In fact, treating women well and correctly is not as difficult as moving mountains because most importantly, you must be able to be kind, respectful, and willing to communicate everything honestly and openly to him. In other words, do everything you can to show him you care and strengthen the bond that exists between the two of you.
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Method 1 of 3: Building Openness and Trust
Step 1. Communicate any ideas and problems openly
Remember, every lasting and quality relationship is built on communication, openness, and honesty. Hiding your dreams and desires from him will only form an invisible barrier between the two of you. Be careful, relationships that are already far away will be difficult to glue back together. Therefore, bridge the distance by always communicating honestly and openly. Don't be afraid to share your hopes, fears, and unique ideas with him. After that, let him do the same!
Don't be afraid to talk about things that are hard to talk about. Even if you think you have to “protect” him from issues that are likely to hurt him, realize that he is an intelligent individual and is able to manage his own emotions, just like you. Trust me, he will actually feel happier if he hears your honesty even though he has to feel hurt afterwards
Step 2. Make eye contact
In fact, eye contact is effective in building trust, closeness, and love between couples. Making eye contact shows that you are always speaking with honesty and respect to your partner. On the other hand, averting your gaze will give the impression that you are not someone you can trust. Make sure you also focus your gaze on his face, not on the rest of his body. Don't make her think that you just like her body.
If you're having trouble making eye contact with him, try focusing your gaze on the area between his eyes or into his ear holes. Most people won't notice that you're not looking them in the eye if you're not too far apart
Step 3. Always listen to his words
In fact, 50% of the conversation is listening, but most people often forget to close their mouths and open their ears in conversation. From now on, try to ask him questions and listen carefully to his answers. also nod your head to show agreement and ask follow-up questions if possible. If you've been talking for 2-3 minutes, stop and throw a conversation ball at him.
- Listen to his words while looking him in the eyes.
- Ask casual questions like, “How are you today?” and "What do you think?"
Step 4. Give sincere compliments
If you really like him, try giving quirky compliments like, “I love the way you laugh! It really works to lighten up a situation," instead of "You have nice eyes, don't you." Avoid clichéd compliments she's likely already heard! Remember, only give sincere and honest compliments.
The more sincere and specific your compliment is, the more positive the impact will be. So try to think of the things you really like about him and tell him about it! Don't just say a sentence you hear in a movie without really meaning it
Step 5. Don't leave her side when she's upset
Sometimes, he just needs a listener, not a solution. Therefore, always treat him well and listen to his every complaint. If he admits that he needs time and distance to be alone, don't hesitate to give it.
- If you want to be a supportive partner, make sure you're always there when he needs you. Even if the problem sounds very simple, still show your concern by not belittling the problem and being willing to listen to it.
- If he looks upset but doesn't want to say why, don't force him. Just listen to the words that come out of his mouth. If you want, you can also ask a meaningful question, "What are you thinking about?" or “How are you feeling today?”. Don't ask, "Is there a problem, huh?". The question implies that something is wrong and risks causing him to shut himself off from you even more.
Method 2 of 3: Make Her Feel Special
Step 1. Surprise him with simple behaviors that show you love him
For example, kiss her cheek quickly, hold her hand tightly, or whisper something in her ear. After that, observe the response. Remember, every woman reacts differently to the same actions. Some do not mind showing affection in public, while others are less comfortable doing so. Some of the things you can do include:
- Pull him into your arms and kiss him. After that, let him kiss you back.
- Greet him by hugging him from behind and kissing his cheek.
- Hug him while you're sitting or lying side by side. Wrap your arm around his shoulder or kiss his shoulder once in a while.
- Hug him from behind and rest your neck on his shoulder.
Step 2. Contact him by phone or text message every day
Remember, there's no need to force yourself to discuss serious topics or have long conversations with her all the time. Instead, just show them that you remembered to call them because you were thinking about them. In other words, you can also send him a quick recipe if he likes to cook, shares a date idea that suddenly occurred to you, or just sends a cute picture you find on the internet. Do not hesitate to ask how he is and tell how you are that day. Trust me, even a short message can show that you're thinking about him and don't ignore him even if he's not by your side at the time.
Step 3. Turn everyday interactions into “short date moments.”
For example, don't hesitate to contact her just to take her for a leisurely walk around the complex or to buy ice cream at the nearest supermarket. You can also buy food before visiting his house and take him to dinner at home while watching television. If you want, you can also cook dinner for him, or take him to lunch in a city park instead of the office cafeteria. Such simple actions show that you are always thinking about him and are willing to do whatever it takes to make him happy.
