It's hard to understand guys and often times they are reluctant to talk about their feelings and when they do, it's hard to tell if they have fully told their feelings or not. They are encouraged to cover up their feelings. Unfortunately, when you really love a guy, this can become a problem. It's really hard to know how to make a guy happy if he's not willing to tell you what he really needs. Luckily there are a few things that almost all guys like - see Step 1 below to learn more.
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Step 1. Make him feel wanted
Humans are social animals. No matter how much satisfaction comes from being alone, we need to interact with other people to feel truly "full." Humans want to feel wanted. They need to feel needed. If you want to make your man feel good, start here. Rely on him. Let him help you through the tough times. When he accompanies you when you are in trouble, let him know how much you value him. Your relationship should be a balanced one - you depend on him as much as he depends on you.
Step 2. Strive for openness, honesty and equality
Because they are used to hiding their feelings, most men will appreciate a relationship that allows them to express themselves as they are. It can take some time for your guy to open up so if your guy hasn't already, make sure he knows he can talk to you about anything that's bothering him. He may not accept your offer right away, but when he does, he'll appreciate how you give him the opportunity to be honest with you.
- We can easily be open and honest with someone we consider to be equal. Try to share experiences, responsibilities and take time to converse with your partner. As you trust each other more and more, your communication will deepen.
- Even in very close and intimate relationships, men and women don't constantly talk about emotional issues and things they don't like about themselves. Can you imagine how scary a relationship would be if everyone opened up about this issue? A common mistake is to "press" your partner into detailing what is troubling him or her. Although couples should try to have open communication, it doesn't mean that each individual is always willing to talk about serious things.
Step 3. Listening
Men want to know if they are taken seriously or not. Since many of them struggle to express their emotions to their friends and even family, they want to know that you are listening when they open up to you. In normal conversation, obviously you don't have to take every word your guy says, but when your guy talks to you about serious things, give him your full attention. Stay close to him and look him in the eye when you talk and he will surely appreciate the respect you give him and will do the same when you need to confide in someone.
Listening is not a matter of sitting and sitting still. Give your man time to let his heart out but if there is a pause, share your thoughts, questions and suggestions with him. This will show that you are really listening, making your man feel valued
Step 4. Be positive
Happiness from within is seen from the outside. While you and your guy should be very comfortable discussing things that are bothering you, the point of a relationship is that you both need to be happy with each other. Try to have a full and lively life - do your hobbies, get enough sleep and exercise, and stay optimistic. When you spend time with your man, you'll find that you both enjoy being together more when you're in a good mood and you're stress free.
There is a sexist stereotype that women should be pleasant and keep smiling around men. Don't do this - living with a positive attitude won't make you and the people around you happier, but pretending to be happy when you don't feel it is tantamount to disrespecting yourself and this is not what a good boyfriend wants from his partner.
Step 5. Be compassionate
One surefire way to make your man feel good about himself (and with you) is to show him affection (which is justified). You can do this by showing how you feel someone means a lot to you - showing affection in the right amount makes you look appreciative but too much makes you look a little obsessive, so you need to get the right amount. The affection you're showing doesn't have to be intense or attention-seeking - for example, you could gently touch it "accidentally" as you walk past it.
Step 6. Be flirty
Many men like to be loved, but showing affection is more enjoyable (for both parties) when it is accompanied by flirting. Try one of the oldest tricks - playing hard to get. Keep men captivated by your affection. This will make him crazy and infatuated with you.
Don't be obvious when you show your love. However, if you're playing hard to get, make sure you don't keep your distance too much or you'll miss your chance. You don't have to hide your feelings all the time - sometimes there's nothing wrong with showing them openly
Step 7. Be romantic
We all know the stereotype - men are tough, adventurous and unsentimental when it comes to romance while women are emotional, fickle and romantic. Real life is not that black and white. Many men are romantic and are not shy about showing it, while many are genuinely romantic but are proud to show it. Men are usually a little reluctant to do romantic things like buying chocolates, flowers, etc. Try countering this by doing romantic things to your man and you'll be surprised how touched he is.
Step 8. Get to know him well
This is the key. In the end, in order to make your man feel good, you have to figure out "what" makes him truly happy and content which is impossible if the two of you aren't open to each other. Know the little things about him - the things that make him laugh, what he doesn't like, his irrational fears. Make jokes that only the two of you understand. Try to get used to being able to immediately know what he feels just by looking at him. You'll be able to learn these things when you spend a lot of time with each other and your guy will be able to learn from you too.
Remember, the more you get to know someone, the easier it is to hurt them. As you learn more and more about your man, make sure you use this knowledge for the good, not the bad. When angry, it's easy to bring up something very personal to hurt your partner
Warning
- He may not be open to talking at first, but you need to not only show him, but prove to him that you will "always" be there for him.
- If you're trying to get a guy's attention, don't overdo it when you're flirting, touch him and smile. Little things can send the message you want to convey.
