Sometimes relationships can be toxic; or maybe one person or both have given up trying to keep the relationship going; Alternatively, some people simply end a relationship when they realize that they are not compatible with that person. Whatever the reason, ending a relationship can be awkward, and while it can be tempting to behave badly towards your partner to get him to end their relationship with you, it's best to be honest about your feelings so you can separate as friends rather than enemies.
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Method 1 of 3: Pushing Your Partner Away
Step 1. Avoid or ignore them
Don't pick up the phone or answer text messages if they ask to spend some time together. Physically separating yourself from your partner like this will show them that something is wrong in your relationship.
Keep in mind that this will also likely lead to more drama and anger from your partner, which in turn will lead to angry voicemails and “surprise” visits that could end badly
Step 2. Blame them for problems in the relationship
This is one way you can use to deflect blame from your behavior on your partner's actions, and it will hurt them enough to consider ending the relationship with you.
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Keep in mind that this method can end up permanently in a relationship, and may put you in a bad position in their eyes. #Have an affair or make them jealous by teasing other people. This is another avoidance tactic that will most likely hurt and upset your partner so much, they may end the relationship.
Get Someone to Break Up with You Step 3 - Be aware that flirting and/or cheating will involve other individuals outside your relationship and can make the situation even more complicated and stressful because you are now dealing with the feelings of your two "partners" instead of one person.
- This is also a very destructive and drastic way to get someone to break up with you.
Method 2 of 3: Making the Conversation End the Relationship
Step 1. Think about the benefits of discussing your desire to end the relationship with your partner
While avoiding your partner or being unkind and hurting them on purpose can be very tempting, having an adult discussion about how you feel will end up hurting your feelings less and it's more polite to end the relationship.
Instead of playing the avoidance game, know that your partner deserves to know how you feel and that you are not happy in this relationship
Step 2. Have your partner sit down and discuss your feelings with him directly
The healthiest way to get someone to break up with you is to discuss your unhappy feelings in the relationship with them, face to face. This can ensure that you can separate in a mature and respectful way that won't cause any unnecessary pain to either of you.
Step 3. Be honest and forthright, but be sensitive to their feelings
Be prepared with your partner who will argue with you and state that they can change or that you are wrong about the relationship. Try to put yourself in their shoes and be sympathetic if they express hurt or angry feelings.
- Stay calm and return to phrases you are comfortable with, such as: “This relationship is not working for me”, or “I don't want to be in this relationship anymore.”
- Avoid phrases that can sound like generic excuses, such as: “It's not because of you, it's because of me,” or “We're just not meant to be together.”
Step 4. Be specific about why you want to end the relationship
Explain why you don't want your relationship to continue and focus on how you feel rather than making a list of your partner's mistakes or issues.
Keep in mind that this will leave you open to criticism or anger from your partner, so be prepared and try to stay calm
Step 5. Be sensitive but firm in your decision to end the relationship
Even if there are tears or bad emotions during the conversation, it's important that you stick to your decision and end the relationship anyway.
It is important to give your partner the space and time to accept your relationship is over so cut off communication with them and put some distance between you two. A “clean termination” is usually the best way to end a relationship
Step 6. Seek help if your relationship is abusive or violent
If you're trying to end a relationship with your abusive or violent partner, it's not as simple as asking them to sit down for a private talk. Telling your partner that you plan to leave them can be dangerous and increase the risk of violence to you and/or others.
- You will need time to plan for ending the relationship, perhaps with the help of a trusted friend or family member.
- There are several free domestic violence helpline services you can call for advice on your options for leaving your partner and leaving safely.
Method 3 of 3: Making a Relationship End Permanently
Step 1. Avoid physical contact with the person after your relationship ends
This will most likely confuse your feelings and emotions, and will shift your final decision to end the relationship.
Step 2. Wait a fair amount of time before spending time with him
Some people will choose to completely cut off their relationship with their partner in order to recover them from the end of the relationship, but over time, you will feel comfortable enough to talk to your ex-partner again.
Do this only if sufficient time has passed and you feel like you have moved on with your life from this event, even if you were the one ending the relationship
Step 3. Seek legal assistance if the person exhibits stalking or harassing behavior
The violence you have experienced with your partner can continue even after your relationship ends or takes the form of stalking or bullying.
