Every woman wants to feel special and a unique treasure for her man. How do you show him that he is really special to you? Nothing impresses a woman more than a man who treats her like a princess.
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Part 1 of 3: Praise Him
Step 1. Balance out the compliments for him
Girls love compliments, and it's no wonder: it tells her you really care, and it makes her feel good about herself. Compliment him on his appearance and personality, and he will feel whole in your presence. Try not to tell him that he's “fit” or “sexy”, because that would be too plain and flat. Don't compliment a woman too much either, as you will make her suspicious, or give the impression that you want something from her in return for your kindness.
- Tell her she's “pretty”, “beautiful”, or even “charming”. These words are more touching and they have a bit more feeling behind them.
- Compliment aspects of her personality too. Women want to feel beautiful on the outside and inside. Sincere compliments about his personality make him understand that you like him with all your heart:
- "Every time we're alone, you remind me how nice it is to do nothing together."
- "Your heart is as beautiful as your face."
- "You make me want to be a better person by the day."
- "When I see you, I know what it's like to feel completely safe and comfortable around someone."
Step 2. Give him a nice, honest and unique compliment
It's a good idea to have some basic compliments for your girl every now and then, but it's a good idea to give her a truly unique compliment and let her know that you like her, or at least appreciate it.
- Maybe you are fascinated by "his eyes". Let him know that his eyes remind you of: "I love how your shirt accentuates your eye color, it's such a contrast."
- Maybe you like how her hair shapes her facial features: “Your hair is so silky and soft; fits your eyes and lips very well.”
- What if you feel amused when he “laughs”? “Your laugh is so funny. You make me feel happy and excited."
- Finally, maybe you can say something about the "kindness". Women are hard-wired to be motherly and caring: if you say something about her kindness and generosity, it should be very precise: “You taught me what it means to be kind and what it feels like to be cared for. I wish I could do the same for you."
Step 3. Show him unexpected affection
Giving a woman the right compliments when she expects it is great, but giving her the right compliments when she "don't expect it" is even better. Pick a time when you two are together to think about what you like/respect/admirer about her and let her know out of the blue.
- When he doesn't expect it, grab him, hug him, and kiss his cheek, neck, or forehead, and tell him something deep about how he makes you feel. Look him right in the eye and compliment him. He will melt like ice in hell.
- Let him know that he is a top priority and you will do whatever you can to make him happy when he needs it. Don't just say it, be prepared to do it! Girls won't respect you if you just say one thing and do another.
- Send a text or call him unexpectedly. This will let him know that he is on your mind. Do it every now and then so that every call or text is a pleasant surprise, not something he would have expected. SMS that you can send suddenly:
- "I missed you; suddenly thought about you…"
- "You really make me love what we have in common."
- "Stopped off just to say 'hi'. I wish I could kiss you now."
Part 2 of 3: Show Him You Care
Step 1. Go somewhere fun with him
Spend time at the park, go with him while he is shopping, take him to the beach… There are lots of places where he can have fun, feel good and be loved.
- Do fun and entertaining things together. This has two advantages: First, it will show him that you want him to be involved in your life's path; second, the adventure will bring you closer by releasing a hormone (called 'oxytocin') which is responsible for the feeling of togetherness.
- Show that you care by getting involved in what he loves to do. Going to see a chick flick, even when you think it's going to be boring will show him that you care about his needs, and not just your own. Even if you don't enjoy it, try to make it appear that you are interested. He will appreciate your efforts. Show that you care by taking part in the things that she loves doing.
Step 2. Show how proud you are when you are with him in public
Don't keep your affection for private time; Show the world how you feel about him. He'll think you're lucky, which you are. Kiss her cheeks or massage her hands when you're out in public. Hold him tightly when introducing him to one of your friends.
- If he uses social media a lot, show your relationship publicly through social media. Post a photo of the two of you, tag him in the places you visit, change the relationship status publicly through social media. Show that you are openly committed and how proud you are of it. However, if he is a very secretive person, this might make him uncomfortable.
