Every human being must have a desire to establish social relationships with the people around him. If you are an individual who has a lot of friends, congratulations! But are they really your true friends? Is it true that they're not just using your 'friend' status to take advantage of you? Read this article to find the answer!
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Part 1 of 2: Assessing the Depth of Friendship
Step 1. Recall the process of introducing the two of you
- How was the meeting process between the two of you? Did the introduction happen by accident or did he deliberately come over to ask you to get acquainted? Does he look friendly when he does it?
- Does he always greet you? Or does he want to come over and have a chat with you?
- If he's not that open with you (and if your first meeting wasn't all that great), he's likely just seeing you as a casual acquaintance and not interested in deeper friendships at that point.
Step 2. Identify the level of intimacy between the two of you
- Is he talking to you just because he really wants to? Or are his communication efforts always imbued with a certain purpose?
- Can you believe it? Do you feel close to him?
Step 3. Think about who made the plans
Are you always the one making the plans? Does he always comply with your invitations? If he truly loves you as a friend, he should always try to fulfill your request. Don't justify his refusal by thinking, “Oh, maybe he's busy,”; if he refuses your invitations too often, he's most likely sending an implicit signal that means 'I'm not taking this friendship very seriously'.
Step 4. Think about his reaction when you need help
When you're having trouble, does he seem caring and supportive of you? A true friend will feel sad if you are sad and are willing to offer any help and support you need. Your problem is also his problem; that's why he feels like he has to be there to help you work things out.
Part 2 of 2: Knowing if You're Being Taken Away
Step 1. Consider the possibility that you are being taken advantage of
Sometimes, there are people who don't really want to be friends with you; This bad intention is what they then hide behind the status of 'friends'. For example:
- Does he only want to travel with you when you have something he wants? For example, he might suddenly come when you're having a birthday party at a fancy restaurant, even though he usually says he's 'too busy' to come.
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Does he only want to travel with you when you're the one paying for everything?
If you answered 'yes' to all of the questions above, you can be sure that the person is just taking advantage of you and is not being sincere with you
Step 2. Identify what he or she might want
Some of the possibilities are connections, abilities, knowledge, or something of great value.
Step 3. Pretend you can't fulfill her wish
For example, if he wants to ride your new expensive car, try saying that you want to trade him for a cheaper and more economical car. Show as if you are in control to resist his wishes.
Step 4. Observe the reaction
A good friend will always respect your opinion and won't break off a friendship just because of a difference of opinion. On the other hand, a fake friend will try to change your decision or cut off contact with you in the event of a disagreement; his unhappiness is a sign that he is just taking advantage of you.
Tips
- A true friend will not get angry easily or make up excuses just to avoid you.
- A true friend will always be by your side and support you in all situations.
- A true friend will always be by your side. While there will always be people who come and go in your life, they will always be there to support you mentally and emotionally.
- If he invites you to an event, accept the invitation if possible!
- If he doesn't really love you, learn to forgive and forget about his ugliness! Go on with your life as best you can; after all there are still many people out there who are willing to love and be your friend.
- If he calls you a 'best friend' but never gives his support, it means he's not really your friend.
- Remember, a true friend will always listen to you.
- A good friend will always care about whatever you have to say.
- A true friend will always be by your side no matter what; they will always be there when needed.
- Observe the way they communicate. If he's constantly complaining and trying to dominate the conversation, chances are he's just taking advantage of you.
