Maybe you think with 3.5 billion men on this earth, it's certainly not difficult to find a man who suits you. But in reality it is difficult. And even if you've met the right guy, what would you say and how would you say it? There's no magic potion to make him come up to you and talk to you, but you don't need any either. Why? Because you're cool and confident enough to take the first step.
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Part 1 of 3: Finding the Right Boy
Step 1. Think about the type of person you enjoy spending time with
You don't have to find a guy who is exactly what you want, but he should have some qualities that you really liked from the start. What values do you value? What does he like? What does he do in his spare time? If you know a guy like you want, great! If not, you have to search.
Once you've determined the type of guy you're looking for, think about where he might be. Is he the type of guy you would meet at a party? The type you'd see practicing sports after school? On a music show?
Step 2. Join a club in the community that interests you
Some might say that you should join the same club as the type of guy you want to be. You have to join a club you like so that A) you are happy and B) you can meet guys who have something in common with you. So, what club is it? Drama club? Environmental club? Sports club? How about volunteering at an animal shelter? Even if you don't meet the perfect guy in the future, you'll meet lots of friends, stay busy, and likely learn new skills.
It goes without saying that the only place where you can possibly meet a guy is to sit at home all day and watch TV with your cat. Get out there and eventually you're bound to meet someone. Don't forget, there are 3.5 billion men out there
Step 3. Go to places that make you feel comfortable
You can go to your favorite bookstore if you like reading or to a coffee shop if you like coffee. You can also go to places you usually visit with your friends. Another option is popular places, like malls or ice cream parlors, essentially places that people your age frequent.
You can go in a group or alone, but spending time alone is actually important so that men who are uncomfortable being in a crowd (mostly men in this context) will be more comfortable approaching you or you
Step 4. Do what you love
If you're trying to broaden your horizons, get out of the house and socialize, attend social events, gatherings, gatherings, join a gym or art class, and chase your dreams, you'll meet them. It will happen. Believe me. What's more, you'll be happy and be the best version of yourself because you're doing what you love. How could he not fall in love?
There is a saying that you will get something when you least expect it. Yes, there is a reason for that expression. If you live your life as usual, you will meet someone who is also living life as usual, and the two of you might be able to combine that greatness. A man can't make you stop living your life, whether you're a boyfriend or not
Step 5. Be careful if you meet someone online
There's a good chance you'll find a match in a chat room, Facebook, or forum on a topic you both share. Nonetheless, be careful. There are a lot of scammers out there who can't be trusted. If you meet a guy online, try to find someone who knows him and can vouch for him.
Please remember, never give out personal information over the internet. Names and phone numbers are still fine, but never give out your home address or identifying information. After all, why did he need that information?
Step 6. If you're looking for a boy at school, take it easy
Don't just look for a partner because it usually only ends in a tiring and unpleasant relationship. Conversely, if you do feel "need" a partner, take it slow. Pay attention to some guys who share your interests or interesting personalities. You need to make sure that your basic principles match theirs. Otherwise, the relationship will not last long and one will be heartbroken.
Don't look for a "regular" guy and assume you can turn him into the man you want to be. This will lead to emotional damage and destroy prospects for love or friendship. If there was no spark from the start, don't force it. You will find someone who sparks something in you and who shares the same feelings without needing to change
Step 7. Feel free to choose
So, you've been looking around and think you've found the right person. Is he the kind of guy who wants to spend time with you without expecting anything more? Is he the kind of person you want to be with you in the long term? Can he take good care of himself? Does he respect other people? Are you happy with him? If your answer to any of these questions is "yes", then you have made the right choice. Now is the time to act.
The general rule about guys is: if you think he knows you like him, you're wrong. If you believe he knows you like him, you're probably right. If you've ever told him directly that you like him, some guys still don't know if you're serious. In the next step, we must take it slow and then be clear. Ready?
Part 2 of 3: Building Confidence
Step 1. Be open to those around you
If you don't chat with anyone in the group of people around you, it's going to be hard to open up to the guy. Start making friends with the people around you. This is good for several reasons:
- He will see you chatting with people around you. This makes you look friendly, fun, and happy to socialize. It also makes you appear more approachable.
- Maybe he's friends with the person you're chatting with. This is a natural bridge to get you and him to talk.
- If you're chatting with everyone, it's only natural that you start chatting with them too. This gives the impression that you don't have any secret intentions and masks feelings you may not want to show.
Step 2. Practice getting along with other people
The more you hang out, socialize, and chat with other people, the easier it will be for you to do so with everyone. If you rarely open your mouth to chat, you may become stiff and awkward. And that's normal, no one is born a seducer. This ability must be learned.
We are all social creatures and can learn how to get along easily after opening up and trying, and that goes for you too. It's hard at first, but as time goes on it gets easier. That's why you should start with the people around you that you don't particularly like. Think of it as a warm-up and practice for that special guy
Step 3. Make you approachable
If you smile and seem willing to talk to other people, you're bound to run into them. If you're not friendly and don't focus on the chat (e.g. busy with your phone), people won't come up to you and think you don't want to chat. Keep your head up and engage your thoughts and show interest in those around you. If you and he are in the same place, you will experience the same thing and that can be a topic of conversation.
