Contrary to what many people believe, it takes more than a pretty face and a beautiful body to attract a man. Studies show that while physical attractiveness is important, personality is far more important than outward appearance. To increase your attractiveness in a man's eyes, you should focus on developing positive qualities such as self-confidence, respect, honesty, active listening, and kindness. Elements of physical attractiveness, such as highlighting your favorite features, flirting skills, and maintaining a healthy body, should only have a secondary focus.
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Part 1 of 4: Having a Good Personality
Step 1. Have confidence
For most people, being confident is easier said than done. Confidence means feeling comfortable being who you are and having confidence in your abilities. If you don't already have it, there are ways to develop self-esteem.
- For example, if you have a habit of self-doubt (the voice in your head is telling you that you're a loser, worthless, stupid, etc.), try to counter it with positive affirmations, like "I'm wise" or "I'm a good friend."
- If you have self-confidence, you will not punish and humiliate yourself for making mistakes. Confident people are able to celebrate the success of others without feeling jealous or disappointed in themselves.
Step 2. Relax and enjoy the moment
You will find it difficult to enjoy life if your mind is focused on the past or the future. Instead of worrying about what you just said or what might happen later, enjoy the moment.
- If you're nervous and unsure what to say, start by asking. Asking for advice or encouraging someone to talk through questions are great ways to get them to like you.
- If you're relaxed and focused, he's more likely to like your presence and want to see you again.
Step 3. Be an active listener
If you're chatting with a guy you like (or anyone else), the surest way to get him to like you (at least as a friend) is to listen actively. Active listening skills include the following steps:
- Do not interrupt or judge the person speaking.
- Nod your head or make a short verbal comment (“yes” or “hmm”) indicating approval.
- Repeat the other person's words in your own language to show understanding.
- Ask questions to show that you're paying attention and interested.
Step 4. Make sure you are honest, but respectful
Resist the temptation to say what a man wants to hear, not what you really think. However, make sure you are respectful when expressing your opinion. There's no point in insulting him or his ideas.
- You want him to like you for who you are, not who you think he wants. He may appreciate the fact that you have your own ideas and the courage to speak them out.
- For example, if he asks you what you think about a movie you don't like, tell him what you think, don't pretend you like it just because he likes it. At the very least, different opinions will give birth to interesting conversations.
Step 5. Tell us about your interests and interests
When you talk about your interests in life, you will immediately appear excited. Passion is contagious so you will be more interesting and fun.
- When chatting with a guy you like, don't be afraid to tell him a little about what's important to you in life.
- Don't forget to ask him what he's interested in too. This will let him know that you are interested in getting to know him better, and will make him feel closer to you.
Step 6. Do something that enriches your life
For example, volunteering for a mission you believe in, learning to play an instrument, taking dance lessons, practicing for a marathon, or joining an amateur sports team. Living happily and contented with accomplishments will make you more attractive in the eyes of men.
Plus, hobbies provide interesting chat topics and more opportunities to bond with a guy you like, if he shares your interests. Hobbies also pave the way for meeting new people
Step 7. Show that you care
Do little things to show that you are interested and care about him. At a party, ask if he wants a drink or a snack. If the two of you have recently discussed the matter, ask how things are progressing.
Studies show that if you are loving, supportive, and stable, the opposite sex will view you as a potential mate. So take the opportunity to show that you meet these criteria
Step 8. Be yourself
Many romantic comedies tell of people pretending to be someone else, and the lies are exposed in front of their own faces. Don't be like that.
- If your ideal night is relaxing at home with pizza and TV, don't say you're a party fan. Partying against the urge is exhausting, and you'll be lamenting the inevitable breakup because he wants to party, whereas you just want to chill.
- If you love math and want to be a schoolteacher, don't tell an adventurous guy that your dream job is to become a ski coach.
Step 9. Don't change yourself for the sake of others
Getting out of your comfort zone is fun and even healthy, like trying a new hobby or hanging out more often, but make sure to be yourself and remember what you want in life. You have to stay true to your beliefs and goals.
- The only good reason to change is if you're not happy with who you are, and want to change for the better.
- If you have to be a different person just to be with a guy, maybe you shouldn't be with him.
Part 2 of 4: Adding Physical Attractiveness
Step 1. Recognize that physical appearance is only a small part of attractiveness
Research shows that while a woman's physical elements play an important role in attracting a man, other factors are also important. Some of these are humor, conviction, and personality.
Men generally like women who look young and healthy, with smooth skin, youthful facial features, and slim figures because they subconsciously perceive such characteristics as ideal in a potential mate
Step 2. Realize your beauty
All women are beautiful, whatever their body shape, whatever their skin color, whatever their size, or how long their hair is.
- Studies show that others find you 20% more attractive than you think you are. Too many women judge themselves harshly, instead of realizing their beauty.
- Maybe your beauty doesn't match beauty standards, but whose standards? Today's beauty standards are different from ancient standards, and will continue to change with changing times.
