Did you know that warm, unreal feeling comes through when someone sincerely thanks you for something you do for them? You are not the only person who feels this way. Imagine how wonderful it feels to know that you have given someone that warm, unreal feeling because you are grateful to them. As humans, we value when we are appreciated. Saying “thank you” openly and honestly will not only make you a happier person, it will also make you a healthier and more energized person. So the next time someone does something for you-big or small-take the opportunity to thank them.
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Part 1 of 4: Thanking Easily
Step 1. Smile and make eye contact
If you're saying thank you in person, don't forget to smile and make eye contact with the person you're thanking. This little gesture adds great sincerity to a 'thank you.'
Step 2. Keep it simple
Showing gratitude to others is a wonderful thing. Overly flattering others and going to great lengths to say 'thank you' is overkill and can embarrass the person you're trying to thank. Do the act of thanking in a simple, direct, and pleasant way.
Step 3. Be sincere when thanking you
You should sincerely and honestly thank someone because you are grateful for something they did. You shouldn't thank someone because you were told to do so or because you feel obliged. An insincere thank you will seem obvious and unappreciated.
This is something that is important for those who work in a retail environment. In such an environment they feel obliged to thank customers on a regular basis. If you're not truly grateful, the customer may find out. Even if your job is to thank customers, you can still do it sincerely
Step 4. Write a thank you letter or card
There are certain situations that require more than a direct 'thank you', such as being treated to dinner, being given a gift, and so on. When these situations arise, a written 'thank you' is essential. Anyone who treats you with this extra special kindness deserves the same in return and writing a 'thank you' letter or card is a great way to show how much you appreciate what they do.
- If you decide to use a card, an empty card is very good in situations like this. Blank cards allow you to write short but special greetings.
- No matter what form of 'thank you' is used, it should specifically state why you are saying 'thank you'.
- While emails can be custom made, don't send emails in this situation. Email is not as sincere and does not aim as well as a physical card or letter.
Step 5. Avoid delegation
Don't ask someone else to send a 'thank you' to someone on your behalf, do it yourself. This is not a sincere 'thank you' if it doesn't come from you directly.
If you are a very busy person who doesn't have much free time, make a special 'thank you' card and keep it in an easy-to-reach place. Or buy some empty card boxes to keep on your desk
Part 2 of 4: Planning a Thank You
Step 1. Use a 'thank you' format
If you're having trouble thanking someone properly or what to say on a 'thank you' card, try using the who, what, and when formats.
Step 2. Make a list of who needs to be thanked
Begin the 'thank you' process by making a list of people who need to be sent a 'thank you' card. For example, if you received several gifts on your birthday, write a list of the people who gave the gifts (and what they gave you). This list should also include the names of the people who helped you plan the event (eg birthday parties).
Step 3. Write down what makes you want to say thank you
There are six basic sections to a personal 'thank you'-the greeting, the thank you note, the details, the next time, the restatement, and the closing greeting.
- The greeting is written simply. Start a 'thank you' with the name of the person you want to say thank you. If this is a formal 'thank you', give it a formal greeting (e.g. Dear Mr. Smith), if the person is a family member or close friend, give a friendly greeting (e.g. Hi Ma).
- A thank you note is your part of thanking anyone and for whatever they do. The easiest thing to do is to start this section with the words 'thank you.' But you can be more creative if you want (e.g. I love it when I open a birthday present from you).
- Details are the specific part. Adding specific details about why you're thanking someone makes the greeting more sincere and personal. You need to mention the specific gifts you received or what you bought the prize money for, and so on.
- Next Time is the part to mention when you will meet or talk to this person. For example, if you're sending a 'thank you' to your grandparents and you're going to visit them soon at Christmas, mention that.
- The restatement is part of finishing the 'thank you' with another thank you message. You can write another sentence (for example, Thank you again for your kindness, I really hope I can go to college and this money will help me a lot) or you can say "thank you" one more time.
- The closing greeting is the same as the opening greeting, but in this section you must also add a name. You need to be more formal (for example, Wassalam) or less formal (for example, With Love), depending on who you are thanking.
Step 4. Plan when you send your thank-you note
You'll need to send a 'thank you' card and letter within a month of the event, but sending it sooner is preferable. If you missed it, you can always start a 'thank you' with an apology for taking longer than expected.
If you're sending out a 'thank you' card for a big event with a lot of people in attendance, plan to spend some time each day writing a 'thank you' all the way through
Part 3 of 4: Perfecting the Way of Gratitude
Step 1. Be careful with the “thank you” ordinance
Different occasions and events require different “thank you” ordinances. While there is no rule that says you must follow this guide, it has become a tradition. It's common to send a 'thank you' letter or card for the following reasons:
- Accept all kinds of gifts, including money. These gifts can be for birthdays, wedding anniversaries, graduations, welcome to a new house, big day celebrations, and so on.
- Attend a dinner party or special event (such as Thanksgiving) at someone's house.
Step 2. Send a wedding 'thank you' card in 3 months
It is common to send a handwritten 'thank you' card to anyone who has done any of the following for your wedding. It's also common to send a greeting card within 3 months of the event, although it's easier for you to stay up-to-date if you send the card when you receive a gift than to wait until after the wedding.
- Someone who has sent you a gift for an engagement, wedding shower or wedding, including money.
- Someone who is a member of the wedding party (eg bridesmaid, head of the bridesmaid group, flower girl, etc.).
- Someone who hosts a party in your honor (e.g. wedding shower, engagement party, etc.).
