Love can lead to complicated situations, especially if the girl you like finds out that you like her. Even though you want to quickly get rid of any awkward feelings between the two of you, it may take some time before you really figure out how he feels about you. This article will help to smooth your relationship with him as well as find out how he feels about you.
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Method 1 of 5: Making Relationships
Step 1. Make sure that he likes you too
Ask a friend who knows him for help to ask if “he” likes you. For example, “Do you have a crush on [your name]? I am being curious. Judging from the way you look at him and smile at him, it seems like you've been harboring feelings for him all this time."
Step 2. Believe in yourself
Relationships with the girl you like may be awkward and a little strained once she finds out you like her. It could be that he avoids you, or refuses to talk to you for a while. However, it's not your fault if he doesn't want to see you. He's probably just trying to ignore the emotions that make him feel embarrassed so he doesn't do silly things. If you don't have faith in yourself and don't believe that you can handle all of this, the situation will be even more difficult to resolve, and you may not have enough courage to save your relationship with him.
Step 3. Demonstrate normal behavior
Even though the situation is slightly different, you have to pretend that things are going as usual. This trick will make him feel relaxed and gradually less tense because he knows that you are the same friend, even though now he knows you like him. You may have to crack more jokes to make him laugh, but your priority now is to make him feel comfortable.
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It can be hard to pretend like everything is okay, but after a while, the awkwardness will go away if you try hard enough. However, avoid overdoing it and looking fake. A forced smile and boring words will do nothing, it can even make the situation worse.
1923951 2b1 - Don't say anything about your feelings for him. Even if you're curious, don't try to ask how he feels about you. At this stage, he may feel confused, insecure, and uncomfortable. Don't let him start avoiding you because it means a dead end for your relationship with him.
- Don't mention love in your conversations and interactions with him. Even if you are tempted to flirt with him, try to hold yourself back until at least he feels a little comfortable and relaxed when interacting with you again.
Step 4. Let happiness color your life
Regardless of the situation and insecurities you both feel, try to appear happy and live a normal life. Happiness and smiles tend to be contagious, and you have a better chance of paving the way for your relationship with them more quickly if you display a cheerful and cheerful attitude that makes them smile and laugh. However, don't overdo it and act really silly. If he's not used to your crazy behavior, it's best to avoid him at this stage as doing so could inadvertently scare him.
Method 2 of 5: Approaching Him
It may take a few weeks to get rid of the uncomfortable feeling, but sometimes it can take no more than a week, depending on the personality. Now that you know that he feels comfortable around you, you can now concentrate on knowing how he feels about you. Know that this won't happen in 24 hours, it will take time.
Step 1. Make frequent eye contact when talking to him
This will show that you are interested in the conversation and what he has to say. Plus, this will make him feel comfortable because he's sure you're listening. However, do not stare at him constantly because it can make him uncomfortable. Don't let yourself look bored or look the other way too often. Try to make reasonable eye contact so that it benefits both parties.
Step 2. During the lesson, sit nearby
Although you can choose to sit right next to him, you can also occupy the seat behind or in front of him. Don't limit yourself when it comes to seating options. Even if you believe sitting next to him is the only way to get his attention, remember that sitting behind and in front of him also has its advantages. Use a nearby seat as an opportunity to talk and work with him. However, make sure you pick the right time to talk to him so he doesn't get into trouble.
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One way to get his attention is to take responsibility right away if the teacher catches you two chatting. He will not only feel grateful for you, but will also consider you a good person, especially if you have been nice to him all this time. However, don't treat her like she's helpless because that will irritate her.
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If you sit next to him, you can ask him to work together on a project or group assignment. However, don't do it too often so that he also gets a chance to work with friends and other students he also knows.
- Even if he refuses your offer, remember that the most important thing is intention. Try again next time when he's in a good mood.
- Having a good relationship with him helps increase your chances of being in a relationship.
- If he keeps turning down your offers, it may be time for you to stop. This shows that he is not interested in you. Stop before he asks you to do it.
Step 3. Offer to tutor her or help her study, especially if you know she's having trouble with some subjects
It helps a lot if you're better at that subject than he is, but remember not to act smart. Even if he lags in some subjects, you shouldn't make him feel inferior. You have to make him feel confident when he's around you. That way, he will definitely want to be with you more often.
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You should only offer to tutor him when he asks for it or complains about his poor grades in that subject. It's possible that he will take your offer as an insult, and refuse to talk to you again, but that depends on his character.
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If he accepts the offer, make the time you spend with him a fun and unforgettable moment. Treat him as a good friend. Don't constantly stare at him or say words of love or seduce him while interacting with him. He will feel uncomfortable, and may refuse to study with you.
At first, he may feel surprised if you treat him as a good friend, but over time he will get used to it and will enjoy it. Use this method to befriend him in no time
Step 4. Engage him in daily conversation about various interesting topics that he enjoys
At first, you may have to start a conversation first, but once he gets used to talking to you every day, he will start talking without being provoked first. However, if she's a shy girl, she may enjoy chatting with you, but doesn't have the courage to approach you. Know that he's not avoiding you, but that he's just too shy.
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During the conversation, try to read his body language subtly. Notice if he feels comfortable and makes physical contact with you (for example, touching your arm or shoulder while laughing at your jokes). Play back the words in your mind and find clues that can show how he feels about you.
1923951 7b1 - Don't forget to make reasonable eye contact.