- Don't be afraid to introduce him as your girlfriend if that's the case. He may feel a bit left out if you just introduce his name. If you haven't clarified your dating status, keep introducing yourself by name.
- Do not let go of his hand when passing by other men or women. He will think that you are embarrassed to be with him or trying to attract other women. If you are holding hands, wait for the right moment to break contact. When there are other women around you, make sure your boyfriend feels like he is the one.
- For her birthday or annual celebration, do something nice for her in public. Bring him a cake for his birthday, or give him a card for your relationship's annual celebration. Do one general thing and one private thing.
Step 3. Talk to him and explore his personality
Digging deep and knowing what he likes and doesn't like is a big step towards making him feel special. A lot of guys don't think about getting really close to a girl because they're only interested in having a physical relationship. Don't be the guy who doesn't know much about his girlfriend or forgets what he likes or doesn't like.
- Ask him about his hobbies and find out what he likes. Everyone must have a "passion" in something, even when it is buried in it. Find out what he likes to do more than anything else. Find out what he likes about it. Try to understand and be interested in it.
- Ask a lot of things. Ask him about his childhood, his parents and siblings, his goals in life, his fears and desires, along with his likes and dislikes. The more you know about him, the better you will be at comforting him when he's sad, encouraging him when he's stuck in an unpleasant situation, or calming him down when he's stressed.
- Learn to listen. Don't ignore him. Whatever he has to say, listen, analyze with him, and offer constructive opinions if any. If you don't have an opinion, you can tell him you'll be there when he needs time to think.
Step 4. Be patient
At times, he might make you think “What am I doing here, this is crazy?! It's really not normal.” Well, you're getting used to the new normal, and it's going to force you to be patient. He will be grateful for it.
- If he is late or forgets something, wait patiently for him. Try to be understanding. Don't make him feel guilty, especially when the first word he says is "I'm sorry." Who knows one day, the wheel will turn and he might be in a position waiting for you.
- Let him win the argument. Sometimes, it's best to let him win the argument. Stand up for yourself and for what you believe in, but learn to give in and let him win. You will get something later.
- Listen to the criticism. No one wants to feel criticized, but you have to compromise if you want to be successful in a relationship. So, really listen to what he has to say, try to change what can be improved, and show that you are committed to it for the future.
Part 3 of 3: Going Further
Step 1. Be by his side when he needs it
If your princess turns into a girl who is panicking and struggling, you will need to be by her side when she needs it. Whether it's a pebble at his feet, a bully child, or a serious illness in his family, stay by his side to show him that your biggest goal is to make sure he's safe and sound.
- If she is sad, ask her how to make her feel better. Don't just sit there and say "I'm sorry" staring blankly at the wall. Women want a man who can make them happy in times of trouble, can cheer them up with a little joke when the journey gets tough. Do your best to lift his spirits.
- Stay by his side when he needs him. When he feels humiliated, called ugly, or threatened, be by his side to protect him. Tell the assailant that you're not going to let him sit there and take negative slurs like that. Don't start an argument, but don't let other people bother you or your boyfriend.
- Whatever happens in your life, be by his side. Reassure him that you are there to support him at all times. A girl wants security knowing that no matter what happens, she doesn't have to worry about you getting out of her life. Reassure him that you are there to stay.
Step 2. Be romantic with her
You may not think that you are the romantic type, but you need to know a little bit about how to be romantic if you want to go further. Romance for women, should be like a movie: Everything has to be a little over the top (but not too much), a reminder of the effort you're going to put in to make her feel special.
- Find out what her favorite flower is and send her a bunch. If you're at the grocery store together, ask him what flowers he likes and remember or jot it down. Remember that flowers have different meanings: Red roses mean love and romance, while white roses mean friendship.
- Surprise him with a date. The simple fact that you are trying to set up a surprise date is often enough. Your date doesn't have to be complicated. Tell him to meet you somewhere or pick him up. Pretend you're doing something boring like homework, then surprise him with a date - like a movie, a cooking class, a picnic far away. He may fall into your arms or stare at you lovingly.
