Success and happiness in life is largely determined by how to overcome problems. If you're having trouble solving a problem, start by identifying it and then breaking it down into easy-to-handle aspects. Decide if you want to come up with a solution based on rational thought or consider the impact it has on your feelings. Think of creative ways to solve problems, for example by asking others for help and considering different perspectives.
Method 1 of 3: Facing Problems
Step 1. Identify the problem
Find out the real problem, instead of just observing the symptoms that arise as a result. When identifying problems, don't consider things that are irrelevant. Focus on the problem at hand. Meanwhile, other issues can be considered at another time. Make sure you know and understand what is going on.
- For example: if your room is always messy, consider whether this condition is caused by a lack of place to store or put things, rather than because you are lazy to clean.
- Identify the problem in detail and thoroughly. If you're having a personal problem, admit that you're the one who triggered it. If a logistical problem occurs, determine where and when the problem occurred.
- Determine whether the problem really exists or is just making it up. Ask yourself does the problem need to be addressed or do you want it yourself? Think wisely so that you can solve problems well.
Step 2. Make important decisions first
Determine the decision to be made and what impact it will have on solving the problem. By making a decision, you can progress to solving the problem. Therefore, determine what needs to be prioritized, what actions must be taken, and how to do them.
- For example: You are facing some problems and need to determine the problem to be solved first. Solving one problem will reduce the burden on your mind and relieve stress because there are still other problems that must be overcome.
- After making a decision, don't worry. Instead of thinking about what would happen if you decided something different, be optimistic about getting the results you want.
Step 3. Simplify the problem
In addition to feeling burdensome, very complicated problems are usually difficult to overcome. If you're facing multiple problems at the same time, break them down into more manageable ones and work them out one by one. This method helps you understand each problem and find the best solution.
- For example: if you have to submit several assignments in order to advance to a grade, make sure you know how many assignments you have to submit and then complete them one by one.
- Solve multiple problems at once if possible. For example: when you run out of time to study, listen to a recorded lecture session while walking to class or read a notecard while waiting for dinner.
Step 4. Write down what you know and don't understand
Study the materials and information you have obtained and then determine what you need. Try to understand all the information that is available and then organize it in a useful way.
For example: if you want to pass multiple exams, determine the subjects you have mastered and the exam material that you still have to study. Begin by rereading material you already understand and then learn information from notes, textbooks, or other useful sources
Step 5. Be prepared for the outcome you expect
Make one or more contingency plans so that you are not bound by a particular solution. After determining several alternative solutions, consider what benefits each solution will bring and the impact it will have on yourself and others. Visualize the best and worst possible scenarios.
Pay close attention to how you feel as you imagine each scenario
Step 6. Allocate resources
So that the problem can be solved, prepare the necessary resources, for example: time, money, energy, travel, etc. If problem solving is a top priority, allocate more resources for that purpose. Think about what resources you have that could be used to solve the problem.
- For example: in order to complete a task while facing a very short deadline, allocate time by not cooking dinner or delaying working out at the gym.
- As much as possible, reduce tasks that are less important. For example: use a delivery service to shop for groceries so you can do other tasks.
Method 2 of 3: Using Creative Ways
Step 1. Think of some solutions
Use a variety of ways to solve the problem. Remember that problems can be solved in many ways and you can choose the best way. After considering the various solutions, decide which ones can be implemented and which ones should be ignored.
- If you want to make a complicated decision, write down a few options first so you don't forget anything and you just cross out the ones that don't work.
- For example: when you are hungry and want to eat right away, think about whether you want to cook for yourself, buy fast food, use a delivery service, or eat at a restaurant.
Step 2. Use a variety of approaches
If a problem can be solved only by thinking logically, use logic to find a solution. Sometimes, you need to combine your thinking, feeling, and intuition skills in order to make the most appropriate decisions. Then, study different approaches, consider their impact, and choose the best one.
For example: You get a job offer abroad with a higher salary, but have to leave your family. In order to make the most appropriate decision, look for solutions by thinking logically, but also taking into account the opinions of family members, your feelings, and the impact on family life
Step 3. Seek advice from others
If solving the problem isn't urgent, ask someone else for advice. Meet people who have experienced the same problem. Maybe he is willing to share his experiences and provide input. You are free to decide whether you want to follow his advice or not. However, it's a good idea to take the time to consider different perspectives.
For example: You want to buy a house, but can't make up your mind yet. Discuss this with other homeowners to find out their opinion or disappointment after buying a home
Step 4. Monitor the progress of your decisions implemented
If you want to achieve a certain goal, watch the things that happen. If you're progressing in a positive direction, move on. However, if the decision isn't the best, think of other ways to solve the problem. We recommend that you determine another solution with a different strategy.
- For example: if you are facing financial difficulties, pay attention to whether your efforts have an impact on the income and expenditure of money. If you are helped by implementing a financial budget, continue. If cash payments are getting you into trouble, use another method.
- Keep a journal to record your progress, successes, and challenges. Read things you noted down as a source of motivation when you're feeling down.
Method 3 of 3: Controlling Emotions in the Face of Adversity
Step 1. Control your emotions
Anxiety or nervousness can make it difficult for you to make decisions or deal with problems. If you can't come up with a solution because you're afraid, try to calm yourself down. Breathe deeply so that you feel calm and relaxed before making a decision.
- Also, you can overcome your fears and calm yourself down by taking a leisurely walk or journaling.
- The first step is usually the most challenging. Take small steps to get started. For example: if you want to move more, start by walking every day.
Step 2. Try to find out the real root of the problem
Sometimes, problems that come to the surface are triggered by something that is not realized. If the same problem occurs over and over again, consider another problem that triggered it. That way, you can solve the problem completely.
- For example: if you're feeling pressured when you're multitasking, the real problem isn't necessarily the task, but it may be that you feel reluctant to do challenging things.
- Stress, anger, or feelings of depression tend to make you helpless. Write down everything that makes you stressed or frustrated and then work on it. If you are still feeling depressed, remove the trigger immediately.
Step 3. Consult a therapist
If you often have difficulty making decisions or feel hesitant after deciding on a solution, see a mental health professional for advice. Maybe you are not able to respect yourself so you tend to feel doubtful or inferior. The therapist is able to provide input and challenges that help you see yourself more positively and realistically.
Seek information about therapists through a mental health clinic or hospital. You can also ask for recommendations from your doctor or friends
- Breathe deeply when you feel pressured or frustrated. Remember that every problem has a solution. In some cases, you are so focused on the problem that you are unable to see anything else.
- Don't avoid the problem because sooner or later, the avoided problem will reappear and become more and more difficult to overcome. Use common sense to find a solution.