Being attractive is not just about physical appearance, nor is it gender specific. To be attractive, you need to cultivate self-confidence, find your own style, and learn how to take care of your appearance.
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Part 1 of 4: Building Attractive Qualities
Step 1. Get rid of negative thoughts
One of the keys to being attractive is actually in your mind. People who are always negative about themselves (about their appearance or personality), will channel that negativity to others. You have to find out how to accept and let go of your negative thoughts.
- Pay attention to your mindset. When you can't do something, do you think "Am I useless?" Do you consider yourself stupid, fat, or unwanted? This isn't true unless you approve of it (except for being fat, this trait doesn't have to be bad unless you make it so).
- When you notice negative thoughts, replace them with positive or neutral thoughts. At first it may be easier to use a neutral mind. For example, if you're thinking "I'm so ugly," stop that and say something like "I think I'm ugly, but this isn't true. My body is healthy and allows me to do a lot of things."
- Avoid negative people in your life. Negative people, who always say you need to be different or that you are too fat, need to get out of your life. Their negativity will only make your life more complicated.
Step 2. Build your confidence
People will be attracted to confidence, because it is attractive. It shows that you believe that you are important and that you deserve to be where you are now. If you believe this, other people will start to believe it too.
- Avoid judging yourself. This does not mean that you are free to be rude to others, but it does mean that you must stop belittling yourself. For example, instead of saying "I'm so stupid" say "I often have trouble memorizing roads."
- Avoid judging others. What you say and think about other people has to do with how you think about yourself. Try to think positively or neutrally about the other person.
- Don't compare yourself to other people. This is useless, because there will be people who are more attractive, more confident than you. Compare yourself to your previous self.
Step 3. Show your best qualities
Good character is as attractive as physical appearance. Others may pay attention to appearance at first, but they will put more importance on character in the end.
- Practice being nice. Do things for other people without expecting anything in return, like helping your mom clean the house, or offering to drop a friend off at dawn.
- Respect others. You don't have to force yourself to respect other people. You just need to hear them, consider many angles, and not judge them right away.
- Really listen to other people. People are attracted to those who are attracted to them. When you talk to someone, give them your full attention. Make eye contact, don't check your phone, and ask questions too.
Step 4. Maintain a healthy lifestyle
Being healthy is an important part of being attractive. Even if you have a disease, you can still lead a healthy lifestyle.
- Have a healthy diet. Eat lots of fruit and vegetables, healthy carbohydrates (like brown rice) and protein (like eggs or salmon).
- Get enough sleep. Getting enough sleep not only makes you look more attractive (skin, weight, etc.), it's also important for your health in general. Try to sleep at least 8 hours every night, and not too late. Turn off your electronics at least half an hour before bed.
- Exercise at least 30 minutes a day. Choose a sport you like. Walk 30 minutes a day, or do yoga. Dancing is also a great option.
Part 2 of 4: Improving Your Physical Appearance
Step 1. Find out your skin type and find the best way to get better skin
Skin types usually fall into 5 categories: normal, oily, dry, sensitive, or a combination of these.
- Oily skin will look greasy just a few hours after washing it off. Treat oily skin by washing it in the morning and evening with a gentle cleanser. Trying to get rid of this oil will only make your body produce more oil.
- Dry skin tends to have blemishes. Treat dry skin with warm, not hot water, and use a skin moisturizer while the skin is still a little wet. Dermatologists argue that this helps lock in moisture in it.
- Sensitive skin tends to itch and is allergic to some chemicals. If you have sensitive skin, look for care products that don't contain fragrances or alcohol, always use a sun visor (SPF 30 or higher); and wash your face gently with your hands.
- Normal skin has the right balance of moisture, oil and resistance.
Step 2. Wash your face regularly for better skin
Your face is probably the first thing people see, so make sure you take good care of it. Make sure you use simple skin care products, the more complicated will make your face worse.
- Usually you need to wash your face twice a day, morning and night, to remove excess dust and oil. If your skin is sensitive or dry, you may only need to wash it once, or make sure you use a cleanser and moisturizer suitable for your skin type.
