Getting flirted with may feel like a compliment, but that may not always be what you want. Setting up a strategy to dodge before being courted is a powerful way to escape from an awkward situation. Try using one (or all) of the methods below to avoid flirting with guys so you can enjoy time with friends or yourself.
Step
Method 1 of 11: Strictly decline the advance
Step 1. Often, honesty is the best solution
If a guy asks you out, tell him you're not interested in him. You don't have to be rude, but give a firm answer. Say something like:
- "Sorry, I'm not in a relationship right now."
- "I'm flattered, but I already have a boyfriend."
- “I came here just to have fun, not to find a partner. Thank you for the compliment."
Method 2 of 11: Talk about things related to your lover
Step 1. The seducer will understand that you already have a partner
If you don't have a partner yet, just lie. Talk about his job, where he was at the time, or how the two of you met for the first time.
If you're out with a group of friends and you really want to "escape" from a difficult situation, ask one of your friends to pretend to be your boyfriend
Method 3 of 11: Stay in groups
Step 1. Men usually don't approach women in groups with their friends
If you come to a bar or club, stay close to your friends. This method isn't without loopholes (some men still approach women in groups), but it might help!
This is a good general principle to apply when going out at night. The more friends you have, the safer
Method 4 of 11: Treat the seducer like a friend
Step 1. He will understand that you are not interested in him
Start complimenting another guy, ask him to introduce him to his friends, or simply tell him that you like him as a friend. If you've known him long enough, he'll know what you mean right away.
This strategy may not work well with strangers, but you can try it on a colleague or a friend of yours
Method 5 of 11: Stick to a neutral topic during the conversation
Step 1. Weather, sports, and popular events are all applicable topics
If he starts directing the conversation to something sexually suggestive or starts flirting, change the subject immediately. If you block the direction of the conversation, he will not be able to move.
For example, if he compliments your outfit, say something like, “Thanks, I'm wearing it because it's been really hot lately. Don't you realize it's always hot right now?”
Method 6 of 11: Introduce the guy to someone else
Step 1. Say that you want to set her up with one of your friends
If you're out in a group, you can ask a friend to talk to him or her (if that friend wants to). If you're alone, simply say you believe he and your friend will get along well with each other.
- For example, you might say “Wow, you skate a lot? You should meet Marsha, my friend, she loves skating!”
- If the guy seems aggressive or scary, it's best not to sacrifice your friend. Just leave the area and go to a safe place.
Method 7 of 11: Say that you have to go see a friend
Step 1. You can't ignore friends
Get out of the conversation by saying that you should go back to meet your friends across the bar. If you're alone, just say you're meeting a friend in a minute so you have to leave. If he insists, ask for his number so he can be called later (but don't actually call him).
- Say something like "Nice to talk to you, but it looks like my friends are going home."
- You could also say, "Nice to meet you, but I have an appointment with a friend so I have to go now."
Method 8 of 11: Ask a friend for help
Step 1. Sometimes, it's really hard to escape a conversation
Signal the friend across the room to help you. He may be more successful at keeping the guy away from you than if you had tried on your own.
Your friend could say something like “Hey, we want to order some food. You want to join?” or “We're about to go home. Here's your jacket."
Method 9 of 11: Do something dirty
Step 1. This method may not be your first choice and should be used as a last step
Try burping, sneezing, or blowing your nose to get the guy to leave. This may not always work (some guys just love to see it), but you can try it!
The goal is to make yourself seem unattractive to him. If you can do that, it will probably go away on its own
Method 10 of 11: Ignore the person who seduces you
Step 1. If you don't give in to it, the seducer won't keep bothering you
If a guy approaches you in public, you don't have to respond. If you want, you can even leave the place.
It is best to get rid of someone who is stubborn. If he doesn't get what you mean (or pretends not to know), he probably won't give up
Method 11 of 11: Leave if the situation makes you uncomfortable
Step 1. You don't have to be quiet when you're being courted
Don't be afraid to come across as rude – if you don't feel good, leave immediately. If you are alone and feel threatened, go to a crowded place or contact the authorities.
- Your instincts may be right so you should always listen to your heart.
- If a guy keeps following you or asking for your contact information, that's a red flag. Go to crowded areas for help.