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End the conversation before there is a silence that makes both of you uncomfortable. Even if you don't want to end the conversation at the wrong time, make sure you finish it politely, while the conversation is still fun. Even if you want to continue chatting with him, it would be better if you made him look forward to chatting with you because it all ended well. You may need to chat a few times and practice a bit before knowing when it's a good time to end the conversation well, but don't give up until you get the hang of it.
Find a good reason to end the conversation so it doesn't arouse suspicion or hurt feelings while you're gone. Always try to end the conversation in a friendly manner while showing that you enjoyed the conversation and want to do it again. You can say, "I'm happy to have a chat with you, but I have to finish my work now." or "We'll do it again later. I have to go to class now!”
Method 3 of 5: Proceeding to the Next Level
Step 1. Invite him to join a group event
This step can only be done after you both know each other well enough. Take your friends to a movie and invite them too. Make sure she's not the only girl so as not to make her feel uncomfortable or threatened. Choose a movie he will like or ask him to choose it. Before entering, buy a drink for you and him (do not share a drink with him), and a bag of popcorn to share. If you offer to share popcorn with him before the movie starts, chances are you can sit next to him. During the screening, make sure you sit next to him. To make sure you can sit next to him, you have to follow him right behind him. This way, you know where he's sitting, and you'll be close enough to sit right next to him.
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Don't choose a romantic movie because it will remind her that you like her, and she may feel uncomfortable. Choose a comedy or action movie so you can laugh together.
1923951 8b1 - Show gentleman behavior. For example, you can open the door for him and let him through first. However, be careful not to treat her like a helpless child as this will irritate her and make her feel uncomfortable with herself.
- After the movie is over, you can discuss it and ask if he likes it.
- After that, invite him to join other group events, but not so often that he gets a chance to participate in other events he wants. If you're in a sports club, take him to your games, even if you know he doesn't like watching sports. He may come to your match just to support you if he has special feelings for you.
Step 2. Buy him gifts for special occasions only, like Christmas or birthdays
However, you should not choose a sentimental or romantic gift. You have to choose a gift that will make him smile and enjoy it. For example, you can buy his favorite band's CD album.
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If you want to give him a gift for Valentine's Day, choose something that is not romantic. Don't try too hard and make him uncomfortable. You can buy something as simple as a cute teddy bear.
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Method 4 of 5: Taking Action
By now, you must have an idea of how he feels about you; vague or clear. If you believe he's attracted to you, move on. If you feel he has no interest in you, there are two options; keep the friendship or take the risk to continue it. However, know that rebuilding a friendship with him may be more difficult if you choose to move on. Here are some ways to ask him to express his feelings for you:
Step 1. Write him a letter
Writing a letter is sweet and will make him feel more comfortable. He will have enough time to decide when to reciprocate, and have time to sort out his thoughts and feelings. He may be able to give a better answer than he could if you asked the question directly. He will have the opportunity to think logically and ask for the advice he needs, and the choices he makes will be wiser and healthier for both of you, depending on his personality.
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Spray a little of your perfume on the stationery so that it leaves a faint fragrance. The smell will instantly remind him of you, and it will be harder for him to stop thinking about you.
1923951 10b1 Do not spray too much perfume so as not to produce a strong odor. If he's annoyed, he'll get annoyed and turn to hate you
Step 2. Approach him and ask him directly
It takes a lot of courage to do so, and will make him think twice before answering. He may be impressed if you approach him directly, and think of you as a daredevil. However, make sure you ask how he feels about you in a place where he feels comfortable, and make sure no one else is eavesdropping on your conversation.
Method 5 of 5: Methods Not Recommended
Step 1. Don't use text messages, email, internet, etc
to ask how he feels about you because this method is less intimate and he may think you're a coward for hiding behind the scenes.
Step 2. Don't send a friend to ask if he has special feelings for you
Not only will this make you look like a coward, but it will also discourage him from giving an answer for fear that your friend will tell other people what he said. Such pressure can lead him to make bad decisions or make him hesitant to express his true feelings. He may lie or give a curt reply to keep you from pursuing him.
Step 3. Do not send anonymous letters
Not only did he not know who his secret admirer was, but he also didn't know who to reply to. Sending anonymous letters can be seen as cowardly, and can irritate him. He could either throw the letter away or not reply because he didn't know who sent it.
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If you send another letter in your name at a later date, he can link it and know that you sent the anonymous letter. He may not like this cowardice, and you leave a bad impression on him.
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Tips
- Try borrowing his notebook. When taking notes in class, try to borrow his notebook with an excuse to see if you missed something. When you return it, include a written message that says, “You write well” or better yet, if you're writing a compliment about something you can't say in person because you're too shy.
- Participate in activities she enjoys. If he's a member of a choir, maybe you can join him, or attend his rehearsals. Or, participate in activities that make him see you more often.
- Be honest and don't lie to him about who you are or about the things that are important to you.
- Be yourself. It will impress him more than if you pretend to be someone else to impress him.
- Make funny jokes (not inappropriate ones) to make him laugh, and every time he walks into the room, look him in the eye for a moment before looking away. You can even smile a little to show your interest in him.
Warning
- If he doesn't like you, don't give up. Give him some time, who knows he might change his mind. At least now he knows you like him. He may see you differently once he is sure of your feelings.
- Some girls are very emotional. So you have to be careful with it. If you've never known that it's something normal, try to understand it!
