When you're away from someone you care about, it's natural to wonder if they miss you too. Perhaps, you are starting to feel distant from old friends, relatives, or other people who are usually close to you. Or maybe, you just want to know if your boyfriend really misses you when he goes on a business visit to another place. Therefore, find out if someone misses you without having to stalk or act inappropriately.
Method 1 of 2: Finding Out If Someone Misses You (When Separated or Break Up)
Step 1. Invite him to meet and watch his reaction
If you feel like your friendship is getting weaker and you want to know if your friend misses you, invite them to meet up and do something light and relaxing together, like drinking coffee at a cafe. If he shows an enthusiastic reaction, there's a good chance he misses you too. On the other hand, if he's procrastinating and seems reluctant to see you, realize that he probably doesn't miss you.
Be honest when you miss him, but don't come across as accusing him. You could say: “I miss having fun with you on Sunday nights. Do you want to meet again later?”
Step 2. Talk about the problem that underlies the breakdown of the relationship
If your friendship is starting to fall apart and you don't know the reason, it's a good idea to talk to him directly about the cause of your breakup. Tell him that you feel that you and he are no longer close. Ask if you've ever done anything to offend or hurt her feelings. If the answer is yes, be prepared to listen to what he has to say without immediately defending yourself.
It's a good idea to ask directly if he misses you too, but don't push or pressure him. If your friend feels accused, he or she may not answer honestly
Step 3. Talk to friends who both know you and your friends/girlfriends
Explain your purpose and needs. For example, you could say: “I feel like my friendship with him is starting to fade, and that makes me sad. Do you think I should contact him now?” After that, listen carefully to his response.
Don't ask if your friend/boyfriend misses you just to make yourself feel better
Step 4. Let the relationship end naturally
Recognize the signs of the end of a friendship. There may be many long and awkward pauses when you chat with him. Making plans to meet or do activities together will be even more difficult. Misunderstandings are becoming more and more common. Not all friendships last forever. As interests and lives begin to change, so do relationships.
If your friendship ends, don't obsess over knowing if he misses you. Instead, just be grateful for the good things that he has given in life and rise again
Step 5. Don't mistake “I miss you” as “I want to be with you”
Even if your "ex" friend or boyfriend misses you, that doesn't mean he wants to start the relationship again. You both may be lamenting the loss of the beautiful things that once had together. However, the presence of longing does not necessarily mean that getting back into a relationship is the right thing.
Method 2 of 2: Finding out if your partner misses you when you're not together
Step 1. Pay attention to how often he calls or texts
If your friend or partner calls you frequently to chat, there's a good chance he or she misses you when you're not with them. Although everyone has a different communication style, frequent calls or texting are signs that a relationship is developing.
Step 2. Listen to the tone of his voice
When someone misses you, they will sound interested and excited when you talk. If your friend's tone of voice doesn't sound excited (or she seems always distracted) when you see her after a long absence, there's a good chance she doesn't miss you.
Step 3. Be honest when you feel anxious or insecure
If you feel anxious or insecure when your partner is gone, it's a good idea to tell the truth. Questions like “Do you miss me?” or “Do you still love me?” may not be able to get your point across correctly. If your partner answers “Yes”, you may not believe it. On the other hand, if he answers “No”, you will feel even worse. Therefore, ask for the certainty you need directly.
For example, you could say: “I had a bad day and feel lonely and anxious tonight. Can you give me some extra support and tell me that you love me and miss me?”
Step 4. Pay attention to what he shares with you
If your friend or partner shares a picture or link that reminds them of you, it means that they are thinking about you. When the two of you are not together, you are still on his mind.
- Gift giving is another way to show care and interest. Even if you don't always like what your friend or partner gives you, realize that giving a gift is proof that he or she is thinking of you when you're away from him.
- If he wants to go into detail about a boring meeting or flight he's had, be aware that he may want to keep talking to you. Sharing details about mundane things is a way he follows to maintain a distance between them and shows that he misses you when he's away from you.
Step 5. Pay attention to nonverbal cues
If you are away from him, it may be difficult to read the physical signs of caring or affection that your partner is showing you. If you're on a video call with him, pay attention to whether he tilts his head slightly or maintains eye contact with you. If you call her, remember that a softer or higher (cheerful) tone of voice can reflect familiarity.
Step 6. Recognize the signs of sadness from a breakup
The existence of a strong bond in a partner can indicate that the separation that occurs can cause stress and anxiety. If he's feeling anxious or restless, especially when you're away from him, there's a good chance he still misses you.
- Don't stalk someone in real life or the internet. If you are consumed by doubts about whether or not he or she misses you, try talking to a counselor, therapist, or a trusted friend.
- Watch out for separation anxiety disorder in adults. If you're constantly feeling anxious and suspicious about whether someone misses you or not, you may need to talk to a counselor or therapist. Get help if these symptoms are interfering with your life: excessive anxiety when you are away from loved ones; the appearance of nightmares about parting with someone; or anxiety about dangerous things experienced by loved ones, even when they are not actually in danger.