The way a guy treats you can show what he thinks of you. Does he see you as a potential girlfriend or just a friend? Does he like you or just think of you like any other friend? There are several methods to find out if a guy wants to be your girlfriend. Her body language and the way she communicates can be a sign, but it's best to ask her directly.
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Method 1 of 3: Interpreting the Way it Communicates
Step 1. Listen to how it calls you
If he calls you friendly or gives you a nickname like a guy, it means he is comfortable around you. Also, if he calls another friend by the same name, you may be seen as nothing more than a close friend. Quirky and seductive nicknames – such as sweetie, baby, or cute one – can show that he is romantically attracted to you.
- Some commonly used platonic nicknames are dude, man, bro, and sist.
- Some seductive nicknames are babe, sweetie, sweetie, funny, and sweetheart.
Step 2. Pay attention to what he is talking about
If the topic of conversation revolves around sports, humor, vehicles, or games, then he's treating you platonic. If he shares his deepest fears or secrets, he may be opening up in a way that he doesn't with the rest of his friends.
If he's interested, he may leave specific comments about your body and sexually suggestive things. If his sexual comments refer to other women or women in general, he may just see you as a friend
Step 3. Remember how many times he initiated the conversation
If he doesn't start texting or starting a conversation, he just seems to think of you as a friend. However, if he's constantly texting, calling, and asking to see you, it could be a sign that he wants to be closer to you.
- If he texts early in the morning, as well as at night before going to bed, it means that he's thinking about you when he's alone. Similarly, if he replies to your messages quickly, this could be a sign that he's interested.
- If he doesn't respond to your text messages for a long time, this could indicate that he sees you as just a friend.
Step 4. Make a note of whether she ever asks about other men
If he keeps asking questions about your relationship with other men, he may be trying to find out your relationship status. If you both have a guy friend you both know, he may worry that you like him more than he does.
If a guy wants to know what you're doing with another guy, he's showing signs of a jealous or controlling personality. If your guy friend tries to stop you from going out with another guy friend, flag this as an invasion of privacy and ask him to respect the boundaries of being friends
Step 5. Consider how often you two go out together
If you only meet him when hanging out with other friends, you'll have a hard time figuring out his feelings. Invite him to go alone. If he wants to, he may still see you as just a friend, but if he refuses, it means he's not interested in you. If you two often go out together, this could indicate that he has special feelings.
- When you're alone, he may touch you more often than when you're in public or try to talk about more serious things. These conversations could be about past relationships or fears about the future. This could be a sign that he trusts you. This trust can be a sign of a more serious relationship.
- If he acts the same way when you're alone and in public, this means he sees you as a good friend, and it's a sign that he's not interested in a romantic relationship.
Method 2 of 3: Observing Body Language
Step 1. Try initiating physical contact
He may be waiting for you to initiate physical contact. Sit next to him until your feet and shoulders are in contact with him, then see how he reacts. You can also put your hand on his shoulder or touch his arm.
- If he keeps quiet, it means he is comfortable and sees you as just a good friend.
- If he leans in or puts his arm around you, it could be a sign that he wants to be in a romantic relationship.
- If he stays away, it means he doesn't want to continue your physical contact. This is a sign that he is not interested.
Step 2. Measure how much distance he gives
If you go out with him – whether alone or in a group – try to notice how close he is sitting from your position. If he continues to be less than 1 meter away, he is comfortable around you and may want to make physical contact. Similarly, if he's always sitting near you when you're at a restaurant, bar, or movie theater, it means he's trying to get attention. On the other hand, if he doesn't seem to care where he sits or stands, he just sees you as a friend.
Step 3. Watch how you sit
If he's leaning against you or sitting with his torso open (legs apart and shoulders back), he may be showing interest. Playing with an object, showing your palm, and nodding when you talk can also indicate interest. However, if his body is facing the opposite direction from yours, or he seems to be closing in on himself (crossing his arms and legs), he will most likely only see you as a friend.
Step 4. Pay attention to his eyes
If he makes excessive eye contact with you, especially when you're in a group, it means he cares more about you than the rest of his friends. Notice if he looks away shyly when he looks you in the eye. This is a sign that someone is interested.
Step 5. Pay attention to his body language
If he is actively moving while talking to you, this means he is interested in what you have to say. If he nods or moves his body in response to your words, it means he's trying to pay attention to you. If he strokes his arm, this could be a sign that he is nervous. Finally, if you notice that his movements are mimicking yours, it shows that he is interested.
Method 3 of 3: Confronting Your Friends
Step 1. Go alone
If you want to talk about your relationship, you should find time to go out alone. Ask him to spare some time on the weekends or invite him over to your house. If he doesn't agree or avoids it, he probably isn't interested.
Step 2. Perform activities as usual
Don't immediately ask sensitive questions. Do something fun as usual. Play games, watch movies, or discuss your favorite sports team.
Step 3. Ask for time to talk
When you feel the time is right, stop the game or movie you are watching. You can also wait until before he comes home to talk. Ask if he has time to talk one-on-one. Let's say that you don't want to make things seem awkward, but you want to clarify your relationship status. You don't have to reveal whether you like it or not.
You might try saying, “Hey, can we talk for a minute? I want to discuss something with you. I'm confused about the status of our relationship, so I want to clarify the status of this relationship."
Step 4. Say that no matter what happens, you will still be his best friend
This kind of conversation can make things awkward. So you have to make your friend feel as comfortable as possible. Tell me how much you value your friendship.
You might say, “Our friendship is very important to me, and I want to make sure I don't ruin it. However, I just want to know if we have the same will.”
Step 5. Ask him how he feels about your relationship
This question may be difficult to say. You should practice with another friend first or ask a counselor for help. There are various ways to ask this.
- "What do you think of our current relationship?"
- “Did you ever think of me as more than a friend?”
- "How do you feel about me?"
Step 6. Give him time to respond
He may respond shyly, blushing, embarrassed, or nervous. Let him think for a moment to find the answer. Don't interrupt him. Wait for him to finish talking before you say something.
Step 7. Appreciate the response
If he sees you as his own brother, friend, or close friend, it's a sign that he values your friendship but doesn't want to go any further than that. Show a happy reaction. Tell him that everything is okay and that you are happy that you know how he really feels.
- Try saying, “I totally understand what you mean. I also feel you are a good friend and I want to remain friends with you. I'm glad we can talk about this."
- Your friendship may change after this conversation, and there may be some awkwardness that arises. However, if your guy friend still wants to play together platonic, it's proof that he cares – but not romantically.
Step 8. Let him know what's in your heart if he is expressing his feelings
If he admits that he's interested in more than just friends, make sure that you express your feelings clearly. If you have the same feeling, say it right away.
You can say, “I'm glad to hear that. I like you too, and I have the same feeling.”
Tips
- You better talk in private. Even if it feels awkward, dealing with your friends alone will strengthen your relationship, and make it easier for you to gain clarity.
- If he doesn't have feelings for you, try to stay friendly. Don't ever talk about it again, and don't take your emotions out on him. You may feel sad at first, especially if you really love him. If you feel like you can't stay friends, cut off contact slowly.
- If he likes you, he may not tell you right away. He may be trying to figure out what's in his heart, or he may not want to rush into a relationship. Alternatively, he may want to be in a relationship right away. Talk about your heart and your hopes. Be honest about the relationship.
Warning
- While it's best to be honest with your own feelings, think about how they feel after you've made up your mind. Send a message the day after and watch the response. If he's avoiding you, give him some space. After a few days, try to initiate contact again.
- If you can't contain your feelings and they're causing depression or anxiety, you may need to reduce the intensity of your encounters with them.