- Make something for him. It's a good idea to give her a token of your love, like a card, or jewelry, or flowers. But, what if you want to take your sign of affection to a higher level? You really have to make it something with your own hands. The more personal, and the more energy you put into it, the better the results.
- Keep him a journal or relationship log. Buy a good blank journal. Write about your first meeting with him, all first dates, and how he made you feel. Include pictures and other mementos, such as movie summaries. Tell him that you want to take turns writing in the journal.
- Make a collage of all the keepsakes you keep from your relationship. Save brochures, tickets, and pictures that are meaningful to both of you. Stick it on a nice poster board and give it to him.
- Make him a video about yourself. The video doesn't have to be fancy, a Facebook video will suffice. Tell him how he makes you feel; what you like and love about him; what did you think when you first met him. Set it all up with music and send it to him.
- Do something for his parents. Maybe her mother needs help setting up a closed auction. Volunteer to be a bus guy, or help them sell tickets. Your boyfriend will be very happy to know that you are trying to get to know his family and that you are willing to do something for them.
Step 3. Do small things
Going further doesn't have to mean something big, romantic gesture we see in movies or hear in stories. Often, the little things mean as much, with the fact that you do them with all your heart.
- Sing him a romantic song, even if your voice isn't great. Sing your song. Even if you mess it up, the song can be a chance for both of you to laugh.
- Take lots of photos with him. He will feel touched to see you standing next to him smiling. It is also a good memory to let him know you will remember him and the fun you shared together.
- Find a way to send or leave pet little notes that will remind him of the good times you shared together. Something as simple as handwriting can work.
Step 4. Love him for who he is and what he believes because that will be hard to change anytime soon
It's the easiest thing to say, but hard to do, but it's true. Love him for who he is, despite his failures, because he loves you the same way.
- Forgive him. So he made a mistake? So what? Everyone makes mistakes, but it's how they come back from their mistakes that shows you who they really are. If he apologizes, honestly and genuinely sorry, try to forgive him. There's a chance he'll do it to you too.
- Respect him. Don't belittle her, manipulate her, or say bad things when she's not around. Treat him like a real man treats his woman. Appreciate his time, effort, and trust. You will earn his trust quickly.
- Get along with his friends, even if you don't like his friends. His friends have an important role in his life; he wants them to be on good terms with you, and vice versa.
- Do more for his family. His family could be the core of his happiness. If he has great relationships in his family, make an honorable effort to be a part of the community when they invite you to join.
Tips
- Always let him know how much you love him. It's not important to love him materially, be by his side always, especially when he's under a heavy burden and he'll know you really love him.
- Be attentive. Always listen to him seriously.
- Protect him from anything that tries to hurt him.
- Always make eye contact
- Don't talk about other girls too much in front of him, as that will make him feel unwanted and maybe even a little jealous.
- Be patient, don't rush
- Always let him know how he makes you feel because he will feel even more wanted.
- Always reply to his texts, emails and letters on MSN/AIM, and always call him back.
- Don't bring sex too soon into your relationship because it can make him feel that you only want it for pleasure.
- First, buy a dozen of her favorite flowers. Then (optional) some rose petals and chocolates, then wait for him to leave (get out of the house for a bit) write a note telling him you want to go on a treasure hunt and place the note where he will open the door, or if you have the petals, Shape the petals into an arrow pointing to the note. Make sure on the first note, you give clear instructions on where he can get his second note and place 1 of the 12 flowers you bought him side by side with each note; do this all the way to 11, but don't make the instructions too difficult for him. Make clue 11 to open the front/back door with the last note and a flower in one hand and chocolate (if you have one) in the other. As soon as she opens the door, kiss her without saying anything and leave a final note saying how much you love her and how beautiful she is. After he reads the note, give him flowers and chocolates. It is for a special moment.
- Warning. Too much of any of the above will make you look needy, something that is very, very unattractive to women.
- If he says you're too clingy, step back a little, give him a break. He's worth the wait and will appreciate you more when he comes back if you do.
