There's no surefire way to tell if someone really loves you, but there are ways to read the signs to find out what's on the mind of your loved one. If you want to know if the person you love really loves you too, then you have to pay close attention to how they behave, say, and act when you are with them. Although love has different meanings for each person, but there are many ways to see if someone really loves you and is not just in love for a moment, just like, just want your money, or even just crazy about you for just a moment. If you want to know how to tell if someone really loves you, follow these steps.
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Method 1 of 3: Watch His Behavior
Step 1. See if she can be herself when she's around you
Part of loving is being open to the person you love. If he feels comfortable showing his true self in front of you, then chances are he loves you because he wants to open up to you.
- If he feels comfortable telling you what he thinks and feels, it also means he loves you.
- If he feels comfortable showing his imperfect self in front of you, it means he is not afraid to show his true self in front of you.
Step 2. See if he enjoys being around you, even in difficult times
If your loved one is going through a bad day but becomes more cheerful when they see you, then it is a sign of love. If he loves you, then your presence and/or voice will make him feel better, even if just a little.
The next time he's upset or having a tough day, watch his reaction when you're around him
Step 3. See if he looks at you wide-eyed
It may sound strange, but look into the eyes of your loved ones the next time you see them. Does he look at you in an innocent, teary, goofy and adorable way that can only be described as "wide-eyed"? You'll know if you see that stare. You won't get those stares all the time, you can find them in the morning, or occasionally from across the table.
You may be able to see him looking at you with the same expression
Step 4. See if he overexcites you
Love makes people feel excited, carefree, and happy for no apparent reason. If you see him acting like this whenever you're around him, then it means he's in love with you. Is he very excited and often smiles for no apparent reason? If yes, then he loves you.
- If you say something not so funny but he laughs out loud, then he may be in love.
- If he gets nervous around you, he may be happy to meet you.
Step 5. See if he gets angry when you are angry
If you feel upset or angry about one thing or another, then your loved one will probably be upset too. If he really loves you, then he will absorb the negative emotions you are releasing because he wants you to feel better as soon as possible.
While he doesn't have to be as angry as you, he can obviously be influenced by your current mood because he just wants you to be happy
Method 2 of 3: Watch the Words
Step 1. See if he discusses your future together as if it were obvious
If someone really loves you, then the idea that you'll be a part of his future is obvious, and he doesn't need to guess and question. If someone often asks what you're going to do in the future, or how your life will be with him in the next one, two, or three years, then he probably really loves you.
- Complete commitment to a relationship means seeing that you will live with it for the rest of your life. If he discusses the future and always includes you in his plans and aspirations, then he is most likely in love with you.
- If he's discussing what your child will be like, where you'd like to retire together, or where you'd like to spend your honeymoon, chances are he really loves you.
Step 2. See if he's giving a meaningful compliment
There's a difference between "I love your haircut" and "You can always make me feel better." If he's giving compliments that show how much he appreciates important aspects of your character and personality, then there's a good chance he really loves you.
He doesn't always have to compliment you. What matters most is the quality of the compliment, not the number of compliments
Step 3. See if he says “I love you” really
If he really loves you and says it while looking into your eyes, sounds sincere, and doesn't expect anything in return, then chances are he really loves you.
If he really loves you, then he will say it for no apparent reason, not because he wants something, but he just feels it deserves to be said
Step 4. See if he is very open to you
If he really loves you, then he will open up to you and tell you what he thinks, feels, fears, and wants. If he opens up and wants to talk about his childhood, his biggest regret, the most painful moment for him, or the most romantic dream he wants in the future, then chances are he really loves you because he feels comfortable telling you everything.
If he admits that he never tells anyone anything, then he probably has a lot of faith in you
Step 5. See if he really misses you when you separated from him
If you and your partner are constantly texting, calling, or contacting you in any way when you're not with them just to show that they miss you, then that means they can't imagine life without you. If you've been away for three weeks and haven't heard from him, it means he probably doesn't love you that much.
He doesn't have to call you every day and every time to say and express that he misses you
Step 6. See if he feels comfortable telling you what you did wrong
If he really loves you, then he doesn't expect you to be perfect. He will feel comfortable telling you if you made a mistake, said something illogical, or acted unkindly. While he doesn't have to criticize you all the time, his act of pointing out your mistakes means that he knows you very well and accepts your strengths and weaknesses.
