This is a sad but commonplace reality: taking advantage of someone to achieve one's desires. Sometimes this happens in a romantic relationship. If you feel you are being taken advantage of by a woman, you should pay attention to the signs below; if you notice any of the signs mentioned, it's possible he's taking advantage of you.
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Part 1 of 4: Finding the Early Signs
Step 1. Consider your relationship status
Figure out what things you have that a woman might want. Whether it's good looks, good finances, or a nice car, there's a lot you can take advantage of. It's also possible that the woman wants to take advantage of your power, be it to become famous on a small campus, or even to become quite famous in general.
Of course, you don't have to be a really great person to be taken advantage of. You can still be taken advantage of no matter who you are. For example, if your relationship is always hard on one side, for example, you always drive him everywhere, you may be being taken advantage of
Step 2. Consider his desire to establish a status with you
See if he only wants to travel with you to nice places. Also pay attention to whether he wants to visit certain places to make it appear that he is with you. He may also just want to take a walk to meet a coworker. See if he's more interested in seeing his coworkers than spending time with you.
Maybe he's looking for a free ride, or someone who will always be there for him when he needs something
Step 3. See if he only calls you when he needs it
Some women may only call you when they need something. Maybe he wants you to help him fix something or get him something. Pay attention to the times he calls you and the way he talks to you on the phone. If he only calls you every few weeks and seems eager every time he does, he may not be interested in you.
Step 4. Notice if he only flirts with you at work
If he looks like he just wants to chat with you at work, it's possible that he wants to use you to take you further in your career. You can confirm his intentions by asking him out on a date, but be aware that working relationships can get tricky. Also, if he works elsewhere and only calls you during business hours to ask work-related questions, he may just want to take advantage of you.
Part 2 of 4: Recognizing the Signs on a Date
Step 1. See if he's trying to pay
Some may assume that men have to pay for everything. However, this is no longer true today. If he never tries to pay you, even if you refuse, he may be taking advantage of you.
Step 2. See if he's really listening to you
For example, when you talk to him over the phone or in person, see if he's just talking all about himself. If he doesn't want to listen carefully to things about you, he probably doesn't really want you.
Step 3. Notice if all the places to be visited are to fulfill his wish
In that case, it's possible that he just wants to fulfill all his desires while visiting a place. Plus, it's also possible that he'll only call you when there's a certain event in town, like a big concert or the opening of a new club, and he wants you to pay for it.
He may also be hesitant to travel when you suggest a certain place, but he will be very excited when he wants to visit a certain place
Step 4. Notice if he is afraid to commit
If he's trying to stay free to choose instead of committing to you, it's possible that he just wants to have fun with lots of guys without being in one fixed relationship. However, it's also possible that he just wants to keep you believing that he likes you, even though that's not true.
Step 5. Notice if he only calls you for sex
If he only calls you late at night, say 10 or 11 pm, he may just want to have sex with you. Of course, you have to consider the schedule; he may call you late at night because he has just finished class or is working these hours. However, if you both don't mind that kind of relationship, that's fine. However, if you want more than that, you may have to end the relationship.
Part 3 of 4: Watching The Way He Treats You
Step 1. Wait for him to apologize
Everyone makes mistakes once in a while. Under normal circumstances, the person should apologize and move on with life. However, if he doesn't seem apologetic, he probably doesn't care about his relationship with you. He may even use tears to get through the situation without admitting his guilt.
Of course, this applies to both parties. You should also apologize in your relationship
Step 2. Pay attention to the way he introduces you
If he's proud to be in a relationship with you, he'll be happy to introduce you as his girlfriend. However, if he doesn't want to admit that you're his girlfriend in public, he may be using you, especially if the two of you have been talking about an exclusive relationship in private.
Step 3. See if he flaunts you
That is, see if he really wants to meet you with his friends and family. If he's always brushing off questions about traveling with friends, he's probably just using you. People who are happy in an honest relationship tend to want their lover to meet those closest to them.
Step 4. Pay attention to when it will disappear
For example, does it suddenly disappear when you have no money. Have you ever tried to meet him while your car was being repaired and you usually always drop him off? If you feel that he's only there when you have certain materials, he's probably taking advantage of you.
Similarly, if he's just being sweet and cheerful when he asks you for something, then being mean when he gets it, he's probably just taking advantage of you
Step 5. Make sure that he values your time
For example, if he often cancels your plans, he doesn't value your time. Everyone has to cancel plans at some point, but if he always does it at the last minute, it may be a sign that he's not being sincere to you. Also, if he's always trying to get you to change other plans, it's a sign that he doesn't care about the things that are of value to you.
Part 4 of 4: Troubleshooting
Step 1. Share your feelings
Think about what you want to say beforehand, then remember to give some specific examples that made you feel that he was taking advantage of you. Don't be angry or show antagonism. Try to keep the conversation polite and calm. Ask his opinion about your situation.
Be prepared to face his anger. If he takes advantage of you, there is a high chance that he will reject or feel angry at what you say. If he doesn't think he's taking advantage of you, there's a good chance he'll get angry at your suspicions
Step 2. Begin an honest discussion about each other's needs
Ask about the things he needs and expects from a relationship. Also convey what you want and expect from a relationship. Try to negotiate to find a way for your relationship with him to grow.
Step 3. Be prepared to face the results
There is only one outcome of two possibilities in this situation. Either you have to find a way to make a connection with the new conditions, or you have to end it all.
