So you're in love with a cute girl, but you don't know what to do every time you're around her! No need to worry. While there's no guarantee he'll want to date you, there are surefire ways to increase the likelihood. Check out part 1 so you can start being nice around the girl you like!
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Method 1 of 3: Build Your Personality
Step 1. Build your confidence
Self-confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have. You don't have to be super sexy or stocky like Chris Hemsworth. Confidence requires a firm belief that you are worthy. If you believe in that, then which girl do you like? He will be sure too!
- It takes time and a little effort to build self-confidence, especially if you're starting from the bottom. Even if you don't have faith in yourself, act confident. Pretending to be confident can actually trick your brain into believing that you are really confident.
- Walk with an upright posture, as if you were important. Cross your legs when sitting, no need to be afraid to take up space. Lean quietly into the nearest backrest. Don't cross your arms in front of your chest, and don't make eye contact when talking to people. These two cues can give the impression that you are on the defensive.
Step 2. Be yourself
Part of being confident is being yourself and accepting yourself as you are. Trying to change yourself into someone else won't work with the girl you like. He will see that you are uncomfortable with who you are and that you are lying about yourself; he won't be happy.
- Show your uniqueness and what makes you attractive. You don't have to walk around wearing a pocket protector (is anyone still wearing this?), but that doesn't mean you have to hide your interest in computers.
- Don't try to be someone else, especially if you're trying to be someone you think "he" likes. If she's not interested in your true self, then she's not the right girl for you.
Step 3. Keep yourself clean
It's hard to get her attention if you smell bad and your hair is greasy. Shower regularly and use soap. Wear clothes that have been washed. Trousers and jeans can be reused, as long as they are not too dirty, but shirts must be changed every day.
- Be wary of using aftershave or cologne. Just a little use can last a long time! Of course, you don't want to approach the girl you like with an overwhelming cologne scent. If you must use it, use a small amount.
- Get to know the smell of deodorant before buying so you know how strong and what it smells like. Again, you don't want the smell to be too strong, but too little deodorant (especially after you've played basketball or soccer) will mix up the smell.
Step 4. Own your life
Another very important thing to remember is that you need to have your own life. Don't just focus on that one girl and always try to be around her 24 hours a day. This method will not work. In fact, you'll get too hopeful and look pathetic; and he will become less and less attracted to you.
- Pursue your interests. If you like soccer, join a team and compete. You can even (if you dare) invite him to watch or kick the ball with you.
- That means you have friends to hang out with. Do things with your friend instead of doing things only when you know he's coming, or just doing something alone with him.
- Not that you completely ignore him. Of course not. When you meet him (whether at school or at an event), ask him how he is and mention some things you're working on (e.g. learning a new language, rock climbing, playing Call of Duty)
Method 2 of 3: Acting Appropriately
Step 1. Be respectful
Most men are taught that they don't have to be respectful of women and they do. Don't be like them. Respect doesn't mean being a doormat or being "whipped" but treating the girl you like like a normal human being.
- One way to be respectful is to stop doing something when he asks you to stop doing it. For example, let's say you two are engaged in a tickle war and he says "Stop it!" You have to stop, even if you don't think he means it. If he doesn't mean it, he'll tell you and ask you to continue.
- Respect others when you're around them (and when you're not). Don't talk about your ex as a "bitch" or similar language. Don't belittle women, or call your fellow men "sissies." You will be considered rude by women and also considered immature.
Step 2. Read her body language
While many men say women's body language is a mystery, it's actually not that difficult. Remember, you can tell when your sister is mad at you, or when your girlfriend is trying to ignore you. The girl you like is just the same.
- If during this time he has not made eye contact with you or answered you briefly, only one word, then he does not want to be around you, or he is angry with you. It's best if you back off.
- It's pretty obvious when a girl wants to be with you. He will turn towards you. He will make eye contact, smile and laugh at the things you say (not mocking laughter). He will even touch you (like touching your arm).
Step 3. Make eye contact
It turns out that making eye contact is one of the best ways to seduce someone of the opposite sex who catches your eye. This is a great method you can use in a classroom, if you sit in the right position; or even the entire room at a party.
- You can do this a few different ways. A good way is to make eye contact if he is across the room, look him in the eye and maintain it. Now, if you two are in a conversation, make sure to look him in the eye. For some reason, such intimacy, long gazes can cause him to be nervous.
- Smile when you look at him, especially when making eye contact. A small smile can be so much better than a big grin.
Step 4. Don't ignore his friends
For a girl, friends are very important. He will listen to their opinions, even if it is not always carried out. If her friends don't like you, they will grumble and raise doubts in your crush's mind. To prevent that from happening, you have to make sure that his friends like you.
- Learn some things they like and ask about them. For example, if their friends like a television show, ask them about the show (what's their favorite thing about the show, favorite character, favorite episode, something about the show or fandom).
- If you're chatting with a girl you like and have friends around you, be sure to include them in the chat. You can still give him a touching impression, make an impression, while making his friends not feel neglected at all.
