Sometimes, you fall in love with the man of your dreams, but he already has a girlfriend. In general, you're better off not being the third person in someone else's relationship. However, you may feel more deserving of being the man's lover. If so, you may be able to separate him from his girlfriend so they can break up. While doing this, show that you are a better match for him. After that, you may be able to make the man fall in love with him and decide to break up with his lover. However, you may find it difficult to build a healthy relationship with the guy after manipulating him to break up with his girlfriend.
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Method 1 of 3: Making a fuss between the man and his lover
Step 1. Be a good listener so he enjoys talking to you
Making a guy feel heard and understood will make him feel connected to you. This can make him see you as a better person than his girlfriend. When he's talking to you, nod and say something in response, like "wow" or "yes, yes" to let him know you're listening. In addition, repeat what he's saying so he knows you understand what he's saying.
Ask meaningful questions to get him to talk. You might ask, “What did you do this weekend?” or “What TV show are you on right now?”
Variation:
If you frequently chat via text or email, pay attention by commenting on what he's saying and showing sympathy when he's going through something. For example, imagine that he sends a message complaining that his homework has been neglected due to his busy football practice. Instead of responding with emoticons or saying something like “I haven't done that either!” say something like “You really work hard, huh!” or “Maybe I can help you study.”
Step 2. Point out his girlfriend's flaws so that his opinion of her is damaged
Everyone has flaws, but you usually don't notice them when you like someone. Help the guy realize the bad qualities of his current girlfriend by mentioning his shortcomings every time you talk to him. Comment in a casual tone about what you don't like about her boyfriend, then cover it up by pretending he doesn't care at all.
- Say "He always looks angry about something, but maybe that's how he talks", or "Her hair would look better if she cared for it, but it doesn't seem like it matters to her."
- Talk about her boyfriend when he starts talking about her first. Even though you want him to be aware of his girlfriend's flaws, being too negative will do you bad. In addition, you want the guy to think only of you, not his girlfriend.
Tips:
Don't say anything positive about her boyfriend. When he starts talking about it, say something bad about him or change the subject.
Step 3. Try to blame the boyfriend if they fight
Most couples often disagree, and usually both parties are to blame. However, making the man of your dreams think that his girlfriend is the source of his troubles can make him break up with him. Whenever he talks about problems in the relationship, find excuses for his girlfriend to blame. After that, gently state that you feel sympathy because your boyfriend often causes trouble for him.
- For example, let's say the guy is arguing with his girlfriend because he was late for a date. You might say, "Wow, I wonder why your boyfriend always makes you feel guilty about something."
- Similar to the example above, let's say that your boyfriend is angry because he sees his friends more often than he does. You could say, "I wonder why he's always trying to control you like that."
Step 4. Spend your time with him so he doesn't see his girlfriend less often
Their relationship will be strained if they don't see each other often. In addition, this can force the boyfriend to break up with the guy so that you benefit. Invite him over to have fun with your friends and acquaintances. Also, ask him to help you do something, so you can spend more time together.
- For example, you could host a “game night” with your friends and crush, take him out for a game of bowling or mini golf, and take him out to see the latest movie.
- If you're still in school, invite him to be a work partner as often as possible.
Tips:
He might take his girlfriend out with him, and that's perfectly fine. If so, blend in and try to get his attention. In addition, you can also focus your attention on your boyfriend so he doesn't notice the guy you're after.
Method 2 of 3: Getting Your Man's Attention
Step 1. Smile and make eye contact with him as often as possible
Smiling makes you look fun and seductive. Similarly, keeping eye contact with him shows that you're interested, and can get his attention. As you pass the guy, look him in the eye, smile, then look away. When talking to him, look him in the eye, then smile or laugh slowly to show that you like him.
- Look into her eyes for 2-3 seconds at a time. Don't stare too long because he can feel uncomfortable.
- If you have trouble looking him in the eye, practice in front of a mirror. Then, make eye contact with people close to you, such as a friend or family member.
Step 2. Choose clothes that make you look beautiful
Put on all your clothes to find out which one makes you feel more confident. When you're around a guy, wear clothes that highlight your best body parts to make him look more attractive. It will also make you feel more confident, which will make him want you even more.
- Don't feel pressured to wear trendy clothes. If you choose clothes that make you feel confident, you will look beautiful.
- For example, you can wear shorts or miniskirts to show off your long legs, sleeveless shirts to show off your arms, or short-cut clothes to accentuate your chest.
Step 3. Show a positive attitude around the guy so he can have fun with you
Make him feel comfortable around you by always showing a positive attitude in front of him. When talking to him, discuss the cool things that are happening in your life. In addition, look for lessons from bad events so that you look optimistic.
- For example, tell him about your recent accomplishments, life goals, and activities you do for fun.
- As another example, just imagine if an open concert that you wanted to go to together was canceled because of the rain. You can say, “It's a shame the concert was cancelled, but we can still have fun. I know a coffee shop nearby that has live music every Saturday. Let's go over there."
Step 4. Pursue your interests to appear like an attractive girl
Having hobbies and doing things you enjoy makes you seem like a versatile person, thereby attracting people's attention. Make a list of things you love, then take time each day to work on them. Tell your favorite guy about your hobbies and share your activities on social media.
- For example, you could paint, learn to play the guitar, or make your own clothes.
- If you are still in school, join a club related to your interests. For example, you could join a drama club if you like theater or acting.