- You should choose a cleanser according to your skin type, how often you wear makeup, and how often you exercise. For example, if you have oily skin, you should definitely choose a cleanser that has a low pH level, as this will wash off the oil on your face more effectively.
Step 3. Improve your skin with regular exercise
Exercise not only affects your physical and mental health, but also your skin's health. Exercise reduces stress, which can have a negative impact on skin health, and increases blood flow. Make sure you wear sun protection when exercising in the open when it's hot.
Step 4. Beautify your skin with a balanced diet
More than 5 servings of vegetables or fruit per day will help to beautify the skin. What you eat has a huge effect on the health of your skin. The more fruits and vegetables you eat (especially berries and leafy greens), the better your skin will look.
Probiotics also help beautify the skin, so eat more sugar-free yogurt. Yogurt helps your digestion by providing lots of good bacteria. The better your digestion, the less problems you will face
Step 5. Take care of your teeth
People with whiter and healthier teeth are considered more attractive than those with yellow teeth. This is because white teeth indicate that you are taking care of yourself, which is important if you are looking to find a partner.
- Make sure you brush your teeth at least 2 times a day. You need to clean the cavities between your teeth once a day, something that is often forgotten, but very important for dental health.
- You can use medical help to whiten your teeth. It may have no effect on your dental health, but it will look good. Make sure you check your teeth with the dentist at least once a year. If you have sensitive teeth or if your gums are swollen, hold off on whitening your teeth until they are completely healed.
Step 6. Give your hair some attention
Whether you're a man or a woman, and it doesn't matter what type of hair you have, healthy hair is attractive hair. You're the one who knows your hair better, so you should also know how often to wash your hair. Make sure you only wash the ends as washing the roots will dry them out.
- Normal hair usually needs to be washed once every 1-3 days. You will have to experiment to see which one works for you. Washing your hair every day can dry out your hair and start producing oil, so consider changing your shampoo and see how long your hair can stay fresh without washing it.
- Oily hair needs to be washed every day. In addition, try changing your shampoo, because sometimes that's the cause of a lot of oil in your hair.
- Curly hair should be washed less often than other hairstyles. At most, you should only wash it 2 times a week. More than that will make your hair dry.
Step 7. Choose a hairstyle that suits your face and hair type
Women usually have more choices than men, but this means that men are fine with choosing the same hairstyle. However, for both genders, try different hairstyles to find the one that suits you best.
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Hairstyles for men:
- Straight hair of any thickness: the short side, and the thinner the lower the neck, at least an inch from the top; curls: keep the sides of the hair at medium length; the ratio of top and side must be 2:1; For nice straight hair, let it grow shoulder-length above the collar.
- Curly hair: grow your hair at least 2 inches on the sides, and 3 inches, ask the salon person to add the pattern.
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Hairstyles for women:
- Straight hair: the sides will fall straight, or a ponytail with a normal volume: or French braids on both sides of the head.
- Wavy hair: a slightly messy top with a soft outline; or pull the sides of your head and hold them behind, letting the ends curl; or try a neat bottom, then use a hair bun on the side.
- Curly hair: short cut, let it limp with a little product, and a side part that makes the top look voluminous, or take a small section on top of your head and pull it back, leaving the sides and back flowing down.
Part 3 of 4: Filling Your Wardrobe With Interesting Clothes
Step 1. Get some key items
You need to find a few items that stand out and are the key to your dress style. This is important for both men and women, because it helps define your personality (which in turn radiates your confidence).
- Jewelry, clothes, shoes can be the key. For example, you really like big jewelry, so wear neutral clothes so your jewelry stands out, or maybe you like a colored jacket, so choose other accessories that support it.
- Bags can also be a great option. You can easily swap them out, depending on the outfit you want to wear. This bag will look soft, attractive, and it's useful too.
Step 2. Buy clothes in unusual places
Part of getting people's attention is being the center of attention. You have to be the center of attention. To do this, you need to choose a unique outfit, which no one else has.
- This quirky clothing store is a fun place to be and sometimes it's cheap. You can find classy clothes at cheap prices in stores like this.
