Many men cannot see front and center when they are talking to the opposite sex. This can be considered rude, especially if the woman notices it, so it's best if you look into her eyes. It's okay if this is a problem for you – because you are just a human being – but if you want women to respect you and not feel made an object, then you have to work on changing your behavior.
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Part 1 of 2: Looking the Other way
Step 1. Make eye contact
If you are talking to a woman, then you should keep your focus on her face. If it's not enough just to look him in the eye, start learning about it. Pay attention to the color of his eyes, whether there are dark spots on his eyeballs, how his eyes look, what kind of eye makeup he uses, how long his eyelashes are, etc. Do this if you think it won't scare him, and if you're having a conversation with him.
Even if you're focusing on her eyes, you should stop making eye contact from time to time so she won't get scared or think you're looking at her too much
Step 2. Pay attention to the whole face
Pretend that you are going to give a painting artist a description of the woman's facial features. Pay attention to the color of his eyebrows, the shape of his nose, the width of his cheekbones, whether he has freckles or moles, etc. If you're an artist, try to remember the face well so you can sketch it later. However, try not to stare. Keep your perspective natural and look at the scenery around you.
This can be done by looking at his entire face at once and remembering his facial features, not by looking at individual areas of his face. Be especially careful not to look at his lips, as this can also lead to misunderstandings
Step 3. Look to the side like you're daydreaming
If you don't know the woman well or feel like you've been staring at her for too long, distract yourself by looking at her face or looking sideways as if thinking or remembering something. (Looking up and to one side is very effective, as it keeps your eyes from looking down.) While this may seem strange at first, this is a common practice for many people.
Step 4. Find another area to rest your eyes
Making eye contact is a good thing, but you can't do it 24/7 without scaring the woman, so identify other areas where you should rest your eyes. It could be the clock above the woman's head, the watch or book you are holding, or the door on your left. Whenever your eyes need to rest, look back in the same direction so that you don't end up staring at the areas you deem inappropriate. One of the reasons you will notice a woman's chest is because you feel the need to break eye contact and naturally rest your eyes on the area of interest.
Of course, the woman might think it's a little weird if you look at the clock every minute, but it's better than staring at her chest, right?
Part 2 of 2: Trying Other Tactics
Step 1. Enjoy the conversation
Talk to him about anything – movies, school, certain events, or anything else that interests you enough to take the attention off his chest. Practice the art of good conversation and be an attentive listener. If you are having a pleasant conversation, then you will not think about the woman's chest. Think about how to make him laugh, wow him, or make him feel special, and you'll focus on the right things.
Step 2. Think about the consequences
If you end up staring at the woman's chest, of course she'll notice. He may scream and embarrass you, or he will feel bad and think you are a sex object. It will also not make your relationship any better and can only lead to bad things. Here are some other possible consequences if you stare at a woman's chest:
- You may experience an embarrassing erection if you stare at a woman's chest for too long.
- You will miss the chance to ask her out or flirt with her.
- He'll probably tell you what happened to other women and they won't want to hang out with you because they think you're a pervert.
Step 3. If all else fails, think of her as your mother
If there is no other way, imagine your mother's face when she is talking to her. This will keep your eyeballs directed toward the top of your shoulders. While this may sound a little gross, that's exactly what it's about – do whatever you can to keep your gaze on the level. Nobody said this would be fun. You can also think of the woman as your sister. That way you can stay nice and polite.
Step 4. Apologize if you get caught
If she notices you're staring at her chest and screaming, then don't deny it, turn rosy, and call her a liar. Be a man and admit it. Say, "I'm sorry, I know that's not the right thing to do." Of course it won't be fun for you, but it's better than looking like a coward. Keep in mind that it won't be fun for the woman either.
Tips
- If you find it difficult to look him in the eye, look at the distance between his eyes or slightly above them.
- Try to move. Leaning to the side, sitting down, stretching, and combing your hair, logically prevent you from staring at areas you deem inappropriate.
