Maybe you want to cheer up a friend who is grieving or is trying to get someone to fall in love with you. Whatever the goal, making those around you feel more special is an easy and effective way to improve relationships, especially if done wisely. There are so many ways to make someone feel special. These various ways depend on how close your relationship with someone is. However, there are some general tips and tricks you can take to make those around you feel valued.
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Method 1 of 3: Gathering Together
Step 1. Smile
Greet your special person with a smile. Smile as often as you can when you're with the person (without faking it). Smiling can not only make you feel happier, but it can also make you sound happier and more positive. Smiling can also let the person know that you are happy to meet them. He will also think that you are interested in what he is saying.
Step 2. Listen
Pay attention to what is going on in the person's life. For example, hobbies or what he does at work or school. Remember the names of people he often mentions. Maybe these people are very important to him or vice versa.
- Give your full attention to the person. Don't play with your phone or computer.
- Siblings, parents, grandparents and close friends are people who are usually told. However, he can also talk about pets, children, or even classmates and colleagues. Try to pay attention to the people he talks about and their relationship with this special friend of yours.
- Sometimes, staying silent and not providing a solution can be a better option. For example: when your friend tells you that he is frustrated with his basketball coach. Say something like, "That sounds really bad, but you can get through it." Don't say things like "I know exactly how that feels" because you may not really understand what he's going through and that will make your special friend feel sad.
Step 3. Talk about your special friend's life
This is a good time to reminisce. Ask about a person or event he last discussed with you. By asking this, you are showing him that you care about what he does or what he likes. Pay attention and try to remember the little things from the story. The next time you see her, ask her back about these things. For example:
You remember that he was very close to his brother. The last time they were together was in the spring when they went on a beach trip with the family. Ask him how his brother is doing and if he's seen him recently. You can also ask if he's been to the beach recently, or if he plans to see his brother again in the near future
Step 4. Talk about your past with him
Talking about memories from the past doesn't just bring you and your special friend closer together. In addition, it can also show that you think about him often and that you value the time spent with him. For example, memories from childhood or memories from the night before. Maybe you chatted all night or did something challenging like skydiving. Reminiscing about moments in the past is a great way to show that the moments you spent with him were special.
Step 5. Do a little touch with him often
You don't have to be affectionate, but touching can increase someone's happiness and make people feel closer to you. Hug him when you see him and when you are about to part with him. Tap on the shoulder when you pass the person.
Be careful not to overdo it. How little and how much touch depends on how close you are to the person. The boundaries will be very different if the person is an important person to you compared to a friend or family member
Method 2 of 3: Give a Gift
Step 1. Pay attention to the person
Listen to everything he has to say. Make notes about people who are important to him, places or things of value to him, or hobbies. Find out what his favorite sodas and sweets are. You can tell some things from his story. The rest, you have to observe for yourself. Examples of common things you should pay attention to are:
- Friend. Does he often hang out with just one person or a group of people? Find out about these people, how your special friend met their best friends, and what they often do when they're together.
- Closest family member. Is he close to his siblings or is he closer to his parents or grandparents? If he often talks about the many activities he does with his father, it means that he and his father are very close. Take note of that.
- His favorite soda. Does he prefer Pepsi or Coke? Does he prefer regular or low-sugar sodas? Little things like this can mean a lot.
- His favorite food. Maybe he likes Indian food, or maybe there is one food he likes. Try to see if he always orders the same food, or if he always advises you to go to the same type of restaurant.
- Sports and hobbies. Does your friend always practice or participate in activities? Maybe he likes sports, but he doesn't really take it seriously and does it just for fun. Try to not only pay attention to his hobbies, but how seriously he takes them.
Step 2. Give something sentimental
Take the lessons learned from it and have something special. It doesn't have to be expensive or weird, just give him something he likes so he knows you're thinking about it. If she's having a tough day and seems depressed, give her something as simple as her favorite candy bar so she can feel special and lighten her load. Some examples of good gifts include:
- Favorite food or drink. This item is very easy to get but it makes the person feel loved.
- Items related to a friend's favorite sports team. Team jerseys, jerseys or even match tickets are some examples of items that can be given away.
- Collectibles. Many people collect objects such as cups for coffee, cards and various other items. Adding items to a friend's collection is the perfect way to show that you care.
- Another option you can do is to make something for him. Make his favorite food or make a picture of him. Use your skills to create something to show that you care about him.
Step 3. Give praise
Giving compliments can be more difficult than giving gifts, but it's a better gesture to show that she's special. The most important ideas in giving a good compliment include:
- Seriously. Think of something your friend is proud of and reinforce that. Genuine praise is judged to be more meaningful and easier to deliver.
- Pay attention. If your friend tries something new, like a new outfit or accessory, that's an excellent opportunity to say something sweet.
- Praise the person's character. If your friend does something nice for you, thank them and say a sentence or two to let them know that you think they are really nice people. Be sure to smile when delivering a compliment.
Step 4. Take your friends to a special place
Maybe there's a place in the woods he used to visit as a kid, or his favorite artist is coming to your town next month. Not only is this a good opportunity to see him, but it can also let him know that you care about him.
Some examples of other good places that you can visit are places to eat, vacation spots and sporting events
Method 3 of 3: Keep In Touch
Step 1. Stay in touch
Call him when you have free time. If you are both busy and find it difficult to make time, schedule time to talk. You can also get in touch via text or email. Send him articles that he might enjoy or things that remind him. Ask about the people closest to you. This can show that you care about him and the things that are important in his life.
Step 2. Pay attention to social media
When you talk to him, you will have something in particular to ask. Comment and like the post on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc. Don't overdo it because you don't want to make it uncomfortable or seem too sticky. Examples of good use of social media to make it special include:
He posted a picture of him skiing. When you talk, say that you saw his post and ask him if he had a great time there. Does he go with friends or family? This will show him that you are thinking about it and that you want to learn more about it
Step 3. Connect the person with friends
If you don't see her often, but you know she's looking for friends where she lives, try thinking about your friends who live in the area. If so, introduce them both. Not only does this show that you think about him, but it also shows that you care about his happiness even outside of a relationship with him.
When you introduce your two friends, share an interesting fact about them both so they have something to talk about and make them feel good. Example: “Emily, this is my friend Olivia, we played on the same football team in high school, and she was the best defender on the team. Olivia, Emily and I majored in chemistry and took a lot of classes together, we had a lot of fun in class together.” Now they have context for your friendship as well as some light topics to start a conversation with
Step 4. Plan for the next batch
Whether it's tomorrow or next month, planning ahead will show that you prioritize meeting him. Planning ahead will also help you, just in case you need to set aside money or time to see that special person. Ask him what he'd like to do and then give him what you know he'll like.
If you both have friends in common or know a good friend, try to include them in your plans. This is an easy way to show him that you care about the important people in his life
Step 5. Go ahead
Not planning a group will make him feel like you don't care about him and can ruin everything that has been done to make him special. If you make plans, don't cancel them! To avoid this from happening, mark your next activity and set a reminder if necessary. Put a note on your desk or bathroom mirror, or go your own way to make sure you don't make other plans for the same day and time.
Tips
- Know your limits and don't exceed them. This will depend a lot on your relationship with the person.
- Be honest. Making someone feel special won't work if you lie.
