The attraction between two people is something of a mystery. Sometimes, this seems to just happen without any effort from each person. There are other examples that show that attraction takes a long time to develop. In fact, in some cases, it's unlikely that it will ever happen, regardless of how much effort you make to get someone to like you. There's no surefire way to get the person you like to like you back. However, there are some useful things you can do!
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Method 1 of 3: Attracting Your crush's attention
Step 1. Try to get his attention, but don't act too aggressive
If your crush doesn't know you or isn't aware of how you feel, you may be tempted to tell him how you feel right away. However, doing this could be terrifying for him. It's also possible that he will take advantage of you or not respect your feelings.
- Don't stalk him. To make him aware of your presence/feelings, you have to be around him; but you will look scary if you are seen following him all the time.
- Make sure to always be busy with something if he is around you. Look like you're busy, not like you're just waiting to get attention.
Step 2. Be friendly and cheerful
When your crush is around you, try to act like you're at a fun party. Laugh, talk to other people, and be noisy (but not distracting). You have to look like a happy person with an active social life.
When your crush is around you, open up to make you appear approachable. Most people get tensed when they try to appear calm and composed around the person they like, but they end up looking like an introverted person. Try to avoid this by being friendly and open to talking
Step 3. Show off something
Look for opportunities to show off what you're good at in front of people you like. Can you play musical instruments well? Look for opportunities to show off your talents when he's around! Can you play baseball? If you see that he is around you, invite your friends to play catch and throw.
It's fine if you appear successful, but don't come off as arrogant or mean. So, show off your skills without bringing others down
Step 4. Use your eyes
You can steal glances at your crush secretly, but don't stare at them all the time. You can let him know you're paying attention, but don't look at him all the time to get attention.
You just occasionally glance at it with a glance, at least less than a second
Step 5. Bring out your best (and smell) best
Once you know that your crush will be around you, try to look your best. Wear nice clothes and keep your hair and nails neat and clean.
Make your body smell good and keep your body clean. You can wear a little perfume or fragrance for a distinctive scent, but don't overdo it. Scientific studies show that subtle (subtle) odors are more attractive. In fact, many people think that using too much perfume makes it smell bad
Step 6. Start the conversation
Once you meet eye contact with the person you like, say hello. Introduce yourself and find something to talk about.
Method 2 of 3: Getting to Know Each Other
Step 1. Find out about the person you like and what their hobbies are
Ask him some questions about his favorite activities, types of music, books, or movies. This can be a great conversation material, because everyone likes to talk about their own interests.
If you know one of their friends, you can ask that friend about the interests of the person you like. Sometimes, the news that you're asking about the person you like will pass directly to him. Besides being an added bonus, this will also give a signal that you like it without having to say it outright
Step 2. Look for common interests
Hopefully you and your crush like some of the same things. Once you've figured out what he likes, you'll have some ideas for things to talk about when you're with him, as well as ideas for activities you might do together.
- Don't pretend to like something you don't like just to impress her. You are not honest with yourself. Plus, the person you like will eventually discover that you don't really like it or that you don't really know much about it. This would be embarrassing.
- For example, your and your crush's passion for the same favorite band would make for a great conversationalist. However, if you hate the band and your crush asks you about them, you can simply say politely that you don't really like the band. Then tell me something you like. That way, you won't come off as negative, and you won't pretend to be someone else.
Step 3. Spend time together
Once you've had the chance to have a little chat with him, look for opportunities to spend time with him.
- Use your interests to do so. If you like drawing and your crush is in an art club, then you can join that club too. If you both love baseball, try taking your crush to a baseball game.
- At first, it's a good idea to try to spend time with your crush in a situation that also involves other people. But once you get to know each other, ask him to do something together.
Step 4. Be a positive person
Most people enjoy being around positive people. So when you're with someone you like, try to be positive and happy. After all, being with this person should make you feel good too.
- Don't put yourself down too much. Nobody likes arrogant people, but at the same time you shouldn't belittle yourself. If you want the person you like to feel the same way, you have to show that you like yourself. If your crush compliments you, say "Thank you!"
- Don't complain too much. Everyone has bad days sometimes and needs a little vent. However, try to discuss something light and fun with your crush.
Method 3 of 3: Seducing the Person You Like
Step 1. Make eye contact
Once you start spending time with the person you like, you can start sending signals that you like him, by letting your eyes do the talking.
- At this point, you should start making eye contact with him for a few seconds, staring at him, then looking the other way. See if it does the same.
- Do not make eye contact for too long, because it can be scary.
Step 2. Smile
Once you make eye contact with him, smile at yourself. Don't grin too wide and look too excited. A slight smile will show him that you're glad they're paying attention to you.
Step 3. Be yourself
Regardless of how you decide to approach the person you like, it's important that you be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone else to please him. He will never really like you if he doesn't know the real you.
Also, don't try too hard to tease her and think too much about it. Giving him too many compliments, always laughing at his every joke, or constantly winking or posing will not seem sincere. Even if this stresses you out, you need to stay calm and be yourself
Step 4. Make physical contact
Once you get to know your crush and he responds well to your flirting, try to touch him in a joking manner. As an example:
- When he's joking, you can laugh and touch his arm for a bit, or lightly hit his hand.
- If you run into her in the hallway or other place, try to make your shoulder touch hers as if it was accidental.
- Wiggle your fingers on his arm lightly.
- Stand near him. But don't make him feel uncomfortable. If he moves away, respect his wiggle room.
- Hold her hand when you pull her or take her somewhere.
- When you are next to him, touch his wrist with your fingers to tickle him.
- Hug him when you greet him or say goodbye.
- If you think he's starting to like you back, give him a peck on the cheek to see how they react. But don't try to do it if he doesn't show any signs of being interested in you. If he shows it, take the risk and try to do it when it's just the two of you.
Tips
- If you're feeling shy or scared, you can start by simply being around people you like. Then, have a little talk with him. Once you're comfortable, you can start talking about more personal things.
- Don't be mean to him, even if you're just pretending, or he won't like you. But you can tease him a little, and he might laugh.
- Pick the perfect place to seduce him and make sure you get to know him well.
- You have to be friendly with the person you like and help them when they are at school. Besides the two of you being able to get closer, he will know that you want to be with him and are there for him.
Warning
- Never try to kiss or touch your crush if he doesn't want you to – this behavior is dishonorable, even against the law.
- You have to get to know him first before you try to seduce him. He might make the perfect dream boyfriend, or it could end up the other way around. You may find that you don't like it as much as you think!
- Don't seduce him too much. Being too aggressive will either distance him or make him think you're weird.
- There's no surefire way to get the person you like to like you back. If the steps above don't work, don't keep insisting on them. Sometimes, you have to give up.