- Someone who helps you plan or carry out your wedding, including service providers and suppliers of goods that make your wedding run smoothly (e.g. cake maker, florist, room decorator, shef, etc.).
- Anyone who tries to help you while you're preparing and planning your wedding (e.g. a neighbor mowing your lawn, etc.).
Step 3. Immediately write a 'thank you' for the interview
If you have been interviewed for a job, internship, or volunteer position, you should send a 'thank you' letter or card as soon as the interview is over.
- Make sure you create a card or letter that is specific about the job you are interviewing for and even mention something specific from the interview.
- Make sure you spell people's names correctly. There's nothing worse than sending a 'thank you' letter after the interview and misspelling the interviewer's name.
- Use a formal 'thank you' greeting unless the interviewer introduces himself by first name and wants you to call him by that name.
- In situations of making a 'thank you' after an interview, sending a personal email rather than a physical card or letter is common. In fact, this may be a better option if a card or physical letter to the interviewer is difficult to obtain or takes a long time.
Step 4. Make a personal 'thank you' to the donor of the grant or scholarship
Receiving any kind of financial aid at a university or college is a wonderful thing. Many of the scholarships provided to students come from donations. Whether the donation comes from an individual, family, legacy or organization, sending a 'thank you' for providing funds for you is a great way to show appreciation.
- If the scholarship is being awarded through your school, the department that selects the recipient can help you find an email address where to send a 'thank you'.
- Since these aren't people you know personally, write a formal and elegant 'thank you' letter rather than casual.
- Before sending a letter, make sure you double check it (and double check) so there are no spelling and grammatical errors. You may even need to ask someone else to read the letter to you just in case you missed something.
- A 'thank you' like this is best sent as a formal business letter on nice paper, rather than a handwritten letter or card.
Part 4 of 4: Expressing Gratitude
Step 1. Understand what gratitude is
Gratitude is a little different from the usual 'thank you'. Gratitude means being grateful and being polite, but also being kind, generous, and appreciative. This is an attitude of caring for others more than yourself. Expressing gratitude to others can help positively influence situations and even change other people's behavior.
Step 2. Write a note of gratitude
The first step to expressing gratitude to others is being able to understand what you are truly grateful for. Writing down the things you are grateful for in a notebook is a good way to help you understand how you feel about yourself and others. Writing in notes takes just a few minutes a day to make a list of 3 things you are grateful for at that moment.
You can use the idea of a gratitude note to help children develop a better understanding of gratitude and gratitude. Help them write down 3 things they are grateful for each night before going to bed. If they are too small to write, ask them to draw things they are grateful for
Step 3. Express gratitude at least 5 times a day
Challenge yourself to express gratitude 5 times a day. Gratitude should be expressed to everyone, not just family members and close friends. If you think about it, there are many people who help you every day who may hardly ever hear a word of gratitude such as bus drivers, receptionists, marketers over the phone, people who open doors, people who give seats at buses, cleaning staff, and so on.
- When expressing this gratitude, remember to use the person's name (if you know one), what you are grateful for, and why you are grateful for it. For example, “Thanks for opening the elevator doors, Sue, I was worried I'd be late for a meeting, now I can make it on time!”
- If there's a practical reason why you can't express gratitude in private, express it silently or write it down.
Step 4. Find new ways to show gratitude
Gratitude does not only have to be shown in a certain way (such as saying thank you), but it can be more than that. Every now and then, find a new way to express gratitude to someone by doing something you've never done before or haven't done in a long time.
For example: making dinner one night when you notice your partner is exhausted; taking care of the kids one night so the couple can go out with friends; volunteering to be a driver for friends who drink alcohol, offering to host a family Christmas party one year, and so on
Step 5. Teach children to be grateful
You may have memories of your mom or dad that remind you to thank someone when they gave you a gift or candy when you were a kid. Giving thanks or being grateful is not always the first thing on a child's mind, but it is important for them to learn. The following four-step method is an excellent way to teach children about gratitude.
- Tell your child about gratitude, what it means, and why it's important. Use your own words and provide examples.
- Show your gratitude skills to your children. You can do it as an exercise or in 'real life'.
- Help your child to practice being grateful to others. If you have more than one child, ask them to give examples of each and provide input for one another.
- Don't stop encouraging your child to be grateful. Give them positive support when they can do a good job.
Step 6. Don't show gratitude only to those who are nice to you
While this may be difficult to do, you also need to show gratitude towards people who may annoy or annoy you. Remember to be patient while doing this and avoid sounding rude.
- People who make you angry may have very different perspectives on things. Even if you disagree or dislike their perspective, they still have a valid opinion. Be grateful for the fact that they have shared their opinion with you and that you have learned to see the situation from a different perspective.
- Even if these people make you angry, there may still be something about them that fascinates you. They may be annoying, but they may be always on time or completely organized. Focus on these positive aspects when talking to these people.
- Consider the fact that dealing with this annoying person has actually taught you a new skill. Be grateful that you have learned to be patient and calm in unpleasant situations.
Step 7. Recognize that gratitude has its benefits
Being grateful and being able to express gratitude can have a tremendous effect on you and those around you. Gratitude is linked to happiness-happier people tend to be more grateful. Having someone who is grateful for you can make you feel happy. Thinking about what makes you grateful can help you focus on the positives in life, not the negatives.
- Taking the time to write down what you are grateful for before bed can help you sleep better. Not only do you take the last few moments before bed to think about positive things, but you can also take out negative thoughts and write them down on a piece of paper.
- Gratitude tends to make you more empathetic. This may be because grateful people focus on positive emotions rather than negative ones, so they don't become irritated when someone is being unpleasant.
