Developing a strong sense of self-worth can help you maximize your potential, develop healthy relationships, and make everyone around you see you as someone worthy of respect. If you really want to respect yourself, you have to accept yourself, and work towards becoming the person you dream to be. Try to understand how to be happy with yourself and get others to treat you appropriately.
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Part 1 of 4: Having the Right Mindset
Step 1. Get to know yourself
The more you can understand yourself, the more you will be able to see and appreciate how unique you are, and the more you will respect yourself. Discover your life principles, personality and talents. This self-discovery process will take some time, but you'll soon see how rewarding it is.
- Make a list of the things, people, feelings and activities that are important to you. This will help you identify what you really like and need in your life.
- Try different activities. This will give you a chance to see what you like and what you don't like.
- Try journaling. Imagine you are having a conversation with your 99 year old self and you are asking for advice on what to focus on in your life. You can also start by writing, “What things should I avoid writing about?” This will start an honest conversation with yourself.
- Spend time with yourself pretending that you are dating yourself. Try new restaurants the way you want to do. This can give you the opportunity to get in touch with your own feelings and opinions.
Step 2. Forgive yourself
If you want to respect yourself, then you have to be able to forgive yourself for things you've done in the past that you weren't proud of. Admit that what you did was wrong, apologize to the other person if needed, and move on again. If you're too hard on yourself for making the wrong decision or saying something hurtful, then you'll never be able to move on again. Know that you are human. Everyone makes mistakes and this is how we learn, so accept that and forgive yourself.
Step 3. Accept yourself
Make yourself feel good about yourself, learn to love and accept yourself as you are. This doesn't mean you think you're perfect, but you have to learn to accept yourself. Be happy with everything you love about yourself, and accept the parts of you that are less than perfect, especially the ones you can't change.
Stop saying you'd love yourself if you only lost 10 kg, and love yourself from here on out
Step 4. Build your self-confidence
Having a sense of self-worth is very difficult if you are not happy with who you are, how you look, or what you do. Building self-confidence takes a lot of work, but doing a few simple things every day can get you started.
- Start by maintaining positive body language and good posture, smiling more, and thinking at least three good thoughts about yourself every hour.
- If someone compliments you, accept their statement by saying, "Thank you."
Step 5. Maintain a positive attitude
A positive attitude can make or break your success, as well as your thoughts about yourself. Even if things don't go your way, reward yourself for the fact that something good will happen eventually. Live your everyday life and everything it has to offer you with pleasure. If you feel too negative about everything and only imagine the worst of all situations, then you are destined to never be satisfied with yourself or to give yourself the respect it deserves.
For example, if you're applying for a job you really want, don't say, “There's no chance for me to get it. There are so many other qualified applicants.” Instead, say, “It would be great to get this job. Even if I'm not asked for an interview, I'm still proud of myself for applying.”
Step 6. Stop competing with everyone
One of the reasons you may lack self-respect is because you feel unlucky that you are single while all your friends are engaged, or that you feel that you are not smart enough because you are not making as much money as other people you know. Maintain your standards and work towards achieving your desired goals. Don't waste your time doing what you think will impress your Facebook friends or give you a chance to brag. It will be more impressive if you succeed by doing what “you” want rather than following the path someone else is already doing.
Step 7. Get rid of your envy
Stop wishing you had what other people have and work towards achieving what you really want. The bitter feelings and resentment that come with jealousy will only make you dislike yourself and wish you were someone else. Get rid of envy and work towards what will make you happy.
Step 8. Trust your decision
If you want to respect yourself, then you have to believe in the decisions you make. Hold your beliefs firmly and try to understand yourself to find out what really makes you happy. Reward yourself for the good decisions you've made and stick with it, no matter how difficult it is.
It's okay to ask other people for advice, and this can actually help you to gain a more balanced perspective, but don't spend time doubting yourself, thinking that what you're doing is wrong, and wishing that you were doing something else
Step 9. Learn to accept criticism
To truly appreciate yourself, you have to know who you really are. If someone provides helpful and constructive feedback, evaluate what they told you. You will be able to use that feedback to improve yourself. Constructive criticism can help you achieve your goal of becoming a better person.
- Your boyfriend may tell you that you can be a better listener when he needs you the most, or your boss may say that your report could be written more thoroughly.
- If someone has malicious intent or tries to hurt you, don't bother. Sometimes it can be difficult to tell the difference between someone who tells you something true in a rude way and someone who tells you something bad but in a "nice" way. Evaluate criticism honestly and carefully.
