Giving your partner a hickey in the middle of a sex session can be fun, because it's like marking him as "yours". Likewise, receiving a hickey can be fun, as long as it's done right. Start with step 1, and you'll know how to give a fun love bite in no time.
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Method 1 of 3: Understanding Bettas
Step 1. Understand what a hickey is
Hickeys, also known as "love bites" or "kiss marks," are basically bruises caused by aggressive sucking or kissing on another person's body. At first the hickey is red, due to blocked blood flow under the skin's surface, then eventually the hickey will turn purple or dark brown as it heals.
Step 2. Understand why you might want to give someone a hickey
Hickey is a sign of lust. Giving a hickey is often done when someone is carried away by feelings because of a desire for another person. Contrary to popular belief, a hickey should be given as a sign of affirmation of physical pleasure, not to show "possession" over a partner.
Step 3. Always make sure that you ask him what he wants first
A hickey is a sexual sign, which makes the person look "inappropriate" when at school, at work, or visiting relatives' homes (for example, grandparents' homes). Some people want to avoid the embarrassment of being caught having a hickey mark, or don't want the hassle of trying to cover it up. It's best to never give a hickey to someone without first knowing your partner's feelings about it.
After all, receiving a hickey can also be painful, which for some people can be a nuisance. Consider this possibility before deciding to do it
Method 2 of 3: Making Hickey Marks
Step 1. Heat the atmosphere
Don't go straight to your partner's neck and make a hickey sign. Take the time to kiss and French kiss first, then move your lips to your partner's neck. Start with light kisses, then get stronger and more intense around the neck and collarbones. If your partner seems to be enjoying it, you may want to continue with the hickey.
"Hickey" is not a word that sounds sexy when it's whispered in someone's ear, so if you haven't asked her permission by this point, you should mention that you're going to leave a mark on her neck. Then, observe how he reacts
Step 2. Choose the location of the hickey mark
Hickeys are best done on thin, soft skin, and that's why hickeys are usually seen on the neck. However, the skin on the crook of the elbow or inner thigh is also among the locations most often chosen as the location of the hickey sign.
- If you know that your partner will be very embarrassed if they get a visible hickey, don't put it in the middle of the neck, because the sign can be seen by others.
- The back of the neck is a good location choice if your partner has long hair. Or, you can choose the collarbone, which is close to the shoulder. That part can be covered by a t-shirt.
Step 3. Open your lips slightly, then stick them on the skin
Imagine that you're making an "O" with your lips, then press your lips firmly against your partner's skin so you can make a tight mark, leaving no gaps for air to escape. Try to make your mouth look soft and seductive when you do this, instead of looking like you're having a hard time trying to kiss properly.
Step 4. Suck the peel
At this stage, the key is to suck with enough force to plug the fine blood vessels just under the skin, but not so hard that it causes pain in your partner. You'll need to suck on the skin for 20 to 30 seconds to make the hickey mark. Keep in mind:
- Don't use teeth. You certainly don't want your teeth to sink into your partner's skin and cause pain.
- Suck gradually. If thirty seconds of continuous time to make a hickey is too much for you, try doing it for ten seconds, then kissing, then continue for ten seconds in the same place, and so on.
- Control the level of saliva in your mouth. You don't want to leave a weird drip of drool on your partner's neck when giving a hickey, so just swallow the excess saliva in your mouth.
Step 5. Finish smoothly
When you're done sucking, try giving a gentle kiss on that area of skin, which may be more sensitive now. Then, continue making love as usual.
Step 6. Wait a few minutes for the hickey to show
Just like the process of bruising, you can't see the hickey mark right away. Normally, the hickey appears after 5 or 10 minutes, and the color can vary from pink to dark purple.
Step 7. Make the hickey color darker (if you and your partner want it)
If you want the hickey mark to appear larger or darker in color, return to the same location and repeat the process.
Step 8. Stop if prompted
Maybe your boyfriend doesn't mind giving a hickey, but he doesn't like how it feels when you do. Or maybe your boyfriend doesn't want his parents or boss to see the sign. Always respect your partner's wishes when he says, "No," even though you may have already started the process. A hickey sign can sometimes be seen as a sign of trust, so it's not right to abuse that trust.
Method 3 of 3: Hiding Hickey Marks
Step 1. Put on makeup
Slightly thick makeup is quite effective at covering the hickey mark. Just make sure that you pick a color that matches your skin tone exactly, and that you can use it well. If you don't, you might end up being caught trying to cover up your hickey with makeup.
Make-up for stage performers is usually very heavy, so maybe you can use it to hide a very obvious hickey mark
Step 2. Put on a scarf
A scarf is the best tool when you're trying to hide a hickey around your neck. A scarf is a wearable item that no one will question (unless it's too hot outside). Wrap the scarf around your neck, and make sure to check its position with the mirror every now and then, to make sure that it doesn't shift so that your hickey marks are visible.
Another option for covering up a hickey on the neck is to wear a turtleneck (an outfit, usually a sweater, with a high collar that wraps around the neck), assuming the weather is appropriate. Or if you have long hair, just let your hair loose
Step 3. Cover with plaster
A sheet of tape will be effective at covering the hickey mark and giving it time to heal without being seen by other people's eyes.
Step 4. Try to speed up the healing of the hickey
"Arnica" cream is said to speed up healing of bruises, so it may also be effective at removing hickeys. There are many other herbs that are thought to also help speed healing, such as compressing the hickey with ice, scrubbing it with a comb, rubbing it with a coin, and covering it with toothpaste.
You can find all these methods and their explanations in the article "How to Remove Kiss Marks"
Tips
- When sucking, play with the skin area with your tongue. The area you are sucking on becomes more sensitive and your partner can feel whatever you are doing. It will add sensual intensity and feel good.
- Always remember to be gentle and do your best not to hurt your lover.
- Make sure that you have a way to hide it, because your parents might not like it when they find out that you have a hickey.
- Don't bite the skin too hard. Make sure that if you decide to use your teeth, you only bite gently.
- Bite a little if you feel comfortable. Just a small bite. This may not be what your boyfriend likes, so watch for any signs of discomfort, or it could be really fun and make things hotter.
- To heal your hickey faster, place a wet spoon in the refrigerator. When the spoon freezes, take it out and let the freeze thaw a little. Press the spoon against the hickey mark to get rid of the swelling. Then, use a soft toothbrush and brush the hickey marks from the outside in to allow the blood to flow and the fine veins to heal.
- Try hickey in other areas that have fine blood vessels near the surface of the skin, such as on the wrists, chest, or stomach.
- Make sure that your boyfriend doesn't mind if you give him a hickey. It can be very embarrassing if he doesn't want to.
- To hide a hickey on the neck, wear a scarf, turtleneck, or jacket with a collar. To cover up your hickey marks on your arms, wear a long-sleeved shirt. Apply heavy makeup on the area and apply powder.
- Try to lick the skin where you will give the hickey.
Warning
- Receiving a hickey can be painful. If you are the recipient and you don't like how you feel, walk away and tell your partner to stop.
- Don't give a hickey if your partner has "hemophilia" (a genetic disorder that blocks the body's ability to control blood clotting). Also be careful if your partner has "anemia" (lack of hemoglobin in the blood) as the hickey marks may enlarge and become more visible.