- In any case, do not seduce his friends. You don't want to be seen as a playboy trying to get every woman's attention. Your crush won't feel that you're attracted to him if you flirt with his friends too.
Method 3 of 3: Know What to Chat
Step 1. Ask him a question
When you're chatting with the girl you like, you want to make her feel special. People love it when other people are attracted to them and your girl is no exception. Showing that you care about his thoughts will make him even more attracted to you.
- Ask his opinion on things, even silly things. For example: tell me you're wearing a t-shirt that your friend doesn't like, ask her opinion on whether the t-shirt looks stupid or not. Tell him that he's the judge. This will make him laugh and feel important.
- Watch what he does and says, so you can ask him questions. For example, if he mentions rock climbing, ask him how he started rock climbing and what he enjoyed about it. People love to tell stories about themselves, so before you jump into stories about yourself, ask another question about what they're thinking.
Step 2. Listen
Today people have lost the ability to listen (meaning really listen) to one another. Serious listening is when you absorb what people are saying instead of thinking about what you're going to say next or what's on the menu for dinner tonight.
- For example: you are at a noisy party, while talking to him, maintain eye contact, ask something and if your mind wanders, ask for clarification (you can use the noise as an excuse: "Sorry, it's very noisy in here. Can repeat what did you say?”)
- At this point, when you're chatting with him, don't be nervous about other things, or looking around the room, or busy with your cell phone. He'll feel like you don't really care what he's saying.
Step 3. Make him laugh
Laughter is a great way to bond. Not that you have to be the class clown (Actually, it's best if you don't). What he means is that you make him laugh and say some comforting things. Everyone has a different sense of humor and you know his taste. But if you're not convinced, there are some things that rarely fail when put into practice.
- Laugh at yourself. You don't need to badmouth yourself (it will make you look insecure), but just a few jabs at yourself will make him laugh and show you're not taking yourself too seriously. For example: tell a story about how you hit your head with a ball this morning because you weren't alert, or when you walked into the wrong classroom because you forgot the day.
- Tell me something funny you came across that day (or last week). Must be something unusual and funny. For example: ask if he has ever been stuck with a bunch of zombies and tell me about your experience being stuck in the middle of a parade of people dressed as zombies.
Step 4. Seduce him
Seduction can be very hit or miss and should be done with care. Because everyone is different, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to flirting.
- Seducing too blatantly can make some girls ilfeel, unless she clearly shows she wants to be seduced. Keep this in mind when you are with him. If you're not a great seducer, eye contact and humor might be your weapon.
- Flirting or flirting via text, however, can be a great, harmless type of flirting. Of course, you should only use this as a supplement to your face-to-face interactions. Use short text, sometimes a picture says more than a thousand words (especially funny pictures; "DON'T" send an explicit picture unless he asks for it!) Great if you have a reason to send a short message. You can say something like, “see this and remember you” (then send the picture).
- Giving the right kind of compliment can be a great way to express your interest and seduce him. Don't say trite things like "You're the most beautiful girl I've ever met" (it'll be considered insincere). Instead, say something like “Did you notice that the sweater you're wearing fits your eyes? What a beautiful color,” or “Obviously you got good grades, you are really smart!”
Step 5. State your feelings
In the end, the best way is to express your feelings. Maybe he never knew. It seems very intimidating or scary to express your feelings this way. (and also a brave act!). However, otherwise, the two of you will continue to be in uncomfortable uncertainty.
- Don't do this in front of everyone. Choose a time and place where you are both calm and sober. Just say "Hey, I really like you and maybe we can go on a date some other time."
- Don't do this over the phone or on social media, as you will come across as a coward and most girls don't see that as an attractive quality.
- Respect her decision, even if she says "no." It hurts when you get rejected, but remember that it's not about you as a person, it's just about your proposal not working for him (because he's not interested, or because he already has a girlfriend, or he likes the same sex, etc). You can ask "why" if you feel you have to, but if the answer is "Because I'm not interested." Accept that answer and leave him.
- If he answers "Yes," then congratulations! Now you two can plan a super fun first date. It may not be a good relationship in the future, but you have proven your mettle by asking her out and value you with respect for her.
Tips
- Make him as comfortable as possible with you. Be kind and open.
- Remember, be kind to everyone. This will not only help your reputation, but also give you new friends who may know about the person. But if his friends don't like you, it will greatly reduce your chances of getting him.
- Don't give him the impression that you're just playing games or teasing him and don't really like him.
Warning
- Never ask a friend for help in asking him out. Most girls deduce this as your lack of courage and insincerity; and he will probably refuse because he thinks it's a joke!
- Don't follow him anywhere. You will be impressed creepy and strange. He will wonder, "what are you doing?"
- Many people say if you want a girl, make her jealous. Often women see jealousy as a sign that she doesn't have a chance. Saying how "sexy" another girl is will only hurt her feelings, whether she wants to date you or not.
- Don't lie to him no matter what (even a small lie).
- Being with a girl you've been friends with for a long time can ruin your friendship, but it doesn't always have to be, if you can both act mature.