Step 10. Don't let other people instigate you
While this may sound impossible, your self-respect and happiness must come from yourself, not from other people around you. Of course, some compliments or rewards will make you feel better, but in the end, happiness and self-satisfaction must come from within yourself. Don't let other people tell you who you are, make you feel small, or make you question your beliefs. If you want to respect yourself, then you have to believe that you made the right decision, and learn to let the haters hate you.
If you always allow other people to change your mind or make you rethink the decisions you have made, then others will think that you do not have strong beliefs. Once you find something you really believe in, negative people will have a hard time influencing you
Part 2 of 4: Taking Self-Respectful Actions
Step 1. Treat yourself with respect
We often do things to ourselves that we never thought we would do to someone we care about. For example, when was the last time you called your friends ugly, told them they weren't good enough, or discouraged them from pursuing their dreams? Whatever you believe to be respected, apply to yourself. Don't insult or hurt yourself, no matter how bad you feel. This type of treatment will only make you feel worse. Here are some other ways to treat yourself with respect:
- Don't steal from yourself, such as carelessly buying everything on credit; it's basically like taking money from your future self, because in the end you have to pay for it anyway.
- Be honest with yourself and don't deny yourself what you really want.
- Think for yourself by developing sources of knowledge and doing your own research, not just following other people's opinions.
Step 2. Take care of your body
When you try to keep your body in good shape, you will not only be physically fit, but you will also feel proud of yourself. Respecting your body also means not neglecting it. Try to stay fit and healthy, but don't blame yourself for things you can't control, like your body shape. Focus on something you can change and improve, and do it because you feel good about it, not because you don't feel "good enough."
This doesn't mean that just going to the game and looking awesome will make you automatically appreciate yourself. This actually means that if you don't take the time or don't care about your appearance, then you will start to lose respect for yourself
Step 3. Determine aspects for improvement
Respecting yourself does not mean thinking that you are a perfect person and there is nothing else you need to improve or improve on. On the contrary, it means being able to accept the things you can't change about yourself, while trying to figure out what you need to improve on. Take some time to really think about yourself and consider the aspects you really want to improve; maybe you want to improve your listening skills, handle life's stresses better, or want to be more able to balance so that those around you feel happy without compromising your own needs.
- Make a plan to make some progress in these areas, and you will become more self-respecting. Make a list of what aspects you want to improve. Keep a record of any improvements you make, however small. You need to record every win, small and big.
- Of course, changing the behavior, thoughts and feelings associated with these behaviors will take a long time, but it requires a high level of commitment and persistence. But taking the first step towards becoming a person you value more will make you more confident.
Step 4. Improve yourself
Improving yourself means taking steps to try new things and opening your mind to new possibilities.
Improving yourself can mean taking yoga classes, volunteering, spending more time learning something from your loved one, learning to see situations from multiple perspectives, reading the news, and trying to learn new things
Part 3 of 4: Interacting with Others
Step 1. Respect others
If you want to respect yourself, you have to start by respecting the people around you, not only to those who have more experience or are more successful, but to all the people in this world who have never harmed you. Of course, there are certain people who don't deserve your respect, but you should try to treat others the way you want to be treated, whether you're talking to your boss or watching the girl at your grocery store. Here are some ways to respect others:
- Be honest with other people.
- Do not steal, harm, or insult them.
- Listen to what they have to say, consider their opinion, and don't bother them.
Step 2. Recognize when others disrespect you and take action to stop them
A person who respects himself will not allow others to treat him badly, and prefers not to deal with someone who is disrespectful. This may seem obvious, but many times we accept being treated badly (in both small and large ways) because we believe that the person doesn't know a better way, because we don't want the person to leave us, or because we are too humble to give up. believe that we deserve to be treated better. When someone doesn't respect you, stand up for yourself and tell the person to treat you better.
- If someone constantly disrespects you, let them go. Nobody said it would be easy to leave someone who clearly doesn't respect you, if you really care about that person. But once you give up the bad habit of hanging out with someone who makes you feel bad, you'll feel your self-esteem go up even more.
- Learn to recognize manipulative or controlling relationships. It can be hard to tell if someone close to you is being disrespectful, especially if they're doing it subtly, slyly and for a long time.
Step 3. Learn to practice nonviolent communication
When you deal with someone with their disrespectful behavior, try to stick to positive and productive communication guidelines:
- Don't end up yelling or insulting other people. Actions like this will start from a judgmental and unproductive conversation.
- Get to know your feelings. Be honest about how you feel, and take responsibility for those emotions.
- State clearly what you need and want from a situation. You might say, "I need a new image of myself, and I don't want to hear negative comments about myself."
