Unfortunately, the love potion doesn't exist and you have to work on getting the man you adored to reciprocate your feelings. Remember to be confident and be yourself. Guys love it when someone who likes them has a unique personality! Get to know your crush as a friend and gradually, chat and spend more time with him. Invite him to spend time, either with other friends or alone. As he begins to get to know you better, hopefully he feels the same about you too!
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Part 1 of 3: Becoming Friends
Step 1. Show trust and confidence when around him
When you have your crush, it's hard for you not to feel nervous when he's around you, but try to stay calm and remember that he's just an ordinary guy. Feel free to make eye contact and smile at him.
Don't show excessive eye contact! If you stare at him for too long, he will feel awkward or uncomfortable. In general, end eye contact after 4-5 seconds
Step 2. Embrace your interests and hobbies to show that you have a unique personality
It's okay if you have your own opinions and like the things you're interested in, even if you don't think they're “cool”. Don't pretend you like something you don't like to impress someone. Guys know when you're faking it.
It doesn't matter if you have a different opinion or disagree with the person you like. If your class is discussing something, don't hesitate to stand up for or express what you believe. That way, he knows that you have your own opinion and is an interesting person to chat with
Step 3. Show friendliness to his friends
There's a good chance the guy you like will reciprocate your feelings if his friends think you're a fun person. Feel free to talk to them in class, in the school hallway, in the cafeteria, or at extracurricular or after-school activities. Ask about their hobbies, talk about homework assignments, and share things you both enjoy (eg the same book or movie).
Think about how to make friends with anyone. In general, you need to find common ground and start talking about it. Show friendliness and smile, and ask questions about other people
Warning:
Be careful not to be too "sweet" to his friends. This could send the wrong signal or make one of his friends fall in love with you!
Step 4. Have a sense of humor and show [your attractive side]
Don't be afraid to take chances and try new things, even when you're feeling scared or nervous. Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself or tell a joke in front of him. A sense of humor, as well as a cheerful and fun character are things that are considered attractive!
- For example, if your class needs volunteers for a particular activity, don't hesitate to come forward and help.
- If you do something embarrassing, try to laugh it off and turn it into a joke. This way, others will understand that you are taking everything too seriously.
Step 5. Ask open-ended questions to get to know him better
Of course it will be easy for you to talk about yourself, but when you want to get to know someone better, try asking questions about the person you are talking to. Open-ended questions require more than a “yes” or “no” answer and are appropriate to encourage others to share! You can try asking the following questions:
- What do you think about the books we should read in Indonesian class?
- What is it like to have a hectic soccer practice schedule in this hot weather?
- What do you enjoy doing on the weekends?
- What's your favorite television show right now?
Tip:
Keep your phone away when you're with him. When everyone's always busy with their phones, you can put your phone away so you can focus on what they're saying and show or reflect your feelings more.
Part 2 of 3: Flirting and Spending Time Together
Step 1. Throw in compliments about her personality, intelligence, and appearance
By complimenting him, you show that you've been paying attention to him. Try to give compliments that are short and direct, without being extended. He may respond to your compliment with a thank you or simply a smile.
- For example, you could say, “Congratulations! You did well in today's class presentation."
- To compliment her appearance, you can say, "Your haircut looks great today" or "This sweater brings out the charm of your eyes."
- If you want to seduce him a little, you can say, "Ah, you can make me laugh!"
Step 2. Remove the touch limit to know the response
Acceptable physical contact (eg a touch on his arm or shoulder) is a great way to gauge his feelings for you. If he smiles and doesn't walk away, he may be comfortable with your attention. If he stays away, he may not or may not be interested in interacting more closely with you.
Small moments of physical contact can strengthen the bond between the two of you, even if the physical contact is light
Step 3. Ask for his cell phone number and text him to chat more outside of school
When you first text, you can say “Hey, Jojo! This is Rina! What are you doing? To start another conversation, you can ask him what he thinks about school activities, homework he might have done, or what he's doing at night.
If he sends you a short reply (or doesn't reply to your message at all), don't send multiple messages straight away. Leave it until he calls you back or at least, you have a good reason to message him
Tip:
If you're in doubt when you want to ask for her number, use homework as an excuse to get it. You can say, “Can I have your number, please? I need to ask you a few things about homework.”