Imagine this scenario: you and your friends are at the club after school and round the table eating a snack. There was a friend telling a joke and you all laughed out loud. Then, you and him walked out together and you broke the joke earlier. You will laugh again and the atmosphere will melt. You did it
Step 4. Keep your body and appearance clean
Make sure you comb and style your hair, wear clean clothes, and spray on perfume. Maybe you wouldn't be crazy about that guy if he never looked like he had a shower, would you? He must have felt that way too. In order to be physically approachable, you have to look good. Wear clothes that make you feel confident, put on your favorite lip balm and smile, and you'll be all set.
The first way to get a guy's attention is physically. That's how it is. Always make the best impression, pay attention to appearance, and you will be able to attract his attention. However, don't overdo it. Men will lose interest with too much appearance. It will be obvious that you are pretending to be someone else, so no matter what happens, follow your instincts
Step 5. Be an open-minded girl
Don't reject yourself or others. Everyone has values, including you. With this attitude, you will appear friendly and interested in everyone. Now what's the reason he doesn't want to get to know you better? With your ability to maintain eye contact and a beautiful smile, he will definitely want to chat with you. A positive attitude will help make good things happen, a negative attitude will keep them away.
Even if it turns out he's not interested in you, that's okay. What if he refuses? It's a painful lesson that some people can only learn after a few years. If he refuses, be happy. You may not realize that the answer has saved years of time that you might have spent wondering. Now he frees you to approach your second favorite boy in the whole world. You still win
Step 6. Realize that he may be more nervous than you
A lot of guys will get nervous talking to a girl, and keep that in mind when you're building your own confidence. He's actually the one who needs encouragement, so offer eye contact or a friendly smile as an invitation for him to talk to you or to make him realize that talking to you isn't scary.
This can also give you the urge to chat with him. If you notice that he's nervous, insecure, and may think you're not interested in him even as a friend, you'll be encouraged to send a friendly signal
Part 3 of 3: Start Chatting and Get To Know Him Closer
Step 1. Observe your surroundings in an attempt to start a conversation
Let's say you're in the hallway of a school and see that attractive soccer player. He was reading the announcement to send yearbook photos. Approach him and ask if he will send a photo. Introduce yourself, be open to anything, and display a friendly attitude. Just like that, the road was officially opened. Everything might be slowly progressing from here, but the toughest part has passed.
You can also ask him what he's doing or what he's looking at. If you also like what he does or sees, say so. If you don't know anything, ask questions and try to learn from them. If he's looking at a band tour schedule you've never heard of, say, “Hey, what's the song? This band seems familiar.” Say anything that can start a conversation. Then you can chat with other bands and continue from there
Step 2. Find out some of his interests and include them in comments or questions
You have successfully paved the way, now what? Talking about each other's philosophy of life? No, not yet. To get started, you may need basic information about his interests, such as whether he plays sports, just for chat. Then halfway through, you can slip in, “Hey, you're on the soccer team, right? Are we going to win this week?”
It also shows that you care about him, and that will make him happy. Hopefully from here he will start asking about you and your interests as well. If so, it indicates that you can chat and spend time together comfortably
Step 3. Try to think of something clever to tuck into the chat
The hardest part of trying to have a conversation with other people is saying the first words. And it has passed. But now you have to get the chat going. Here are some tips for prolonging the chat:
- Gather ideas from around. If you're watching a sports game, comment on what just happened, for example, "Aww, you saw that foul?!" Then, tell me about something funny or an interesting story from a match you've watched. He may also have a funny story for you.
- If you're in a public location, try looking around for materials. Did you have the same mirror when you were a kid? Tell him in an interesting and exciting tone.
- The initial chat doesn't have to be deep. You can say something simple, like “I used to have exactly the same chair in my house as a kid. Ah geez, this chair makes me remember the good times when we were kids, haha!” Think of such words with an amazing or funny element. Ask him if he has a similar story.
Step 4. Display a confident, sweet, relaxed, and relaxed attitude
Think of it like casual chat, because that's the way it is. There's no need to utter a final sentence, this is just a casual chat. If you feel like the chat is starting to slow down, appreciate it and just let it end. There's still another day. If the chat is fun, keep the flow going. If he asks for a phone number or Facebook information, great! If not, no problem.
If you are confident and brave and the chat is fun, you can ask for the number. Some people like to be direct. However, don't ask suddenly. Start with a friendly chat or a question like, “Are you happy?” or “I've never seen (a piece of clothing) like that. Well suited!" Make sure you appear cheerful, friendly, and approachable. Laugh when the time is right. Confidence is the key. Your end goal is to get the number or other contact information (e.g. Facebook, email address, etc.)
Step 5. Start as a friend
The only way to know if you two are compatible is to start as friends. Spend time with groups of friends, chat casually, meet up at parties, and develop feelings for each other. If the feeling grows, let it grow. You can take action when you feel confident.
Do not act in desperation. He's likely to be scared if you say, “You're the most amazing person I've ever met. I know you don't know me at all, but I want you to know me." For some men, this attitude may be attractive at first, but not for long. It would be much better if you took things slow and started off as friends
Step 6. After getting to know each other better, suggest getting together with a smaller group
You do meet him at get-togethers and chat a bit, in the same class, and maybe at football games, but that's not enough. You have to take control. Start by inviting him to join you and some friends. If the exam is near, you can use it as an excuse to "study together".
Once you get comfortable with a smaller group, that's when you can propose just the two of you. Your approach here is like small steps, not big leaps
Step 7. Say that you like it
You've done all this, and now what? Yes, at the right time you can say that you like him or maybe he is the one who says that he likes you. Either way, this step leads to your desired goal. Ask what kind of opportunities you have on your friend who is also his friend. Maybe he also asked the same question.
