No one can deny that breakups are hard. However, it's even harder when your ex suddenly says he misses you. Before answering, take a look at some of the responses below and choose the one that best fits your feelings. With well-crafted words, you can tell him what you think about him (and whether or not you miss him too).
Step
Method 1 of 10: No answer at all
Step 1. You don't have to give any feedback if you don't want to
If the relationship ends badly or he cheats on you, it's probably best not to respond. If he keeps calling, you may need to block his number.
This method is also appropriate if he sends a message at an unnatural hour. If he only texts in the middle of the night or when he's drunk, he probably doesn't really miss you
Method 2 of 10: “Sorry, I don't have any feelings for you anymore.”
Step 1. Refuse gently
If you've forgotten it (or are trying to forget it), say it in plain language. This is a firm response that asks him to step away and forget about you.
- Don't be surprised if he doesn't respond to an answer like this. Maybe he's hurt and needs some time to himself.
- If he replies angrily, it's best to just block the number.
Method 3 out of 10: “You already have a boyfriend.”
Step 1. Remind him that he needs to think of someone else now
While it's also nice to get an "I miss you" message from your ex, if he's in a new relationship, it's not fair to his girlfriend if you and your ex are still in a relationship. Make it clear that the two of you shouldn't talk anymore because he already has someone else.
Your ex-boyfriend may not even know that the two of you are still in contact. It's not appropriate for your ex to hide this from his girlfriend
Method 4 out of 10: “I already have a boyfriend.”
Step 1. Convey that you already have a partner
Texting your ex when you have a new partner is very risky, and it's probably best to just ignore the message. However, if your ex doesn't know that you have a boyfriend, tell him to (hopefully) stop calling.
- If you and your new boyfriend are serious, consider letting him know that your ex is texting. That way, there won't be any threatening trust issues halfway through.
- Even if you don't have a boyfriend, you can use this as an excuse to stop him from contacting you.
Method 5 out of 10: “You just miss the memories with me.”
Step 1. People usually only remember the good things in relationships
However, you can remind your ex the reason for breaking up. If he asks what you mean, recount the unpleasant problem and why the two of you wouldn't get along.
For example, say, “Remember how conflicting our interests were? You just hang out with your friends and me with my friends. We're rarely alone."
Method 6 of 10: “Then why did you dump me?”
Step 1. If you are the one being left out, ask him to explain
This is an appropriate response if you are not satisfied with his reasons for breaking up with you. If he contacts you without an explanation, ask him to talk about what he did and why. If he really wants to get back to you, he will be able to explain without hesitation.
Method 7 out of 10: “LOL.”
Step 1. He probably wouldn't expect this kind of response
If you think his longing is funny or you can't believe he misses you after what he did, just reply with a laughing emoji or “HAHA”. This response was a bit harsh, and he should have understood. If he is smart, he will not retaliate again.
It's the perfect response if he calls you in the middle of the night or while drunk
Method 8 of 10: Change topic
Step 1. Ignore the "I miss you" remark and move on to another topic
If the two of you were previously discussing something else, continue the conversation as if nothing had been said. If you get this message out of the blue, try to answer it like this:
- “Oh yeah, I forgot, I left my blue sweater there? I've been looking everywhere."
- “Oh, I miss your dog. How are you?"
Method 9 out of 10: “I'm fine now, never miss you.”
Step 1. Say that you have forgotten about it
This scathing reply would stop her flirting and make her rethink. If he continues to call, please block the number or tell him to stop calling you.
Don't let his longing words get you down. If you're doing well so far, continue your day as normal
Method 10 out of 10: “I miss you too.”
Step 1. Choose this answer only if you want to get back with it
Before replying with an answer like this, think about why the relationship ended and what would happen if the relationship continued. Think carefully. If you want to try again, give him the answer he might want to hear.
