It may be difficult for you to be yourself or stay calm and relaxed when you are around a guy you like. As soon as you see it, you sweat, your knees go weak, and you start babbling like a five-year-old - or even worse, you're talking about Winny the Pooh, your favorite stuffed animal, simply because you can't stand the awkward silence. Don't worry – it's perfectly normal to feel like you're not being yourself when you meet a guy you have a crush on. Once you've calmed down and remember that the guy is just as nervous as you are, you'll be able to act natural and impress him in no time.
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Part 1 of 2: Getting His Attention
Step 1. Make eye contact
Just look at him normally so he doesn't get scared. When he looks back at you, smile sweetly and then move on. If you just sit and stare at him all the time, he might think you're a bit obsessive. But when you talk to him, you have to be confident. Look him in the eye, don't just look down. That way, he'll be impressed by your ability to control yourself.
Step 2. Ask him if he has any change
Exchange your money for his change. Or ask what time it is, for example because you might be late for class, or for some other reason. Ask him if he knows anyone who works in the school's administrative office. Inviting him to talk about something ordinary is not a taboo.
When conversing with him, it's okay if you look away from time to time. Keeping his eyes on her during the conversation would feel a bit serious
Step 3. Get the attention of his friends
This doesn't mean you have to openly flirt with his friends until they notice you. That is, be a fun and interesting person among his friends, and try to get to know them better. It's okay if you get along with other guys, it will only make the guy you have a crush on even more curious. However, if you go too far, these guys will have the wrong impression of you. Instead, be nice and interesting, ask her friends about their favorite sports team or weekend plans, and try to act casual so that your feelings for her aren't too obvious.
- If his friends notice and like you, they will talk about you in front of him, so he will pay more attention to you.
- If you get along with their friends, they'll even take you to parties, so there's a good chance you could go out with them.
- Fight the urge to ask his friends to ask him if he likes you. He will think you are trying to force a relationship. This will make him back off and he will find it unpleasant. Even asking his friends how he's doing or what he's doing can basically show you have a crush on him.
Step 4. Show him that you are having a good time
If he's in your circle of friends but you don't have a chance to have a conversation with him, don't spend your time moping up or making a bored face, and just waiting for him to come to you. Instead, have fun with the people around you, laugh together, tell funny stories, have fun instead of just looking left and right, and be a fun person. Make him want to approach and chat with you because other people are happy with your presence.
- If you are seen as a fun person and surrounded by people, he won't shrink down. Instead, he just wants to get to know you more.
- Guys are happy with girls who are fun to have fun with. Let him see you laugh out loud, instead of seeing you bored and looking for interesting things on your phone.
Step 5. Be yourself
If you have a conversation with him, even if it sounds cheesy, it's best to be yourself. After all, you want him to like the real you, right? You certainly don't want him to like the picture of the ideal figure you imagine. You don't have to tell everything about yourself at once, but it's best to act as casual as you are when you're with friends, just a little less familiar. You may be shy at first, but the longer you talk to her, the more comfortable you will be with being yourself.
You might think that guys like girls who laugh and play with their hair, or girls who like compliments, but they don't. Men are more attracted to independent girls who can be themselves and are comfortable with themselves so they don't have to pretend to be someone else
Step 6. Avoid bad words
You might think that gossiping or saying bad things about other people you know will make him think you're attractive, but the truth is, even if he's interested in whatever gossip you hear, he'll think you're beautiful but not trustworthy.. No guy likes to hang out with a girl who likes to talk badly, because that makes her feel like he's at the center of the drama, and no guy wants to be involved in a drama, especially a female drama.
Keep the atmosphere positive. Make the guy you have a crush on feel happy and have a pleasant experience every time he talks with you, instead of feeling your negative energy
Step 7. Don't be jealous
This is the worst thing you shouldn't do if you want to attract a guy's attention. If you see him going out with another girl, don't ask him if he likes her or say she's stupid, ugly, or fat. This will show that you are uncomfortable with yourself and extremely jealous. If you seem like a jealous person, even before you started dating him, he already imagined you would be a jealous girlfriend.
If a girl you both know shows up, impress her with the compliments you give her. He'll see that you're a cool and comfortable girl so you don't have to compete with other girls
Step 8. Ask him what he likes
Face the fact that men like to talk about themselves. Who doesn't like it? If you want him to feel good when you're with him, show him that you care about him without praising him or squeezing his muscular arms. Instead, ask him about his favorite sports team, or about the sports he participates in on the school team. Talk to him about his favorite band, television show he likes, or maybe ask him what Mexican food he likes. Of course you can also tell things about yourself; don't make him feel interrogated, as if you want to know everything about him.
