Asking for the phone number of a girl you like is not as easy as turning your palms, especially since you can't predict her response, and are faced with the dreaded shadow of rejection. However, if you really like him and want to get closer to him, asking for his phone number is an important first step!
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Part 1 of 3: Preparing to Ask
Step 1. Realize that he may refuse your request
Just because you ask for it doesn't mean he has to give it. Realize that there are many reasons behind his refusal.
- By realizing it, it could be that your confidence will actually increase. His refusal was the worst that could happen! Even though your mind is already filled with dozens of far-fetched fears, in fact, her saying “no” is the worst thing that could possibly happen.
- Be prepared to accept rejection. Rejection hurts. But if you've prepared yourself to accept it, at least the activity of "asking for a phone number" no longer feels that scary.
Step 2. Build your courage
High self-confidence, in addition to making you look more attractive, will also make you more comfortable asking for his phone number. Read the article on how to be confident for the specific steps.
- The best way to increase your confidence in a situation is to put things in the right perspective. Asking for her phone number is not easy and scary, but will the same feelings haunt you forever?
- Remember, rejection is possible, and you can definitely deal with it. However, don't immediately assume that you will definitely receive a rejection.
- As silly as this suggestion may sound, try standing in Superman pose for a few minutes before you ask for his number. Some experts believe that this pose can increase your self-confidence.
Step 3. Try asking your friend for help to explore the girl's interest
If you're really worried about the response, try asking someone else to say your name in front of them. Unless he admits he has absolutely no interest in you, don't let his answer overwhelm you. However, the chances of him thinking about or being attracted to you are very slim if you never talk to him.
- Make sure you ask a trusted friend for help. Surely you don't want to be portrayed as scary or annoying by the wrong friends, do you? Your friend should have the ability to explore their interests in an implicit way.
- Chances are, he'll appreciate it much more if you ask him for his number right away. On the one hand, applying this method can help increase your confidence. But on the other hand, doing so can also add unnecessary anxiety or worry.
Step 4. Remember, asking for a phone number is not the same as applying
Just because you have her number doesn't mean you're free to travel or date her. Asking for his number is just one way to get in touch with him more closely. Who knows the relationship could move in a more serious direction over time, right?
Understanding this can help boost your self-confidence, as well as reduce the annoying impression of intimidation. Even though you are attracted to him, it doesn't mean that your relationship should develop into a romantic relationship soon after
Part 2 of 3: Asking for His Phone Number
Step 1. Approach him and have a conversation with him
Remember, don't ask for the phone number right away! Try to lead him to a light, fun conversation first; For example, talk to him about a movie you both watched recently, or ask him how he was that day. Basically, you can talk to him about anything, but make sure you choose something light and fun.
- Talking to him helps you assess his attraction to you. If his response is short and unfriendly, he likely isn't interested in you. It's best if he gives a long, friendly response (and if he asks follow-up questions), you're more likely to succeed in getting him interested.
- If he laughs at your jokes (including ones you know aren't funny), it's a sign that he's really interested in you and hopes you'll ask for his number.
Step 2. Find activities that you can relate to outside of school, work, etc
For example, try telling him that you are having a hard time with your math homework, and ask if he would like to help you with it. If he's a co-worker, try saying that you'd like to take him out to dinner or coffee someday.
Again, observe his response to your invitation. Observe simple things like her smile, the look of interest in her eyes, or the way she runs her fingers through her hair. All three are body language that confirms his attraction to you
Step 3. Ask for the phone number
Don't dwell on the same topic for too long, or you'll look unsure. Trust me, you can convey it as easily as, “Can I have your number?”. People tend to go in circles worrying about the impact it will have on their future relationships. Though things will feel much simpler if you are willing to speak frankly.
- Trust me, the only panacea for your stress is to ask the question bluntly. Asking it directly will be much easier than trying to ask it from a friend or classmate.
- Speak clearly when asking for his number. Remember, these questions are at the heart of your conversation; so don't hesitate to speak clearly and confidently! Don't make him repeat your question.
Part 3 of 3: Calling Him for the First Time
Step 1. Send a short message
Instead of calling directly, it would be more polite and ethical if you send a short message first. Compared to the telephone, text messages are a less intimidating form of communication. Try starting the conversation by discussing your last meeting.
- Don't just send a short greeting like, "Hey." As the first contact person, you have full responsibility to start the communication process with words that can be developed into interesting conversations.
- When you call him for the first time, show him that you're a fun person without pretending to be someone else. Make sure you also start the conversation with light and fun topics.
Step 2. Remember, you don't have to ask her out right away
Just because he gives you his phone number doesn't mean he wants to be romantically involved with you. He may just be reluctant to reject you or see you as a friendly person.
Keep the frequency of communication to assess his interest in you. In addition to trying to get him to communicate in person at school or work, try to keep texting him or calling him regularly
Step 3. Don't jump into topics that are too heavy or controversial
At least until you really get to know him, keep the topic light and neutral. Some interesting topics to discuss are:
- TV shows
- Film
- Family
- Dreams and aspirations
- Joke
Step 4. When the time is right, and if you feel like it, try asking her out
You asked for his number because you had more interest, didn't you? If so, don't wait too long to ask her out. It could be, this is the first step to explore a more serious relationship with him.
Tips
- If you call him, give him a chance to talk.
- If he puts a kiss emoticon at the end of his message, it means he wants you to too! Pay close attention to the number of emoticons you send, maybe his friends will analyze your feelings through these emoticons!
- If the conversation between the two of you seems stuck, DO NOT bring up school or other academic topics! Instead, try cracking jokes or finding excuses to leave the conversation; for example, just let them know you're busy and will call them back later.
- If you don't want the conversation situation to feel awkward, make sure you talk about a topic that interests him.
- Don't wait too long to ask her out or take the relationship in a more serious direction. Remember, women hate waiting too long. But on the other hand, don't act hastily either!
Warning
- Always pay attention to your surroundings when sending messages! Busy texting on the highway or in a public place can annoy other people, as well as put yourself in danger.
- If your message is never replied to, it could be that the one he gave was a fake number. Accept that fact and move on!