Step 5. Go out with friends or other guys so the guy thinks you can have fun
Men want to be with women who know how to enjoy life. So, have fun. Go out to dinner with your friends and join them for various activities, such as rollerblading or going to a concert. Also, flirt with other guys and don't be afraid to hang out with them.
- If he sees you having fun with other people, he will be more interested in getting to know you. This will make him curious to spend time with you.
- Share photos of your fun activities on social media to let the guy see you having fun.
Tips:
Don't stand still and wait for the guy to fall in love. Go outside to enjoy life and he will eventually realize how attractive you are.
Step 6. Find a new job so he thinks you're liked by people
Make it clear that you don't want to spend time waiting for it. Say that you are very busy, even though you are not. Try to always have a plan, whether it's a plan to study at the nearest coffee shop, watch a movie with friends, or spend time with family.
Say something like "I wish I had more free time, but I'm so busy!" or “My activities are endless, but I have fun!”
Step 7. Touch the guy coquettishly on the arm, shoulder, back, or leg
Touching her in a natural way is a good way to flirt without appearing too lustful. In addition, it can make him think about how it would feel if you touched him more often. Start by gently touching his arm, then lean on his shoulder. After that, touch your hand to the target guy's thigh casually while sitting next to him.
Find reasons to be around him. For example, you can pretend to show something, such as a book or writing
Step 8. Pay attention to what he likes so that he feels appreciated
This will make him think that you two have something in common while also showing that you care about him. Ask what his interests are and listen to the answers. Talk about this at a later time to let him know that you are listening and remember what he has to say.
For example, let's say his favorite band is Noah. Other times, when you see him, say "I heard the song 'Half Me' on the radio and all I remember is you". Similarly, if he says he likes science fiction, you can find a new best-selling science fiction book and recommend it to him
Step 9. Help him work through his problems so he feels like you're always there for him
Invite him to talk to you about his problems and difficulties. When he opens up, be a good listener and provide a shoulder to lean on. This will make him realize that you are always there for him, so he wants to build a relationship further.
Tell him “You look really depressed. Want to tell me something?” or “Is everything okay? I'm here if you need someone to talk to."
Step 10. Ask him for help to make the guy think you need him
Making him feel needed can make him fall in love with you. Come up with reasons for him to want to help you, such as helping with housework or lifting heavy items. You can also ask him to help you improve something or give an opinion. This will make him feel needed and valuable.
Say “Can you help prepare this presentation?” or “Please help me assemble this bookshelf, will you?”
Tips:
Don't ask for help more than once a week. In addition, make sure you're not communicating just to ask for help. You don't want him to think that you always need something.
Step 11. Give him a compliment to show interest
Everyone likes to be praised. So saying nice things about her will make the guy happy. In addition, this will show that you are interested in him. Whenever you're around him, tell him what you like about him. Try to compliment the guy at least once every time you see him.
Say something like “This shirt looks great on you,” “You had a great presentation,” “Your new hairstyle is so sexy,” or “You played great yesterday!”
Step 12. Ask him out after the breakup
After a guy breaks up with his girlfriend, he may not be ready to make the first move. You can speed up this process by asking her out. Invite him to do something relaxing and fun, like playing mini golf or drinking coffee. Thus, he would not have to worry about being rejected.
Say “Come play mini golf with me,” or “Want to go to a comedy cafe tonight with me?”
Method 3 of 3: Building Healthy Relationships
Step 1. Spend time together so that your relationship develops
Make a plan so that you can meet the guy you want several times a week. Go on a date, hang out at home, or make a video call. This will help you build strong and healthy relationships.
- For example, you could make Saturday your regular date day or spend 2 days a week hanging out with him.
- For example, invite him to spend the night playing a game, going to the movies, or playing bowling.
Step 2. Keep your lines of communication with him
Talk to your crush every day, whether in person, via text, or over the phone. In addition, listen to what he has to say. This will help you develop a strong bond, and get to know each other better.
- Send short messages when you wake up and before going to bed.
- Start exchanging funny messages with each other, like sending memes.
Step 3. Create intimacy by opening up to him
A good relationship has both emotional and physical intimacy. However, it's best to take things slowly so that your relationship remains healthy. Start by telling a little secret that you don't tell a lot of people. Then, tell me who you are over time. In addition, create physical intimacy by holding hands, cuddling, and lying down together.
- When you feel ready, try to kiss him and make a more intimate touch.
- Don't say things you're not ready to say. It's okay to hold back until the time is right.
Step 4. Develop mutual trust between the two of you to strengthen the relationship
Trust is very important in a relationship and it takes time to develop. To build trust, you must always be honest with your partner and keep your word. Also, don't doubt your partner's honesty and trust what he or she says.
Keep in mind that building trust can be a bit difficult after you make him break up with his girlfriend
Step 5. Keep each other free when in a relationship
A healthy relationship allows lovers to live life outside of their relationship. This means that you and the guy need to spend time alone with friends, pursue hobbies, and enjoy each other's life. Make sure you maintain a personal identity when you are with him. Similarly, you must also encourage him to become an independent person.
Even though you want to spend as much time with him as possible, it's not healthy to be around him all the time. Enjoy your time alone so that the time spent together becomes more enjoyable
Tips
- Don't spend all your time trying to grab this guy.
- Don't ask the guy to break up with his girlfriend. This will only keep him away from you. Let him decide for himself to leave his lover.
Warning
- If he broke up for you, his girlfriend would be really hurt.
- Remember that the guy you're after is usually just looking for an escape. So, your relationship may not last long. If you want to build a healthy relationship, give the guy time to reflect on his decision to end the relationship with his girlfriend.