There are men who are shy and don't like to talk much about themselves. If you feel this way, change the topic of conversation that you can both enjoy, such as talking about weekend plans
Part 2 of 2: Keeping His Attention
Step 1. Be nice to everyone
This is a very simple action, but very effective. Be nice to him and to others too. He will see you as a pleasant person. If you are rude and mean to other people, but kind to them, you can't go any further. If you are being nice and then quickly turn cold/arrogant, you will come across as insincere. A fickle demeanor indicates you are a moody and demanding person.
If he wants to date you, he will easily do it because he sees you easy to get along with anyone. No guy likes to date a girl who is known to fight with anyone or be rude to other people for no reason
Step 2. Flirt with him
There are people who easily launch temptations. If you are one of those people, show it. If not, just show that you're interested in him by making eye contact, smiling, and having a little chat. You can turn towards him instead of walking away and send a message that you like him and you can touch him a little if the conversation goes well. You can also tease him a little, if you get to know him and know he'll respond well.
Another way to flirt is to play around a bit. You don't have to be serious all the time
Step 3. Praise him
A sincere and simple compliment means a lot. If you find something simple you can compliment him on, say it. Choose one thing from his appearance or character that deserves praise. You could say things like, "I love your new haircut" or "It's great that you did well on the baseball team and did well in school." Compliments can be personal; don't embarrass her by saying something like, "You look sexy in that outfit." Save surprising compliments when you're actually dating.
Don't compliment him more than once every one or two conversations. If you're constantly complimenting him, he'll either feel embarrassed or feel like you're licking him
Step 4. Make physical contact
If he's flirting with you, you can gently nudge him or hit his knee playfully. Make sure the action is reciprocated. If you're the only one touching him, it means he's probably not interested or he's embarrassed to be touched. If you sit or stand next to him, try to be natural when your knees or elbows rub against him. See how he responds to that light touch. He might want more.
Step 5. Say his name when you have a conversation with him
People love to hear their name called, so say their name when you talk to them. You don't have to say his name more than once or twice during a conversation; this will make him feel special.
Step 6. Be nice to talk to
Tell funny stories of things you did last weekend. Tell me some ridiculous piece of news you've ever heard. Discuss that you enjoy dancing or playing the piano. Keep the conversation going, don't be afraid to show your silliness and make him laugh at your jokes. Be a fun and dynamic person to talk to, then he will come back to you.
It's okay if the conversation stops and you don't know what to say. Smile, and talk about other things even if they don't relate to the topic of the previous conversation. Just relax if there is a moment of silence. If you and your partner are comfortable with each other, soon you'll feel more comfortable if you don't know what to say to each other
Step 7. Stay calm
Try to stay as calm as possible, even if you feel like you have butterflies in your stomach. You can still be cheerful and happy without getting nervous or talking too much or talking too loudly just because you're around him. If you're feeling too excited, take a deep breath and calm yourself down. Avert your gaze from his face if necessary. You don't have to be quiet if your personality isn't like that, but try not to seem overly excited or excited when you're around him, or he can get a bit overwhelmed.
There's a difference between staying calm and acting like you don't care. He should still be able to know that you like him, without thinking you adore him too much
Step 8. Do the intrigue on the him
Once you've caught his attention, all you have to do is keep him coming back to you. You need to grab his attention and make him see you as a unique girl, who he needs to know more about. You can do this by being a little mysterious and not opening the cards all at once; make him want to get to know you better. When you talk to him, tell him that you should leave even though you're having a great time talking, instead of waiting for your conversation to get boring and you have to say goodbye. This will make him want to see you more often so you can continue the fun conversation.
If he's interested in you, he'll want to spend more time with you, maybe even a private chat with you. Don't get too excited if he asks you out, but just let him know you're happy
Tips
- Act within your comfort zone and wear clothes that fit. Men will know when you feel uncomfortable.
- Be yourself. He will be aware of your presence and feel more confident around you.
- Eye contact is the best way to get his attention; If your eyes meet, try to keep your eyes on them so you can keep eye contact for a second or two. Lower your head and then lift your head to look at him. One more trick to hold his gaze is to quickly look away, then slowly look back at him.
- Remember the important things. For example, remember his birthday. He'll think you really care about him and will know you're interested.
- When you're with him, you can tease him by laughing when he tells jokes even if they aren't funny. But be careful, if you laugh too much, the he can become disinterested.
- Be his friend. If he doesn't want to be friends with you, your relationship isn't going well. Give advice and be there for him.
- Pay attention to personal hygiene and you need to always look clean: brush your teeth, wash your hair, and don't let food get to your clothes.
- Make sure your breath is always fresh - maybe you can nibble on some peppermint or chew some peppermint gum when he's not looking.
- Smile. Be confident. Use positive body language and make eye contact.
- Don't look desperate, just take a breath and relax. It's also good if you hang out with his friends so you have the opportunity to chat with him.
