Are you a woman that other women want to kiss? Feelings, thoughts, or desires to do this are actually very normal. You may be wondering what it is like to like the same sex, or you may wonder if you are actually part of the LGBT community. Whatever your reasons are behind your desire to be kissed by a woman, chances are you can make it happen if you know how to read a woman's body language. If you want to get a woman to kiss you – or you just want to know if she's interested in you, follow these steps.
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Part 1 of 2: Look for the Signs
Step 1. You have to see if the woman doesn't mind kissing another woman
Before trying to get him to kiss you, you have to make sure that your approach is acceptable to him. If she's a lesbian or bisexual, obviously she wouldn't mind kissing another woman. If he's curious about the bisexual experience and doesn't mind giving it a try, you may also have a chance to try kissing him. However, you should take a subtle approach; You have to give him a signal that you are interested in him. While you can ask him directly what's on his mind, there are other ways you can find out if he doesn't mind kissing other women:
- If you want to see if he doesn't mind kissing other women, you can name some of the entertainment world's most famous lesbians, such as K. D. Lang, Ellen, Indigo Girls and more. If he seems interested in talking about these people and bringing up more gay talk, he "most likely" doesn't mind trying to kiss other women. Liking a famous figure who is a lesbian does not necessarily make him a lesbian, but it implies that he accepts the existence of women who like to kiss other women.
- If you know the woman well, you can try casually asking her if she's kissed a woman before. Even if you're both just curious about the bisexual experience, a conversation like this shouldn't bother him, especially if he knows you well enough.
- You can also mention other women kissing other women, to see how they respond. You might say, "Did you see Mandi and Anna kissing each other in the hallway?" Then, find out what he thinks about it.
Step 2. See if he doesn't seem to mind kissing you
Even though for example the woman is a lesbian who proudly admits her sexual orientation, it doesn't mean she wants to kiss any woman in front of her, including you. Look for signs whether the woman likes you or not. If he's flirting with you, leaning close to you when he's talking to you, stroking your hair every now and then, and engaging in frequent physical contact with you, chances are he wants to kiss you.
- If he's always complimenting you on your appearance and it sounds genuine, he may actually be telling you that he likes you.
- If he looks at your lips and makes deep eye contact, he may want to kiss you.
- Remember, if both of you are normal (not LGBT) and you just want to experiment, then the experience will be completely different if you want to do it with a lesbian friend. You might think that making out with a lesbian friend would look “cool”; but if you don't have feelings for him, he may feel offended and think that you don't take his sexual orientation seriously.
Part 2 of 2: Kissing the Woman You Like
Step 1. Find a private place, and make sure you both keep it a secret from others for the time being
Unless you want to be seen making out when you're drunk at a bar with your best friend who isn't a lesbian, it's best to keep this a secret, especially if the woman means a lot to you. Unless you're both lesbians, he may find it annoying to kiss you in public or even in a place with few people. After all, the kiss will be more meaningful if you do it in a closed place. Here are some closed places you can try to kiss other women:
- Invite him over to your house to watch a movie. Dim the lights in the room and pay attention to his body language while the film is in progress. You can try kissing him at that time, or after the movie is over.
- Invite him to stay at your house. If you're old enough, inviting a friend over for a night is a great way to bond with your friend and try to get them to kiss you in a private place. Make sure you read the signal carefully, and try to kiss him when it's almost bedtime. If you just kiss him straight away and he doesn't want to, your night will be awkward.
- Go for a walk in the evening to a closed place. You can take a walk to the park or gardens at almost sunset and find a covered place there. The background of this place will also seem romantic.
Step 2. Make physical contact
If you choose to do it in the bedroom, lie down next to the woman. Move closer and try to cuddle him a little, then see how he responds to you. Try to give him a little hug, but don't be too obvious about it. Come over and touch his lips with yours and see how he will respond. If you're standing, try to touch his face. If he responds by touching your face or stroking your hair, or cleaning your jacket off something, that's a good sign. You can move on to the next step if he doesn't seem to mind your approach. If he acts cold, tries to joke around a lot, looks around the room, or seems distracted, don't go ahead with your plan.