Step 4. Encourage him and remember important details
Pay attention to what's going on in his life, such as an important exam, a sporting match or competition, or other exciting things (eg vacations). Talk about these things when you meet him in person. If you have his phone number, you can send him a message of encouragement.
- For example, you could send the message, “Excited for your match tomorrow!”
- Discuss the important events that he experienced by asking questions. For example, you could ask, “I hope you enjoyed last weekend's game. How is the result?"
- Before an important exam, you can send him a note like, “Good luck! I know you can do well."
Step 5. Plan a “study date” to spend time alone
You can study with him at school in your spare time, or after school at one of you's house. You can also visit a coffee shop or library to study. Send him a message or meet him after school to ask him to study together. Express your invitation in a relaxed manner, even when you're actually feeling nervous.
- You can say, “Hey, Brian! Do you want to study with me next Wednesday for the history test?”
- If he accepts your invitation, congratulations! Set a time and place to meet. If he refuses, try not to take his choice to heart. Maybe he has a busy schedule or just doesn't want to study at all.
- This also applies to things other than classes. You can use activities that you do together, such as bands, dramas, sports, or student council as an excuse to spend time together while practicing or planning something.
Step 6. Plan a group date with other friends as a more casual activity
Group dates are a great time to spend time with your crush and allow them to meet you in casual situations. Take your friends to a movie, party, sporting event, or other fun event, like a bonfire or game night. Also invite your idol and ask him to bring his friends.
You can say, “Hey, Malik! My friends and I are having a game night this Friday. You and your friends must come along! I'll let you know the full plan via text message."
Part 3 of 3: Keeping the Momentum
Step 1. Send him a message after spending time with him to gauge his feelings for you
This is a great way to test his feelings after you've met and spent time with your crush (whether studying together or attending the same event). Don't text him right away after meeting him. Wait for about 1 day so you don't seem insistent.
- You can send a message like, “I'm glad I met you yesterday. Hope you enjoy the show.”
- You can also say something more “bold”, like “I enjoyed spending time with you last weekend. I hope we can have fun together again!”
Step 2. Tell him that you enjoy spending time with him
Saying this is less risky than simply saying "I like you." In addition, this expression can be a kind of compliment to him that shows that you feel comfortable with him. Surely anyone is happy to know that his presence is liked by others!
- Before you say goodbye, you can say, “That was so much fun! I enjoyed spending time with you”, then smiled at him.
- If he asks you to do activities together, you can say, “Sounds like fun! I enjoyed spending time with you.”
- You can also send a simple short message like “I was happy to study with you yesterday.”
Step 3. Keep asking him to spend time with you so you can get closer to him
As long as he wants to spend time with you and seems comfortable in your presence, still spend time with him and chat regularly. Who knows, he might call you first and ask you to spend some time with him.
Beware if the figure of your idol seems to often seduce. It is possible that he often invites some people who are interested in him to spend time with him. Take care of your heart and don't let you chase it relentlessly. If you feel that he is playing a trick on you, take a step back and wait for him to catch up to you. If not, maybe it's time for you to forget about it
Step 4. Be patient and don't feel pressured if things are going too slowly
Remember that getting to know him and getting to know his feelings for you can take a few weeks or longer. People don't always have feelings of liking quickly. Focus on being his best friend and keep a positive attitude.
If you're feeling impatient and need to talk about your feelings to see if they feel the same for you, you can do that. However, be prepared to hear the answer, both positive and negative
Step 5. Remember your worth no matter what
Hopefully, after a few weeks or months of spending time together, he will come after you and you can move on to a more serious relationship. However, even if that doesn't happen, remember that there's nothing wrong with you, your personality, and your appearance. Sometimes, someone just isn't your soul mate for whatever reason.
If you're experiencing heartbreak, take a few weeks to focus on yourself, your hobbies, and your friends. Remember that you can be clean and in the end, you will be back to how you used to be.:)
Tips
- Don't hesitate to invite your crush to spend some time together or share your feelings! You don't have to wait for him to take the first step.
- Remember that you don't always have to give your time. If you have plans with other friends, you will appear more attractive.
