This article is a guide to seducing girls in high school. Whether you're still in school or want to go back to school, the way to seduce girls all over the world is the same: be confident, radiate charm, and have a good conversation. The way you talk to your crush girl should be the same way you talk to your mother, aunt, brother or sister, female cousin, and not the way you talk to your male friends.
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Part 1 of 2: Making a Seduction
Step 1. Approach the girl you like and come up with an appropriate topic
This is the most difficult part of seducing a girl. Try not to be nervous; don't let yourself look stuttering or sweaty. You have to feel confident to be confident.
- Say something appropriate when you start a conversation. In the back of his mind, he may know that you're talking to him because he looks pretty, but you have to pretend you have a reason to talk to him.
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As long as your conversation still makes sense even if you suddenly talk about it, just do:
- Don't start with cheesy flirting like "If I were a traffic light, I'd turn on a red light when you cross, so I can see you longer". Let's face it: it rarely works. Raise the odds by starting a conversation that is casual.
- You can say “Uh, you're in class A and B, right? My class is really dry, so I think I'd like to transfer there if I can. How's it going there?"
- Or you could try saying: “Hey, I saw you cheerleading last Friday when our soccer team played. When will there be another match?”
Step 2. Choose a topic of conversation
Once you've introduced yourself to him, choose a topic to talk about. It's fine to walk up to him and talk to him, but if you don't have a topic to talk about, your conversation will quickly become awkward.
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Try indirect topics of conversation. What he means is when you start talking to him without telling him that he's really pretty. Remember to be confident.
- "I need a girl's point of view on this matter. I just had a chat with my friend who just broke up with her boyfriend. The problem is, the girl keeps calling my friend. Why do you think she did that?"
- Or: “Maybe you can help me. I'm new here and I don't know any good places to hang out. On holidays, what do you and your friends usually do?”
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If you can be more confident, try a direct approach. Keep in mind that this approach can backfire on you, but it can also impress your girl.
- “I don't usually say this, but you're the most beautiful girl I've seen since…3 minutes ago. Hello, I'm [your name]”.
- “Sorry to interrupt, but you are too beautiful to be alone. Do you mind if I accompany you for a little walk?”
Step 3. Try using praise as a starting topic
Everyone loves compliments. If your compliments are good, and you don't overdo it, you can really impress your girl.
- "Hi, your earrings are really nice. Did you make it yourself?”
- "Hi, that dress is really cute, did you make it yourself?"
- "Hi, I see from afar the color of your dress matches the color of your eyes. You're good at choosing colors."
- Whatever you do, the main rule is never to talk about feminine body parts. Most girls don't like it when you talk about their chest or butt. So don't frustrate yourself; compliment her hair, eyes, lips, or clothes.
Step 4. Don't overdo it
Being able to chat with your crush is a great start, but don't ask too many questions on your first meeting. Keep the conversation as light as possible, and as fast as possible. Walk away after five minutes or less.
- If your conversation is getting more and more awkward, don't hesitate to say: “Nice to talk to you. We'll talk later, okay?"
- If the conversation goes well-he laughs and his eyes tease you-ask for his number. Just say, “Hey, can I have your number, please? Maybe we can hang out after class."
Step 5. Keep talking to him around the school
Luckily, one conversation won't make the impression on you. If you can't impress him the first time you meet him, keep going and having a chat with him. If you do, he will surely melt. Don't talk about autos, etc. until he discusses it himself, because he will be annoyed.
- Ask questions to keep him talking: “How was your school?” "Do you have any plans where you want to go to college?" "Which place to hang out is more slang?"
- Make up a funny story or joke. Girls like guys who have a sense of humor. Make jokes that are light, even a little sarcastic. If he jokes about insulting you, don't take it too seriously and don't be afraid to laugh at yourself.
- Always there when he needs you. When he takes part in a swimming competition or he competes in a debate competition, show that you care about him by attending these competitions. If he clearly says he doesn't want you to watch it, don't do this. However, if he seems happy, you will increase your chances of dating him.
Step 6. Don't assume that the girl you have a crush on is a perfect human being
One of the biggest mistakes guys make when talking to girls is to pay attention to her and forget about themselves. On the other hand, girls actually want to know how great you are. Don't brag about yourself, but understand that it's okay to talk about cool things you do (like guitar, sports, photography, work, etc.). There has to be a balance between the two of you.
Just because you adore a girl, doesn't mean she will adore you too. Just as you adore beautiful girls, he only adore attractive men. So, show that you are an attractive person with your interests, beliefs, values, and hobbies
Step 7. Ask him out on a date
The biggest mistake men make is not asking the girl they love on a date or never asking for her number. Girls will not try to take the relationship to the next stage. You are the one who has to keep trying to continue the relationship you have with the girl.