- Wear nice clothes so he'll think you care about yourself and care about your well-being.
- Don't stalk him, or he'll think you're a freak. Be nice.
- If he asks for your phone number (and you did see him), give him your number. (Never give him a landline number! You don't want him to suddenly call your parents when he thinks you're home, do you?)
- If you don't talk much, start getting to know each other. Talk about his favorite things like video games, that way he will pay attention to you.
- Make sure you smell fresh or nice, but don't overdo it - guys like that.
- Tell him who you are. Invite him to chat. You can invite your friends to approach him and his friends if you're too shy to approach him alone.
- If you're already friends, but not close friends, try taking him to a movie and if he wants to, sit next to him. If he wants to hug you, don't be afraid, it means he likes you.
- If you think he likes you, don't be afraid to ask! And if he says yes, or compliments you, thank him and compliment him too! Don't do it right away, but maybe later so he doesn't think you're being too pushy.
- Be patient. If you haven't spoken to him yet, see if he'll make the effort first.
- Ask your friends for help. Not that you ask them to ask if he likes you. That is, ask them to talk about you when they are with him or maybe help you to be a little more attractive to him, inside and out.
- If you are walking together, gently nudge your hand against his.
- If the guy you have a crush on isn't being nice to you, you don't need to keep nurturing your crush on him. Deep down, maybe he is mean, rude, and likes to make trouble. If you are friends with her friends, ask for all the information about her. You will get lots of hints.
- If you're still too young to date, invite him to sit with you at lunch or play with him during school breaks.
- If he's had a lot of bad relationships with other people in the past and you're afraid he'll do the same to you, it's best if you don't hold on to him and move on with your life.
- Try putting notes on his desk or locker. He will see the note and know that you are interested in him.
- Don't act weird, don't show your moles and don't do anything inappropriate.
- You don't have to be busy with your cell phone while you're on a date! He'll think you're treating your day like a normal day and instead are busy texting your friends, and he'll think you don't care even if you're with him!
- If he asks you out, it means he likes you. However, if he wants to go out in a group, maybe he doesn't want to rush or he just doesn't have a crush on you.
- Don't leave while you're having a conversation with him, keep the conversation as long as possible. If you have to leave later, when the other person isn't talking, politely convey that you must leave, but that you will be in contact with him shortly or hope to see him again.
- Be yourself, be funny, act natural. Get his attention. No need to act weird, he might run away. Do things you've never done to impress him or do things he likes to get his attention.
- Know the right time to invite him to go. First of all, you have to make sure you like him and that he is a good match for you.
- When you're with a guy you like, be yourself. Don't act weird and weird like a drama queen, it's boring.
- Don't tell him you like him right away. This will frighten him and disgust him somewhat.
- If he's not interested, don't beat yourself up too much. He's the loser!
- Don't try to imitate the girls he hangs out with a lot. Just because he goes out with them, doesn't mean he thinks they meet the criteria of being girlfriends.
- If you don't like her friends, don't be so outspoken. Be nice to them as much as possible. However, if you don't like them because of the way they treat you, don't be afraid to speak up!
- Find out what his interests are, then use that as a topic of conversation. Try to joke around with him, especially if you know what makes him laugh. If you have the same interests, that's even better! If he gets along with you or enjoys your humor, he's likely to make an effort to keep talking to you. Make sure he starts the conversation too, or else it can get awkward later and he could have the wrong feelings.
Warning
- No need to dress up too flashy to impress her. Again, be yourself and wear comfortable clothes.
- Keep the conversation balanced. Don't keep talking about you, or keep talking about him.
- Don't dramatize everything in life. Men like people who are calm and in control. Funny and, well, no exaggeration.
- Don't act like everyone else. Get him to like the real you.
- Don't be too "goofy." This can send the wrong signal and make him no longer interested. Make room for him.
- Don't stalk him! Stalkers are weirdos. Being with him and being around him are the same thing. If the conversation stops for 30 seconds, say goodbye. Try to be the first to leave, so he doesn't think you're obsessive and tell him you have other interests.
- Make sure your friends think he's a good person. If you don't, this could cause problems for you to get to him, and more importantly, drama between you and your friends.
- Don't follow him too much! It could give the impression that you are stalking him. Your goal is to get him to approach you. If you don't turn away from him, he will turn away from you.
- Remember, men are different. Some guys don't even like physical contact!
- Don't praise him too much in front of everyone.
- Don't take your friends with you when you're trying to impress a guy!
- Don't laugh too hysterically (or too flashy). He can get away from you.
- Don't call him right away after the date. Wait a day and a half, unless he says when you can call him.
- If he already has a girlfriend or ex-girlfriend, be careful. Try to be friends with the girl, so you don't have to keep an eye on her every time you talk to her. If the girl is his girlfriend and not his ex, take it slow when flirting with him.