- Antique shops are also a great place to find antiques (which are all the rage right now). These old clothes are usually durable, so they can be worn longer.
- Artist bazaars usually have clothes or accessories that are only produced. By supporting local artists by proclaiming that you are involved in this community, and that you have unusual and interesting accessories and clothes. You can also find these unique outfits on websites like Etsy and eBay. Make sure you are sure of the size so that it fits your body.
Step 3. Choose suitable clothes
Of course you want to wear clothes that are comfortable, make you look confident and attractive. This means you have to experiment to find what works for you.
- Make it your "uniform". These are the clothes that characterize your outfit. You can rotate it a bit, change it a bit, or add accessories. For example: You may like jeans and a t-shirt as your "uniform". You can vary it with a long-sleeved shirt, button-up shirt, or jacket when the weather is cold.
- Use a neutral base so you can add accessories that stand out. This neutral base is usually black, gray, or natural colors like brown and beige. This helps balance out your more colorful clothes or other accessories.
- Wear red. For both genders, the color red is attractive. It shows strength and confidence. So put on a red dress, red lipstick, red scarf or red t-shirt and see who will be attracted to you.
Step 4. Make sure your clothes fit
The main key to looking good is wearing clothes that fit your body. Too tight and you will look uncomfortable, too loose and you look untidy.
- Even your jeans have to fit. They should fit snugly against your body without being too tight, loose, or too short. If it's too long, fold it so you don't look like you're tugging on your pants.
- For women, make sure your bra fits. You need a bra that is not too tight and also doesn't let the straps show through your shirt.
Step 5. Wear the right shoes
Everyone pays attention to shoes, though perhaps without realizing it. Wearing the right shoes can attract the attention of others, especially if your shoes match your appearance.
- For women, flat shoes are great. They can adapt to your needs. They can be just as attractive as high heels without torturing you.
- Boots can enhance your appearance and are perfect for fall or winter. High heels are great too, but you need to get used to wearing them. There's nothing attractive about people who look in pain from wearing high heels.
- For men, you want your shoes to match your appearance. If you're going on a date, make sure your shoes look good.
Part 4 of 4: Wearing Makeup to Enhance Features
Step 1. Use makeup to enhance your overall appearance
Makeup can be fun and add an edge to your face. Using makeup properly can attract people's attention. Experiment to find one that suits you.
- If your facial skin is bad, you can use makeup to cover it up. Make sure it matches your skin, otherwise it will draw attention to what you're trying to hide!
- Set the outline of your face as you wish. You can use makeup to highlight your cheekbones, or whatever you want. Use the blush in a horizontal line to widen it or cross it to the chin to lengthen it.
Step 2. Beautify your eyes
Eyes are "windows to the world," aren't they? Beautifying your eyes is a great way to attract attention. You can go for a natural or dark look (this always goes well with current styles and goes well with red lipstick).
- For a dark eye look, use eyeshadow around the lids (For the smokey eye look, sweep nude eyeshadow over your entire eyelid. Apply eyeshadow from base to brow (any color you like). Color the line in your lashes with dark eyeliner. Use a Q-Tip to blur those lines. Use a darker eyeshadow on your lids. Mix these colors together. Place a highlighter shade under your brow bone. Now apply 2 or 3 times the mascara on your lashes and bend it upwards.
- For a natural look, add a little eye makeup with eyeliner, with natural and soft gradations. Wear light colors, such as light brown. Wear mascara. Try different types of mascara until you find the one that works best for you.
Step 3. Get creative with makeup
Makeup should be fun, so get creative with it. Show your wild side. Gentle makeup is enough to attract the attention of others.
- Try something a bit old-fashioned but eye-catching, or something from another era.
- Have fun with colors! Use bright colors to enhance eye color and make them stand out. For example, use silver to accentuate blue eyes.
Tips
- Another cool idea is to make your own clothes. Although this takes time and effort, but when you wear your own homemade clothes, other people will notice you!
- Believe in yourself! People like confident people because they look attractive. If you find yourself satisfying, other people will too.