Step 3. Find your style
Style should express personality, not imitate others. Wear clothes that fit your body shape, and make you feel confident.
- If you're not sure, look to fashion icons and people you admire for inspiration. Feel free to experiment with different styles because that's not copying, just exploring ways of expressing yourself.
- Try accessories, models, and colors you wouldn't normally prefer. If it feels right, just wear it. If it feels too much, keep experimenting.
Step 4. Highlight favorite features
Are there certain features of yourself that you like? For example, deep eyes, beautiful hair, or a pretty chin. Either way, other people will find it interesting too.
- Look for ways to highlight interesting features by choosing certain clothes, accessories, and makeup.
- For example, if you have beautiful eyes, wear round gold earrings that draw people's attention to your eyes. Or, if your neck is long and slender, wear a V-neck top or get a shoulder-length haircut so that it draws attention to your neck.
Step 5. Makeup
Several studies have shown that men find women who apply makeup more attractive. Another study showed that men prefer women who wear light makeup (though sometimes men think natural makeup is the same as not wearing makeup).
- If you don't really like makeup, but want to give it a try, start with natural makeup to give your face a healthy glow. Complete with mascara and lip gloss of natural color.
- In the end, the most important thing is to feel comfortable. If you don't want to wear makeup, there's no need to do it.
Step 6. Apply makeup to make your face look younger and healthier
Most men's attraction to women has to do with a basic instinct that makes their minds perceive certain features as a sign of more ability to reproduce. In primitive instincts, a youthful and symmetrical face signifies fertility and health.
- Studies show that men prefer cute faces, which are characterized by large eyes, small noses, full lips, and small chins. You can use mascara and lip plumper to make your eyes look bigger and your lips look fuller.
- If you want to go further, try contouring to make your face look younger and symmetrical.
Step 7. Highlight the lips
Research shows that on average, men are more attracted to a woman's lips than to any other part of the body. If you wear lipstick, especially red lipstick, your lips will look more attractive in the eyes of most men.
In common belief, red, full lips mimic the dilation of blood vessels during arousal, which makes men think of intimacy
Step 8. Pay attention to the tone of voice
Studies show that men generally find women with slightly higher voices more attractive than women with lower voices.
However, in the end you have to be yourself. Men are more attracted to women who are confident and comfortable with themselves (and their voices), but it's an interesting fact to know (studies also show that women like men with deep voices)
Step 9. Wear red clothes
Studies show that wearing red makes women look more attractive and attractive to men (and interestingly, it doesn't to other women).
There are many shades of red. Make sure you choose shades of red that highlight the beauty of your skin tone
Step 10. Work your body into an hourglass shape
Research shows that the average man is attracted to an hourglass body shape, namely a small waist and large hips, which is a sign of health and fertility. Hourglass body shape is very rare. So don't punish yourself if you don't have one.
- You can have an hourglass body type through exercises that tone your butt and hips, and tone your waist. Or, wear certain styles of clothing, and/or use waist straps or corsets.
- In some countries, a large and round body is considered more attractive because it shows the woman has access to food and money.
Step 11. Hang out with female friends
When you hang out with a group of women, men generally find the members of the group more attractive than they really are.
This move seems counterintuitive because you may think that hanging out with other prettier women will make you uglier, but on the contrary, everything will look more attractive
Part 3 of 4: Taking Care of Yourself
Step 1. Treat yourself well
This has to do with self-confidence. You may want to attract men, but first you have to be attractive to yourself. Treat yourself to a good diet, exercise, and adequate sleep. Also, don't punish yourself if one day you're unproductive or don't look like a model.
- Maybe you've read articles about what men like, and maybe you don't have the criteria in it.
- Research shows that personality is more important than physical appearance, which is why you should be happy and comfortable being who you are.
Step 2. Do exercise regularly
You may have read a lot of advice, but basically, if you want to stay in shape, try to get at least 30 minutes of exercise every day. You can walk or exercise for 10 minutes three times a day.
Exercise is not only to maintain a healthy body, but also a healthy mind
Step 3. Drink enough water
In the Imperial system of units, the benchmark for measuring the need for drinking water is to divide the body weight in pounds by two, the result is the number of ounces of water that must be drunk each day. This number should be increased if you live in a hot climate or exercise frequently.
Women weighing 150 pounds (70 kg) should drink 75–150 ounces (2–4 liters) of water daily, depending on activity level and area of residence
Step 4. Get enough sleep
Studies show that people who sleep less are less attractive than people who sleep well at night.
- The effects of lack of sleep can be hidden with a good concealer. Buy a concealer that suits your skin type to cover dark circles under your eyes. Previously, use eye cream if you want to reduce puffy eyes.
- If you're having trouble sleeping, consider seeing your doctor to find out what's causing it.
Step 5. Eat healthy foods
Eat plenty of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean protein. Avoid processed and packaged foods, and reduce sugar and salt. Eating healthy will help you maintain your weight, stabilize your mood, and keep your hair and skin in good condition.