- Take the relationship to the next physical stage from making secret handshakes to tickling each other to hugging each other to kissing.
- Take the relationship to the next level verbally by getting his number and chatting on the phone; if you're too shy to do so, ask his Facebook account.
- Many guys never ask a girl's phone number. While the girl will take it as a sign that the guy doesn't like her. Don't get caught up in this scenario.
Part 2 of 2: Improving Your Quality
Step 1. Get stylish
Having a good fashion sense and maintaining personal hygiene are two important things to determine how attractive you are to the girls at school. If you're wearing a striped sweater, oversized jeans, and tennis shoes, it's time for a change. Get your hair done, buy some shirts that fit your body, and start wearing nice shoes.
- Always looks clean. Girls really like clean guys. Shower regularly, brush your teeth twice a day. You have to smell good to impress him.
- Buy or look for pants or jeans below the waist with a slim fit model. If you're a chubby guy, looser pants might work better (but don't let you look like you're drowning in your clothes). Skinny jeans that feel tight and really show the curves of your legs might not be the right choice, unless you're sure you're going to make them look good on you.
- Buy or look for some neat collared shirts. You don't have to buy a shirt with a dragon print or tribal print to impress the girl you have a crush on. A plaid, one color, or striped shirt doesn't matter.
- Buy a sweater or jacket that is soft and simple. Make excuses for girls to approach you. V-neck collars are fashionable these days. T-shirts and hoodies are fine too. Wear clothes that look good on you.
- Cut your hair. Yes, you may have to spend IDR 200,000 for a haircut. However, the money you spend will be worth the results. Check out magazines like GQ magazine or Vanity Fair and bring along a photo of someone who has a haircut you like.
Step 2. Be friendly
Girls are naturally attracted to guys who have “social proof”. To get “social proof”, you have to be “popular”, meaning you have to have lots of friends. That's why you should talk a lot and get to know people at school, in class, and in other places. Always smile and laugh. Try to have fun with everyone. If you don't look like you're having fun, the girls won't like you.
- Get involved in activities that interest you. High school can be a tough phase for us as we are still figuring out what we are interested in and what we are not. If you have a hobby, interest, or curiosity, find someone else with the same passion. Chances are, you'll be able to get along with them.
- Help others. Don't let other people take advantage of you, but help people who seem trustworthy and respect someone. Your social status will increase rapidly.
- Do something else outside of school. Men who are connected with social life outside of school will look more attractive to many people (male and female) because the school environment usually does not have the same spirit and atmosphere.
Step 3. Maintain trust
Girls like men who have a purpose in life and stand up for their beliefs. If a girl hurts you, don't just accept it. Tell him it's not a good thing to do, and stay away from him. However, don't be a jerk, say it like you're advising your sister. Your words won't offend, but you can make sure they're doing the right thing.
Step 4. Don't be afraid to be rejected
Of course rejection is hard: No one wants to feel unattractive, and rejected love makes us feel that way. However, rejected love is a part of life.
- Don't hang all your hopes on a girl. You can expect a lot from him once you've been with him, if you can get that far. However, doing it too early is not good.
- If you're never rejected, it means you're not trying. A normal man-a man who wasn't named Duke Dolken or Nicholas Saputra-must have been rejected by a girl. If you're never rejected, you're not really trying.
- Keep trying. Get back up when a girl knocks you down. If you just keep your chin up and grieve over your problems, and let your self-esteem plummet, you'll become less attractive to other girls. Try to always be happy and thick skin.
Tips
- Don't bother him all the time. If you've reached the “become a friend” stage, don't text him 24 hours a day or text him every time he's online. Many friends and potential lovers will back down if you do.
- Keep in mind, always be a friendly person. Don't be overly angry or appear rude. Don't look like a coward or weak person. Have fun with lots of people and always remember to be stylish.
- Make your goals clear and to the point, if you're afraid that another guy has a crush on him. Don't hide the feeling that you like him, because he won't understand it and someone else will take it away from you.
- Someone you never thought could be your soul mate.
- Be sure to find common ground and use those similarities to start a conversation.
- Build a relationship with no rush. Don't immediately put your feelings on one person, because you'll look desperate or you'll be stuck with the wrong person.
Warning
- Be careful not to insult the girl you have a crush on when you joke with her. Girls in high school are in an insecure phase, so you have to be careful. Remember that girls will laugh at themselves and joke around but they will turn away and say you are a bad guy.
- If he blocks you on social media, it means he doesn't like you.
