Often couples get so caught up in the daily grind that they forget to show their love for each other. Surprises can be a great way to keep the relationship going and remind you two not to take each other for granted. You can plan a special night together, make a special gift, or test your cooking skills to surprise your loved one.
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Method 1 of 2: Surprise Her With Something Special
Step 1. Write a love letter
While just as practical as emails and text messages, handwritten love letters feel much more sentimental. A handwritten letter usually conveys a more romantic and caring impression. If you find it awkward to express your feelings in person, your boyfriend will be happy to know how you feel in a letter.
- If you use certain colognes, spray a little product on your letter before sending it.
- Try putting the letter in his lunch box or tuck it in his locker.
Step 2. Tell him that you want to help him relax
Plan a whole day to make him comfortable and pamper him. Prepare lunch for him, do his homework, and offer him a massage. You can plan this special day on the weekend or on weekdays.
This form of surprise is more appropriate if you and your lover live together. However, there are still other ways to pamper him if the two of you don't live together. For example, you could buy him a cup of tea (if he likes tea) after school or massage his shoulders after he works out
Step 3. Try giving a classic gift
A box of chocolates, toy animals, jewelry, roses, or his favorite bouquet of flowers are classic and romantic gifts. However, don't buy anything at random; choose something he likes.
For example, if her favorite flower is a yellow rose, give her a yellow rose. If he really likes peanut butter chocolate, give him the treat. If he likes giraffes, give him a stuffed giraffe
Step 4. Choose a gift that is more special and personal
Give him a book written by his favorite author, a new album from his favorite band, or tickets to a show he really wants to see. Gifts like these show that you understand him enough to know what he likes. Apart from that, these gifts also reflect that you put more thought and effort into giving them a gift than simply choosing a casual romantic gift.
Step 5. Make a mixed music CD for him
A music CD can be a great gift, especially if he always listens to music on his way to/home from work or school, or enjoys listening to music while exercising. Burn CDs with songs that mean a lot to your relationship or music that reminds you of them. As a third option, choose songs that he really likes.
If you feel that he would like that extra personal touch, you can also include a private message for him at the beginning of the CD
Step 6. Plan activities outside the home
Do something he likes, even if it's not something you like. For example, you can take her shopping all day. If he doesn't like shopping, take him to a play or concert he'd enjoy, or visit a museum, zoo, or botanical garden. Try choosing an activity that is frequently mentioned or discussed in chats, but hasn't had the chance to do.
For example, if you want to take her to see a new movie, check both of your schedules to determine the exact day. Let him know that you've cleared your schedule and want to see if he has time for the day. If the time you choose matches his free time, he will be happy that you have spent enough time on your plans with him
Step 7. Create an album of photos or memories
An album filled with your memories with him can certainly be a surprise for your lover. The easiest way to do this is to provide a simple photo album filled with photos from the beginning of your relationship until now. For a more immersive gift, you can create a memory album with photos and notes about your thoughts and feelings about her.
You can practice making a scrapbook while preparing a gift by adding, for example, ticket stubs or food labels that have sentimental meaning to your relationship
Step 8. Look for simple ways to surprise him
Even small kindnesses can make him realize how much you care for him. Look for small opportunities to surprise him throughout the day. For example, you can:
- Charge his cell phone when he doesn't notice. If your boyfriend sometimes forgets to charge his phone, charge it as a sweet little surprise. Just connect his phone to a power source before leaving his house or watching a movie with him.
- Give him a compliment. Compliments are always a welcome surprise. Try throwing compliments at him at the most unexpected moments. For example, in the morning you can tell her she looks beautiful or say that she is brilliant after she explains the book she just finished reading.
- Leave messages in unexpected places. Simple messages like “You are the best!” or “Have a nice day!” can put a smile on his face. Try posting a message like this in his agenda book or somewhere else he can find it.
Step 9. Have a gathering
Don't throw a party unless you're sure he'll like it. A party or gathering can be a great way to surprise her on her birthday or graduation day if your boyfriend loves being the center of attention. If he is shy, anxious, or introverted, choose another, more intimate or personal way of showing your affection.
Remember to invite friends and family, not just your friends
Step 10. Look up travel information for a shared vacation
If there's a place you've always wanted to visit for some reason, look up information about the place. Get a brochure and determine the cost of travel to the place. Find a way to pay for the trip and show your loved one that you two can finally enjoy the vacation you've been dreaming of for a long time. Make sure your vacation destination is a place you both want to visit, not just a place of your dreams.
Method 2 of 2: Sharing Surprise Meals
Step 1. Be a chef
Preparing your own food is a form of romantic kindness, especially if your lover has always cooked something for you both. If you are confident in your cooking skills, try preparing a sumptuous meal for him. If not, make a simple dish like cheese toast or noodle soup. You can prepare breakfast, lunch or dinner. You don't have to serve up expensive dishes, but make sure he's going to like it.
- If you're hesitant to cook for yourself, surprise her by asking her to cook with you. You two can have a lot of fun together, and your invitation to cook together can still be romantic for him.
- Clean the table, use appropriate cutlery, and light a candle. Things like this show that you are not just serving dinner, but want to make this a special moment.
- If you live with a roommate or parent, set a time when your roommate or parents are away for (at least) an hour or two to make this date a special moment for you and your lover only.
Step 2. Surprise him with lunch
Visit him at work or meet him at the school locker/hallway and bring him food from his favorite cafe or fast food restaurant. A homemade sandwich or salad can also be a great gift. If you can't make it to work, you can take him out on a weekend outing and take him to the park for lunch.
Make sure you pay attention to the schedule. If he usually has free time at lunch, but suddenly he has an event at lunch every day of the week, you may need to wait until his schedule is empty again
Step 3. Take her to a romantic dinner date
You can choose a new restaurant with good reviews, or an old favorite restaurant that you two haven't visited in a long time. Also, if you choose a new restaurant, choose a restaurant that your boyfriend likes or at least serves the kind of food he likes.
Step 4. Try sharing a box of chocolates
If you don't feel the need to give a fancy romantic gift, you can share a box of chocolates. Go to a chocolate shop and choose a box of chocolates. Serve on the kitchen table or dining table and enjoy the chocolate together for a week. Discussing favorite flavors and sharing chocolate can be activities that bond with each other.