Step 6. Take care of skin health
Wash your face twice a day with a cleanser suitable for your skin type (normal, combination, oily, and sensitive). Follow with a moisturizer that contains SPF.
After bathing, apply body moisturizer so that the skin feels smooth and soft
Step 7. Have a charming smile
Soft and full lips and white and straight teeth are generally considered a key attraction for both men and women. Drink enough water and moisturize your lips regularly to keep them soft, and don't forget to brush your teeth.
- White, straight teeth are a sign of good genetics and are capable of attracting men.
- If your teeth aren't white, don't worry. That's normal. If your teeth are healthy, just slightly stained, clean them with a whitening toothpaste or talk to your doctor about teeth whitening treatments.
Step 8. Treat the hair
Studies show that long, thick and shiny hair is very attractive to men because it signifies health and fertility. On average, men find women with long hair more attractive than women with short hair even though their facial features are the same.
- More important than getting your hair done (or wearing anything else) is adapting your hairstyle to your face shape and personal style. Above all, you have to feel good about how you look.
- If you want to try long hair, consider hair extensions that can be purchased at a salon or beauty store. If your hair is very short, try a wig.
- Avoid coloring, straightening, or other excessive styling as damaged and split ends are unattractive.
Part 4 of 4: Flirting with Men
Step 1. Visit fun places
There's bound to be a certain place where you feel free, relaxed, and happy, and in that place, you'll look and feel more attractive.
- There, you're more likely to meet guys who share your interests and enjoy doing things you enjoy.
- For example, if you enjoy playing softball, join an amateur team. Your appeal will be maximized when relaxed and happy. So, master your hobby, but don't take it so seriously that you get angry or rude to other people.
Step 2. Establish eye contact
This is probably the most effective flirting technique. Eye contact conveys confidence, shows that you're interested, and makes people's hearts flutter.
- The most common way to flirt with a guy is to look him in the eye, then smile briefly before looking the other way. Do this several times in about 20 minutes. If interested, he will approach.
- When chatting, look him in the eye for a specific point, such as when you compliment him. Every now and then, hold your gaze longer than usual to hint that something is deeper.
- Do not stare too long because the impression turns intense and strange. At this early stage, keep your gaze natural.
Step 3. Give a smile
Research shows that happy women, especially those who smile, are generally more attractive to men. Make sure your smile is sincere by involving your eyes because a smile on your lips will look fake.
- Laugh when he says something funny, but don't force it.
- The most effective flirting technique is smiling while staring.
- You can display a different smile depending on the situation. A flashy shy smile to get her interested, or maybe a mischievous grin when chatting to show that you're interested too.
Step 4. Have a chat with him
You don't have to wait for a guy to start. If you're interested in someone, introduce yourself and start a friendly chat to get to know each other.
- Talk about light topics. If you're new to a movie or concert, start talking about it. If you and he are taking the same class, ask him if he likes the class.
- When chatting, try to gauge his interest. If he makes eye contact, asks questions, and engages actively, keep the conversation going and see where this leads.
- If he doesn't seem interested, don't push him anymore. Say you enjoyed meeting him, politely excuse yourself, and approach a friend or other person.
Step 5. Give praise
A safe way to show interest in a guy and make him more interested is through compliments. Studies show that even small talk is effective, but your compliment must be genuine.
If he looks attractive in a certain shirt, say so. If it's a new haircut, show concern by saying you like it. Compliments will not only make him happy, but signal that you like him
Step 6. Take the chat to the next stage
If the chat is fun and he seems happy too, you can ask for his number. No need to wait for him to take the initiative.
- Schedule a date a few days later to give yourself time to think about it and prepare.
- If you're not ready to date, just ask for his number or give him yours.
Step 7. Match her body language like a mirror
Imitate his posture and body movements when he speaks, but don't be obvious. Copying your actions is an unconscious signal that you like him, and makes him more likely to like you back.
For example, if she is combing her hair with her fingers, wait a minute or two, then do the same, but with the opposite hand. Make sure your movements appear unintentional. Don't look like you're imitating (even if you really are)
Tips
- Turn off your phone and keep it in your bag when you're on a date. If you check your messages, see funny photos, and post photos of food to Instagram, he'll wonder if you really want to go out with him.
- Annoying, but true fact: if you're only looking for short dates based on physical attractiveness, one study showed that men are more attracted to women who seem immature, stupid, or drunk. On the other hand, for men who are looking for a long-term partner, they are attracted to intelligence.
- Many men want women they already know and trust rather than women who are attractive at first glance and by traditional standards.
Warning
- Don't be someone else just to get a guy. This advice is given so often that it probably doesn't make any sense anymore, but the most important step to increasing your attractiveness is to think that you are attractive. You have to be confident and know that you are beautiful inside and out.
- Don't expect all men to be the same, like wanting a young woman with a slim, hourglass figure and a slightly taller voice. Studies show that the variable is just an average, and not an accurate measure of what all men like.