Step 4. Don't rely too much on others to feel good about yourself
Often in dating or friendship, we may sacrifice our own needs and allow ourselves to be controlled by others because we are so afraid of losing them. You may find their opinion more important than your own. In addition, paying attention to the needs of others without paying attention to their own needs is a sign of low self-esteem. Instead, believe in your own opinion and put your needs first. Learn that you don't need to depend on others for your own happiness.
- A good way to start is to find out what you can and can't control. For example, you cannot control the actions of other people (you can influence them, but not control them), and you cannot control the weather. But you can control how you react to other people even in bad situations, and you can control how you feel.
- You can also take action to improve the way you handle different relationship situations, such as learning to be more assertive, learning about healthy boundaries, how to enforce them, and how to live them. This will help you learn healthy behavior patterns that will encourage others to treat you well and also increase your self-esteem.
Step 5. Forgive the other person
If you want to respect yourself, you must learn to forgive others who have wronged you. This doesn't mean you have to be best friends with them, but it does mean you have to forgive them mentally and learn to forget them. If you spend time thinking about all the grudges and hatred, you won't be able to think clearly or to live in the moment. Therefore, be a forgiving person so you can keep moving forward.
- Even if someone has harmed you, try to forget the experience as well as the person. You can't allow yourself to be angry and resent the person forever.
- Forgiving others is a gift you can give yourself, and an action you take to heal yourself. It's okay to feel angry for a moment, but if it lasts too long, it can interfere with your life and happiness. Realize that when other people treat you badly, it's because no one in their life treats them well, so they treat you badly. So forgive their mistakes and mistreatment, and the person who will benefit the most from it is you.
Part 4 of 4: Be a Good Person to Yourself
Step 1. Don't belittle yourself
If you want to respect yourself, then you have to stop putting yourself down, especially in front of other people. You can laugh at yourself, but there's no need to say, "I look fat today," or "Is there anyone who wants to talk to me?" If you put yourself down, it will only cause others to do the same.
Whenever you have negative thoughts about yourself, write them down instead of expressing them. If you do, you'll tend to think it's true
Step 2. Don't let other people see you do something that you will regret later
Try to focus on doing something that makes you proud of yourself, not just something that generates a moment of laughter or attention. Stay away from behavior that could make you regret it, such as getting drunk and acting recklessly in public, or being in a relationship with someone at a bar just to get attention.
Try to maintain a consistent image of yourself. It would be hard for others to respect you as the smartest person in the class if you danced with the lampshade overhead at the party last night
Step 3. Deal with excessive emotions
It's okay to lose control at times, but if you act like that too often for trivial reasons, it will only make your self-esteem have to deal with life's stresses better. Try going for a walk to cool off, take some deep breaths, and come back when you feel calmer. Dealing with life with a calm mind, rather than with high emotions, will give you more control over yourself and better ability to cope with everyday situations, which in turn will make you feel good about yourself.
If you feel angry, step away from the situation and go for a walk, get some fresh air, or call someone who can relax you more. You could also try meditating, journaling, or talking to someone about it
Step 4. Admit you are guilty
If you really want to respect yourself, you have to be able to tell when you've made a mistake. If you messed up, let the other person know by showing that you are truly sorry and aware that you won't do the same thing again in the future. Taking responsibility for what you did and doing your best to make amends will help you get past feelings of guilt for making a mistake, it will also help your self-respect, because you will know and be proud of the fact that you did your best even when things didn't go right. as perfect as you would expect. Give yourself and those around you enough respect to admit that you are only human.
If you learn to admit that you are wrong, others will respect and trust you more
Step 5. Do activities with people who value you
Being around people who make you feel bad will lower your self-esteem, because you will feel bad not only because of what the person said, but deep down, you will also be angry with yourself for letting the person be. around you. Look for someone who makes you feel positive, makes you feel good about yourself and about the world, and someone who really takes the time to listen and help solve your problems.
This is especially true for every relationship. It will be almost impossible to truly respect yourself if you are dating someone who makes you feel worthless
Step 6. Stay humble
Some people think that lying about their achievements will make others like them more. Doing this actually only makes you look insecure. If you really want others to respect you, practice modesty and humility, letting others know how great you are.
Tips
- Develop a unique and genuine way of expressing your opinion and being a good listener at the same time.
- The idea of respecting yourself is closely related to self-confidence, but respect is more about what you do while confidence is more about how you feel. (Of course, the two can support each other.)
- Never be afraid to be yourself.
- Take a stand on how you should treat someone in the best way. At the same time, think that you too deserve to be treated the same way.
