Saying hello to a girl can be a difficult thing to do, especially if you get nervous easily around people, or are a bit reserved and don't know what to say. Maybe you don't know how to properly greet a girl, whether it's your friend, someone you don't know well, or a girl you just started dating. Whatever the situation, there are many tactics you can use to appear confident, normal, and approachable.
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Method 1 of 3: Say hello to a Girl You Know
Step 1. Determine how close you are to the girl
Depending on how close your relationship is, find out what makes you both comfortable. If you're good friends with the girl, you may be able to make physical contact, but if you're not very close to her, it's best to keep physical contact to a minimum.
Do things that make you feel comfortable. It's a good idea to step out of your comfort zone from time to time, but when you greet a girl, the more comfortable you are, the more she will feel the same way
Step 2. Chat like you would any other friend of yours
Just because she's a girl doesn't mean you should treat her differently from your male friends, especially if your relationship is platonic. However, use your common sense here and don't do anything inappropriate. Saying "Hello" or "Hi" is a good way to start.
- If you're greeting a girl who's already like your boyfriend, greet her by fist bumping or pinching her in a joke.
- If you two are close enough, hug him because touch can strengthen the relationship.
Step 3. Praise him
Compliments can vary in any type of relationship. Recognizing something about how he looks or even something he's proud of that he's just done is a great way to make him feel more comfortable with you, and show that you're genuinely interested in him.
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You don't have to tease the girl to compliment her, just notice something you like about her outfit. Maybe you like her shoes, or her new hairstyle. Paying attention to details and pointing them out will make him feel comfortable around you.
- "I really like your shoes. (Mention the color of the shoes) they look good on your feet!”
- “New hair, huh? I really like the model. It suits you."
Step 4. Make eye contact
By looking into his eyes, you are making a connection and showing your genuine interest.
Maintaining eye contact is also a good way to keep you calm and comfortable. Just focus on the girl and forget about anything else going on around you
Step 5. Tell the girl that you are excited to meet her
People like it when they feel wanted in any way and telling the girl that you enjoyed meeting her shows that you value her presence in your life and that you like her that she is a part of yours.
"So nice to meet you! I can't wait to go out with you."
Step 6. Ask him what activity he is currently doing
Even if you are shy or feel awkward in social situations, especially with girls or women, just treat the girl like any other friend and show that you care.
- You can even talk about something you post on social media. For example, if he goes on vacation, say, “I saw you were on vacation yesterday, didn't you? Sirik, eh! It looks like so much fun! You must be happy there, right?”
- By asking for his day, you further show your interest in him, and show that he is important to you.
Method 2 of 3: Say hello to a Girl You Don't Know
Step 1. Introduce yourself confidently
Whether you're meeting her for the first time, or don't know her very well (but you have friends who do), be friendly and make sure of yourself.
- A good starter in a situation like this is, “Nice to meet you”.
- Remember that in this situation, he is in the same position as you. So don't feel like you have to pretend or act like you're not yourself. Be yourself.
Step 2. Read her body language
Remember that you either don't know this girl very well or don't know her at all. So, reading body language can characterize the level of comfort. Trying to hug him might be too much if you both don't know each other well.
- You can shake the girl's hand if she agrees, or simply wave at her.
- Be polite. As the saying goes, “Catch more flies with honey”, in this scenario, you may be making a first or second impression. Trying to brag or joke with him like you would your best friend could offend him.
Step 3. Smile
But don't overdo it by smiling too broadly or getting too enthusiastic.
Being overly excited to meet or greet her can make her uncomfortable and make you look too adamant
Step 4. Find out the girl's name
If you're greeting her in a group, hopefully your friend will introduce you well, but if you're not introduced, politely ask her name and tell her yours.
- Once you have the name, repeat when you say your name.
- Making eye contact and using his name can also help you remember names better.
Step 5. Use humor when greeting
There is a reason why people are more attracted to comedians and witty people. That's because laughter can calm you down. When you're greeting a girl you don't know, humor can show that you're comfortable with yourself (even if you're nervous) and aren't being rude.
- Using humor is a good approach when greeting a girl because it can lighten the mood.
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If you're shy and nervous easily, use self-deprecating humor to break the silence and make her feel more comfortable around you. Make jokes about your appearance or the situation around you.
"I'm glad (say the name of your friend) asked me to meet you. I actually had plans to watch as much TV as I wanted, but I think getting to know you would be better.”
Step 6. Don't stay too long
Sometimes, the best impressions are those so brief that they make him want to get to know you more.
- If you have trouble making small talk with other people, especially when greeting a girl, keep it short and sweet. Don't force any conversation.
- If the conversation stagnates, end it politely.
Method 3 of 3: Say hello to a girl on a first date
Step 1. Make a good first impression
You can do this by arriving early to the meeting place. Showing up on time will also give you a few minutes to get ready and relax.
Being punctual will show him that you are mature and reliable
Step 2. Get out of your comfort zone
Chances are, you already know a few things about him, so use what you know to lighten the mood. For example: If he likes flowers, bring him his favorite flower and give it to him.
This can also be a good way for him to find you if the two of you have never met before and will be meeting in public
Step 3. Wait for a sign from the girl
Don't look too adamant; instead, you better watch the reaction. Does he flirt or touch you often? Or is it more secretive? You don't have to wait for him to approach you (sometimes it's better to lead than to be a follower), but getting too comfortable before the two of you get to know each other better can make him disinterested.
- Even if you've chatted before and made a relationship, assuming that he'll be comfortable with touch may be a bad idea and can make things awkward.
- If he really wants to hug or shake hands, find a middle point.
Step 4. Tell him how happy you are to greet him
As noted in the methods above, make eye contact and smile.
- "I'm very happy to meet you, (say the girl's name). I've been waiting for this moment."
- Remember that he wants to be there too, and he may be just as nervous as you are, so take a deep breath, and act confident.
Step 5. Praise him
There is a difference in complimenting a girl and being rude or objectifying. You may feel nervous and tempted to try to be a good seducer, but being a jerk isn't going to help.
- Praise him specifically. Don't just say, "Your hair looks great." Instead, look for something that looks laid out for a long time. Maybe she has a specific style, like bangs. Say, "I love your bangs, you look beautiful. Your bangs really shape your face.”
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Compliments don't always have to be physical. Show that he has something special that makes you attracted to him. Say that as soon as he enters the room, the room gets brighter. Tell him that he has a good sense of humor, or that his intelligence is very sexy. You don't have to say that he excites you (which might sound like a bitch), but you can say, “I was attracted to you the first time I saw you come in. But talking to you makes me even more interested.”
You can use a little humor here and add, "I wish I could catch up with you."
- Remember that you are dating. While being friendly is a good way to start, show that you're interested in him as more than just a friend. With a friend, you might make a platonic compliment, but this is where you can tell him how you feel that you're attracted to him.
Tips
- Don't be too friendly by saying "Hello" to every girl. He will think you are a playboy or a cheater. Say hello simply with a smile and pay attention to the girl.
- If you are close to your girlfriend and she hugs you, it doesn't mean she likes you romantically. Sometimes, a hug is just a greeting.
- Don't start babbling and making rude jokes. Remember that humor can be a good tactic when greeting a girl, but never if she seems distracted.
Warning
- Don't touch the girl too much or talk to her for too long if she doesn't seem interested.
- When complimenting a girl, you must remember that she is a human being who deserves to be treated with respect.
- Never say anything rude or point out your flaws.
- Just because he seems responsive to your greeting, or touching you, doesn't mean you're already his girlfriend.
