want her to feel offended or uncomfortable because of rude conversation. You will seem scary and he will turn off the phone.
If you want to build a relationship with him further, you can discuss things that are more risky as long as he is comfortable with this conversation. But for now, talk about polite stuff
Step 4. Discuss your experiences with each other
You two just met and exchanged phone numbers. Therefore, you can make the first meeting the right topic of conversation. Discuss the fun things you both saw each other or about the people he was with at the time.
Show your interest in his life, but be careful if you want to ask about his friends. This question can lead him to misunderstand and think you are more attracted to his friends than to him
Step 5. Make an appointment to see each other again
Use this calling opportunity for two purposes. You want to make friends and want to get to know this girl better because you like her personally. You can make an appointment over the phone so you can meet him.
Make a light joke. If this girl asks you to meet at 3, tell her, “I don't have time to talk to you all day. We'll meet at 3 minutes past 3, okay!"
Step 6. Be yourself
This sentence sounds cliché, but try to be yourself. Phone conversations can reveal if you're pushing yourself too hard or pretending to be. Just relax and try to be real.
Method 4 of 5: Focusing Attention on the Girl You Like
Step 1. Give praise
Everyone will feel happy when they hear positive things about themselves. Give compliments to make the girl you like feel good about herself. Give him credit for his sense of humor, hairstyle, work success, and so on.
There are people who feel uncomfortable being praised too much. Give him small but meaningful compliments, and don't overdo it
Step 2. Say this girl's name from time to time during a chat
Make this phone call feel more personal by saying his name every now and then. Don't start each sentence by saying his name, but greet him naturally during a conversation so that he feels special.
Step 3. Listen to what this girl has to say
It's hard to convince someone that you're listening to what they're saying if you can't make eye contact with them and use body language. However, you can use other ways to show that you are listening to what he has to say. Give support or respond to the statement by saying, "Oh, is that so?" or “Okay!”
This girl will want to keep talking if you pay attention to her words
Step 4. Avoid distractions during the chat
Keep your conversation with this girl going by focusing on her. Don't check email or browse the internet while chatting. He'll know if your attention shifts. Also, there's the impression that you don't want to give him your full attention.
Method 5 of 5: Sending SMS
Step 1. Send jokes via SMS
If this girl gave you her cell phone number herself, the best way to start texting is by sending a story that will be funny to both of you. The SMS you send can contain stories about funny events that you have experienced together.
Don't send boring texts asking, "How are you?" because it's possible that you too will get a boring reply and he will not feel attracted to you
Step 2. Mention the details
Send SMS with specific details of the time the two of you met in person. For example, you could say, "I really liked seeing you in that red dress." This girl will feel special because you remember the incident in detail.
Step 3. Do not send SMS that are too long
This girl will feel depressed if you keep sending 20 texts all day long. Just 3 or 4 times sending short SMS and replying SMS several times.
Step 4. Don't just rely on SMS
Texting can be very helpful if you want to have other interactions such as meeting in person or talking on the phone. Texting can also help you attract someone, but don't let texting be the only way. Even if you're shy, try to get to know the girl you like by talking over the phone or meeting in person.
Step 5. Don't be disappointed if this girl doesn't text you back
Maybe he is at work or busy with other activities and can't always reply right away. It's also possible that he doesn't like texting and prefers to chat on the phone. Try to read between the lines of the SMS he sends you and don't take this as a personal matter.