Step 4. Ask her out on a date
Remember, dating isn't just about spending money. Instead, dating is an activity that allows the two of you to spend some quality time together. In other words, the perfect date should allow you both to enjoy each other's company, learn more about each other's characters, and explore the world together. Some classic date ideas are to watch a movie at the cinema, attend a music concert, and have dinner together. However, know that your options are not limited to these three activities! Try weighing his interests to find date ideas he's sure to like.
- Take him to a nearby animal sanctuary to play with the cute animals.
- Take him for a hike in the mountains or just take a leisurely walk in the city park. After that, invite him to end the day with dinner while having a picnic.
- Read the local newspaper or magazine to find out what interesting events are going on in your city.
Step 5. Make sure you always remember and celebrate special days
For example, don't hesitate to plan a simple surprise to celebrate your birthday or anniversary, such as giving her a flower or bringing breakfast to her house. Trust me, your initiative will definitely make her feel special. In addition, doing so also shows that you value the relationship as much as your partner does.
Every now and then, have fun by asking him to celebrate special days for both of you (like celebrating the first day you both cooked together or just celebrating a holiday together)
Method 3 of 3: Be a Man
Step 1. Treat him politely and ethically
Most men tend to take some basic etiquette out of the way like letting a woman walk in first or opening the door for her. However, be aware that actions such as opening the door, helping him carry heavy items, or pulling up a chair to make it easier for him to sit down show that you are a manly man and worth keeping. Remember, doing so is not the same as belittling his independence. Therefore, do not hesitate to do it from now on!
- Hold out your hand when she walks in high heels or hold her hand when the two of you are walking in a crowd.
- Let him walk or enter the car first.
- Give him your seat, especially when the two of you are in a place with limited seating (such as on a bus).
- Don't be too busy showing off or talking about yourself in front of him.
Step 2. Don't mention any female body parts in front of her and/or your friends
Never talk about how big A's breasts are or how sexy B's ass is. Doing so shows that you only see women sexually and are incapable of appreciating your partner. Don't mention things related to your partner's body! While some women don't mind hearing compliments about their physique, doing it too much will only make you sound slutty and short-sighted.
Try not to compliment her with physical-focused diction such as "sexy." Instead, use diction that sounds more character-focused, such as "charming" or "beautiful." Such dictions also sound more polite and manly to use
Step 3. Don't treat him like your male friends
In other words, treat him well and politely. Don't joke too loudly or play your favorite song loudly next to it. Show him that you were raised to be a manly man and able to treat women with respect. Believe me, such a character is very attractive in the eyes of women!
There's nothing wrong with discussing certain topics only in front of your male friends. Of course you don't have to lie to your partner. Just limit the topics that are unlikely to interest him such as the latest men's magazine content currently on the market
Step 4. When the two of you are at a party or other big event, make sure you spend the most time with them
That doesn't mean you should isolate yourself from the rest of your friends. At the very least, make sure he never feels alone and left out during the event.
Step 5. Never force him to do things he doesn't want to do
Show you care by kissing him, hugging him, and making him feel special every day. On the other hand, respect her boundaries by not asking her to do things that are uncomfortable for her. Remember, he has full rights to determine what he wants and doesn't want to do. Forcing him to do things that go against his principles is an example of rude behavior in a relationship.
While the two of you are having a casual conversation, try to get him to discuss each other's sexual preferences in a casual way
Step 6. Appreciate your partner in front of your friends
How you tell your partner to your closest friends will affect how they offend your partner. If you're always cracking rude jokes and leaking secrets in front of your friends, chances are your friends will do the same. Remember, things your partner tells (or does with your partner) are personal, so you don't need to tell your friends.
Do not give different treatment to different social situations. Living a double life is not only difficult, it is impossible to maintain. Always treat him with respect and affection, whether or not there are other people around the two of you
Tips
- Accompany him when he is alone and feeling lonely.
- Don't just give gifts on special occasions. Every now and then, try putting a gift in his locker accompanied by the words, “Happy Wednesday!”.
- When sitting next to him, hold his hand so he feels safe and comfortable with you.
- Praise him. Trust me, simple compliments like, “You look beautiful today” or “I love your hair” can make her feel attractive throughout the day.
- When the two of you are chatting, listen carefully to what he has to say. Ask follow-up questions and engage in conversation.
- Don't talk too much about yourself. Ask questions about the woman you like and get to know her better. Show that you care about them and are not only concerned with yourself.
- Treat all friends and relatives well.
- Don't treat her harshly and respect her feelings.
- Don't give him gifts too often.
- Make sure you are always honest with him, and vice versa. Don't hesitate to communicate the feelings and anxieties you both have.
