Appreciation, like trust, is something you don't take for granted, but you have to earn. In fact, everyone can easily gain the respect of others if they are able to demonstrate their integrity, regardless of their race, gender, sexual orientation, and ethnicity. Understand that the process of becoming a person worthy of respect takes more than overnight. Instead, you first need to work on increasing your confidence, leadership, kindness, and ability to be someone you can rely on. In addition to building these various characters, you must also learn to respect yourself and others more. Undoubtedly, you will receive the same award afterwards.
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Method 1 of 3: Becoming a Leader
Step 1. Improve your communication skills
Speak in a warm and friendly tone, and try to involve the person you are talking to. Make sure you also bring up positive topics, avoid vulgar speech and language, and don't say "mm" in every sentence.
- Communication not only requires you to speak, but also to listen. Instead of always trying to dominate conversational situations, try to spend more time listening to what the other person has to say.
- Take time to think before you speak.
Step 2. Control your emotions
No matter how tough the situation is, make sure you keep your conversation calm, relaxed, and in control. Try to act, instead of reacting emotionally. If possible, always try to defuse negative situations and think twice before reacting impulsively to negative provocations.
- People who are able to maintain their composure in difficult situations are commendable figures.
- When arguing with other people, try to contain your emotions to prevent the situation from getting worse. If the other person sounds angry, make sure you maintain a calm and controlled response.
Step 3. Control your body language
Stand up straight, look the other person in the eye when you speak, and speak in a calm, controlled tone of voice. Doing so can really show your self-confidence and make it easier for you to win the respect of others.
Muttering, talking with your head down or bowing, and talking without looking the other person in the eye will show how low your self-confidence is. Believe me, self-confidence is one of the factors that make it easier for others to appreciate you
Step 4. Solve the problem
When faced with a problem, never react emotionally or express your frustration. Instead, focus on finding the most appropriate solution. Don't rush to complain or get angry because neither will help you solve the problem.
When other people see that you're able to calmly seek solutions instead of reacting aggressively, they're sure to appreciate your readiness and maturity to fix a situation
Step 5. Be proud of how you look
Make sure you always keep your body clean and neat appearance. Take the time to trim your nails regularly, shower every day, and brush your teeth twice a day.
- A person's inability to take good care of himself will indirectly show his value in the eyes of others.
- If you can't respect yourself and take care of your appearance, chances are that no one else will be able to respect you either.
Method 2 of 3: Self Defense
Step 1. Say "no" more often
Some people believe that other people will appreciate them more easily if they are seen to be busy with various tasks and responsibilities. In fact, this assumption is wrong. You should not accept all the opportunities or requests that come from other people. Every now and then, say "no" to show that you also value the time you have and always prioritize quality over quantity.
- The way you deliver your message is just as important as the content of the message. Therefore, always convey your refusal politely, firmly, and with a smile. Show that the refusal is not personal; You just don't have enough free time to grant his request right now.
- Don't be afraid to say no. Be happy because you have the courage to defend yourself in front of others.
Step 2. Don't be afraid to have an opinion
Stop being passive and don't hesitate to express your ideas, opinions, or concerns whenever necessary. Don't be afraid to share your thoughts with others, even if doing so makes your heart beat fast with nervousness. In fact, people who have the courage to express their opinions will more easily win the respect of others.
- Don't be passive-aggressive in voicing your opinion. Try to be more assertive and direct in conveying your wishes and thoughts. However, make sure you keep in mind the factors that are considered polite in the culture of the other person.
- Not used to voicing an opinion? Try rehearsing the things you want to say ahead of time.
- Voicing an opinion is not the same as judging everything that is happening around you in a straightforward manner. In other words, express your opinion only when absolutely necessary.
Step 3. Stop being so nice
Trust me, you can still be nice to other people without having to constantly be their errand boy. Remember, you won't be able to make everyone happy and there's no need to try. Don't let other people take advantage of you just because you look easy to use. Inappropriate “kindness” will only show that you don't respect yourself.
- Set boundaries so others know what kind of behavior you can tolerate. Affirm your choice and desire!
- In addition, other people may also misinterpret your attitude and think you are fake or insincere.
Step 4. Stop apologizing
Say sorry only if you really did something wrong! In fact, many people are used to automatically apologizing before they even know where they went wrong.
- Save your apologies for appropriate situations.
- Stop blaming yourself for all the problems that are happening around you.
Step 5. Express your objections to unfair treatment
If someone takes advantage of you or treats you unfairly, never hold onto your disappointment and suffering. Fight for your rights in a positive way! Instead of yelling at him outright or being aggressive, express your objections firmly and politely.
- Defending yourself and fighting for personal rights does sound scary. However, trust that others will surely appreciate your courage to do so.
- Make sure you always speak plainly and clearly. In other words, don't stutter or speak with your head down because you're overwhelmed with shame. Remember, you have the right to defend yourself in front of others!
Method 3 of 3: Respecting Others
Step 1. Hold on to your words
If you are used to breaking promises, those around you will conclude that you are not a reliable person. Therefore, always keep your promises and words, and don't get into the habit of making false promises that you can't keep. Prove that you are someone you can rely on so that others can appreciate your existence more.
Convey your ignorance honestly
Step 2. Prioritize punctuality
Being late for a meeting, submitting an assignment, responding to an email, or seeing someone will cost you others' respect and trust, especially if you don't seem to value their time. Whatever the situation, try to always be on time!
Show that you value other people's time by always being punctual. Undoubtedly, they will also give the same award by doing the same thing
Step 3. Don't gossip
The habit of gossiping about negative things that can lower the self-esteem of others will not bring you any benefit. In fact, people who are used to gossiping will actually be looked down upon by others and will usually end up falling victim to gossip as well.
- While you don't have to like everyone, at least make sure you always try to appreciate them.
- Understand the difference between socializing and gossiping. Socialize well, but never get involved in gossip!
- Try to avoid unnecessary conflicts with those around you.
Step 4. Don't be afraid to stand up for the rights of others
Fight for the rights of others as you fight for personal rights! In other words, make sure you always help others who are being treated unfairly, especially if they are unable to help themselves. Feeling disrespectful because you have to meddle in other people's business? Trust me, there will always be a right time and place to do it. Show that you respect other people and the rights they have! In exchange, you will get the same award from them.
- Look around you and find opportunities to show your empathy to others.
- Show that you are willing to lend a helping hand whenever needed, and show concern for those around you. Trust me, this behavior will surely make other people appreciate you even more.
- Don't be afraid to ask other people for help. Make them feel their presence is of value to you. That way, you can show that you dare to admit your own weaknesses.