If he never argues, protests, or criticizes you, then you should be wary. Make sure that he really loves you for who you are, not his ideal version of you
Step 7. See if he really values your opinion
If he really loves you, then he will care what you think, whether it's about the shoes you should wear, or your opinion on the political situation in your city or country. If he really loves you, then he will seek your advice and opinion on any matter, big or small.
He doesn't have to ask for an opinion on everything, but only a few things for which he needs someone else's opinion
Method 3 of 3: Watch His Actions
Step 1. See if he hears everything you have to say
If he really loves you, then he will not only open up to you, but will also listen to whatever you have to say, even if he's heard the same thing before. He will not be by your side 24 hours, but he will always be willing to listen to what you have to say without interrupting and replying to it in a kind and relevant manner.
Part of loving each other is being able to listen to each other, not being able to talk
Step 2. See if he's always there for you, even for troublesome things
He can be there for you whenever you take him out to a restaurant or out, but what about when you want to be picked up at the airport or need someone to do something while you're sick? If he really loves you, then he will be there for you, in good times or bad.
- If he's with you only when you're happy, but disappears when you're sad and upset, then that's not true love.
- Love is always there for him, whatever the situation. To truly love someone means to accept all their flaws and strengths, and to always be there for them in good and bad times.
Step 3. See if he does anything good to you
If he really loves you, then he'll do things like grocery shopping for you or bringing you food when you're sick. He doesn't have to do it every day or too much, but if he really loves you, then he will do anything to make you smile and make your life easier.
- True love is not only about what you can get from the other person, but also what you can give.
- If he loves you very much, then he will do nice things to you without being asked. Because he definitely knows if you need him even if you don't ask. If you have to ask him to do something for you, then it probably isn't love.
Step 4. See if he always wants to be around you
Part of loving is always wanting to be with the person you love, even if the situation is impossible or difficult. If he really loves you, then he wants to be around you as much as possible. It's not that he wants to get too close to the point of physical contact, but he wants to try to take as many opportunities as possible to meet you.
This doesn't mean he has to want to be around you 24 hours a day. But if he only makes time to see you once or twice a month, then it probably isn't love
Step 5. See if he knows when to give you some wiggle room
If he really loves you, then he not only wants to be around you as much as possible, but knows when to make room and let you do what you want. If he wants to be around you all the time, it means he's just obsessed with you. If the love between two people matures, both will realize that each needs to do his own thing to maintain his identity.
If he wants to be around you for 24 hours, it's showing insecurity about the relationship between the two of you, not love
Step 6. See if he really understands you
True love is very understanding. Even though the expression seems cliché, the person who loves you must understand you in order to truly love. If he understands your mood, knows what you want and don't want, and knows what makes you happy before you say it, then it could be true love.
You can leave some things about yourself a mystery, because you don't have to be 100 percent understood, but you should be able to see if he knows what you're saying and doing most of the time
Step 7. See if he wants to do what's best for you, even if it's not what's best for him
If he really loves you, then he'll understand that there are things you do that might not be the best choice for him, or even force you to separate from him for a while. If he really loves you, then he will understand conditions like you have to come home early to get enough sleep or have to go away for a while for college and so on.
If he just wants the best for both of you, then he doesn't really see you as a unique individual with his own desires and needs
Step 8. See if he really supports you
If he really loves you, then he's not only there in your happy times, but also there to help you achieve your goals and move forward in your life. If he really loves you, he'll be there to support you at the sports you're participating in, he'll be there on your thesis exam, and there to drive you to job interviews. He will also be there when you need a friend to talk about something important to you.
If he really loves you, then he will help and support you in achieving your goals and interests, even if it may not bring him any benefits
Tips
- Don't assume someone likes you because they should. You earn it because and it must with your efforts.
- Once you've managed to get someone's attention, you'll notice that they see you differently and often smile when you're around them.
- Pay attention to his feelings. If he likes you, then your actions will mean more to him. So, be careful when you act.
- If someone doesn't talk to you, it doesn't mean they don't love you. He could be embarrassed.
- If you feel that someone likes you, then you certainly don't want to ask them directly to be sure. It will only make him more embarrassed and may never ask you out or have a conversation.