- Try to stroke her hair and tell her that you like her hair or the way it is styled.
- Touch the bracelet or earrings she is wearing and tell her that you like the accessory she is wearing. This is a clever way to approach it.
- Gently touch the arm or shoulder. Continue to make physical contact while you are talking to him.
- Lean closer to him. If you're lying down, you can come over and talk to her.
Step 3. Make him feel comfortable, calm, and safe
He may want to kiss you; but at the same time, he may also be afraid to do so. Talk to him and act normally, but don't be too casual. Make sure you give him a hint that you like him more than just a friend. Here are some things you can say to calm him down:
- If he refuses, reassure himself by saying, "Are you scared?" If he approves, tell him that he doesn't have to be afraid. Just give him a hug and let go.
- If he says "A little," you can ask, "To me?" If he says no, you can move closer to him.
Step 4. Come closer and touch her a little
However, if he dodges, tries to move away, or squirms, you should stop immediately. If he touches you back or shows affection, look him in the eye. If he looks back at you, look at his mouth. If you see him staring back at you in the mouth, he really is ready. If he's partially or completely closed his eyes, touch the bottom of his chin and lift his face slightly so you can see his face.
Step 5. Have a memorable first kiss
Don't push your tongue into his mouth and give a hasty impression. For starters, kiss him slowly. If he responds warmly by kissing you back, you can kiss him again with a kiss that deepens over time. But, try to hold back on the first kiss, and make it a very romantic and amazing kiss.
- However, that doesn't mean your kiss has to be boring and pure without passion – open your lips slightly, making sure your lips look attractive and soft by slightly wetting them.
- Hug him when you kiss him and make the moment sweet and romantic. If this kiss is your first kiss with him, both of you will have a very pleasant memory if you remember this moment. Therefore, make this moment more meaningful.
- If your kisses become more intense, you can feel them with your hands if you both try to touch each other's body parts. If the woman is more shy, she may wait for you to make a move first. Approaching a woman to kiss is actually an act that can have a negative impact on your relationship with her. You have to really prepare yourself 100% and feel sure, that kissing him is an option that you are willing to make. If doing this could potentially damage his friendship with you, would you really want to do it? After you kiss him and his smile doesn't look awkward and cold, you can give him a hug and you can hug each other.
Tips
- Don't be in a hurry to do something. Do it slowly and relaxed.
- If he doesn't stop you kissing him, this may be the start of a new relationship between the two of you.
- Always have a good relationship with the woman before you try to kiss her.
- Try touching her body only in appropriate parts before you start kissing him.
- Don't say anything naughty or provocative. Talk about something sweet and still within reasonable limits or PG-13.
- You need to leave him alone if he doesn't reciprocate your approach.
- Smile when you are talking to him.
- Don't walk away from him if he wants to kiss you.
- Don't do this with women you just met. You have to get to know him better and become his friend first.
- Even if you kiss him he doesn't actually kiss you back, that doesn't mean he doesn't like you. He may just want to cuddle with you and then kiss.
- Make sure your breath doesn't smell bad when you smell it. You can chew the mint candy first, or your kiss won't be as pleasant.
- If you've kissed a guy before, you can basically do the same thing when you kiss him.
- If he is your lover and you have never kissed him then do it right away! Surely he really likes you because he chose to be your lover. So maybe he will like your kiss too!
- You have to be confident. Don't care what other people say or think about you.
- When you are with him, be yourself.
Warning
- Every woman wants to be loved. So don't be rude or pushy towards him.
- You have to get to know his feelings for you; whether the feeling is just a friend or more romantic.
- Make sure he is comfortable with the fact that you are LGBT. If not, leave him alone and forget about your desires which could risk ruining your friendship.
- You have to know if he is really serious about everything he tells you.
- If he doesn't approve of his LGBT behavior, he won't appreciate your attempts to kiss him.
- Make sure he's not dating anyone, male or female, before you try to do this.
