Attracting a woman's attention may seem as difficult as climbing Mount Everest, but it's really not! Follow this method to steal that special lady's eye and you will look absolutely gorgeous.
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Method 1 of 3: Attracting Attention With Your Personality
Step 1. Be humorous but not excessive
Everyone likes to laugh. Making a woman laugh can be a big part of attracting (and having) her attention. This doesn't mean you have to transform yourself into a comedian like Jim Carrey, but it does mean you have to figure out what type of humor you're good at. Remember, you don't have to be funny all the time, but inserting a little humor into a conversation is a great way to get a woman interested in you.
- No matter what type of humor you use, it's never good to have to wait for the woman to laugh. Jokes that are short and witty and only slightly paused are best. If he thought it was funny, he would laugh. But don't expect him to laugh at all your jokes - and never say something like "oh, you don't think that's funny?" if he doesn't laugh. It will only make things awkward.
- Do your homework. If you don't feel like a humorous guy, watch comedians on television or funny characters in movies. See how they tell jokes, but don't memorize jokes and repeat them – it can seem stilted.
- Use humor appropriate to the situation. While making short jokes can make a woman laugh, try to comment on your situation or environment in a humorous way.
- Laugh if you think it's funny. Avoid fake laughter, this is usually easy to see. A genuine, heartfelt laugh can be great.
- Don't use bad humor. While a little teasing may be funny at first, don't do it often. No woman wants to spend an entire night with a man who hurts her heart with his words – even if he only meant to be funny. On the other hand, self-deprecating or self-deprecating humor will make a woman feel comfortable with you quickly because it shows that you are confident enough that you can make fun of yourself.
Step 2. Do what you love well
If you appear passionate in whatever you do, you will steal more than just a few women's glances. Passionate and good at something very exciting – it shows that you care about something other than yourself – you don't want to just get involved with something, you want to be the best.
- If you're on a sports team, try hard to be the star or team captain. If you're in a debate club, try to lead everyone. If you're in a photography or art class, don't be afraid to show off your artistic side (as well as your skills.)
- Don't hide what you love. If you are happy, confident, and passionate, other people will be attracted to what you enjoy. Don't pretend to hate what you actually enjoy; Just take it easy and show the funniest part about what you really enjoy.
Step 3. Show him that you have an emotional side
You don't have to cry if sad topics are brought up, but make sure you don't act like an emotionless robot when you're around her. This means discussing how you feel about something. Saying something like “The movie we watched in class today made me think about what it would be like to be trapped inside the Titanic. It's scary and sad to think about” shows that you have empathy – you can relate to what other people are feeling, and you can feel things too.
Step 4. Be polite
Most women like men who are polite and respectful. Do not do or say things that others may find insulting, including profanity and making sexist/racist/etc comments or jokes. If you act like a gentleman, showing your respect for women and others, women will be more likely to accept you.
Saying something you know might offend some people is not a good way to make friends. It might look “cool” to your guy friends, but it's really bad for girls. It's easy to insult something; harder to believe in something. Be a gentleman and believe in something
Step 5. Show that you have an adventurous side
You don't have to be a ship captain or a world-class mountain climber – but you do have to be brave enough to do things. Take him on hiking, camping, or walking in the city closest to you. Just go with it if you're with him and find something interesting.
Step 6. Treat all women equally
You'll make a better impression if you treat women you don't like in the same way women do. This doesn't mean you have to talk to or seduce all women, but don't ignore or belittle them. You never know if a woman suddenly becomes attractive, or who her new friends will be. The easiest way is to treat all women the way you want to be treated.
- Don't talk to a girl about another girl's attractiveness; it's distasteful and can degrade the girl's opinion of herself. Plus, it's just easy to accidentally say the wrong thing, or say something you didn't mean. Talk about other women only to your male friends.
- You shouldn't talk about relationships you've had before, or other women you like with the woman you're most attracted to. No woman wants to compare herself to your past relationships, and she really doesn't want you to compare her and them, either. Make her feel like the only woman in your world, and the world will smile sweetly at you.
Step 7. Pay attention
When you talk to a woman, give her all your attention. Listen to what he has to say, and you will probably find out a lot about him and the passions that you share.
- Ask lots of questions. It's a hint that you're really attracted to him, not just his looks. Ask him what activities he likes to do, what music he likes to listen to, what movies he has recently watched. Ask about his family, goals, and hopes. Ask any questions sincerely and politely.
- Give him time to talk. If you ask him questions, give him time to express himself, and don't get angry if he talks a lot. Remember, if he talks a lot that's a good thing!
Step 8. Be confident
Confidence looks very attractive to most women. If you walk around with your head held high, don't hesitate to talk about something you know, or even just walk up and talk to a woman without hesitation, you'll get attention. Know that you are a great man – when you show your confidence, it will make you shine and women will notice you.
Remember that you should not be arrogant. Confidence and pride are two different things. When you are confident, you believe in yourself without showing it to others. When you are arrogant, you are confident and you want everyone to know. Pride looks very bad on women. They want someone who is confident without showing his greatness to everyone, all the time
Method 2 of 3: Attracting Attention With Your Actions
Step 1. Make eye contact
If you want a woman to notice you, start by paying attention to her first. Whether you're in a classroom or a bar, eye contact is the key to attracting a woman's attention. Take a quick glance at him, then when he sees you, look the other way. Repeat this and then hold eye contact for a few seconds and smile when you think the time is right, then look the other way. By doing this, you are arousing his interest, and also signaling that you are interested in him. If he's also interested, he'll often glance at you to confirm your interest. This is a cycle that will show that you are attracted to him.
- If he doesn't maintain eye contact with you, or he chooses not to glance back at you, he may be very shy, or simply not interested. You should use the other methods described in this article to be sure.
- When you talk to a woman, make sure to always make eye contact with her. This indicates that you are very confident, and you are very concerned about it.
Step 2. Act like a gentleman when around women
Women usually have a different sense of humor and point of view than men, so knowing these differences is essential to attracting (and having) a woman's attention.
- Do the things a gentleman would do, like open the door for a woman, let her get ahead of you in line, and say "excuse me." Doing these little things is very easy, and women will pay more attention to them than men.
- Don't make sexual jokes or comments. Women already think that men are obsessed with sex, so don't make the situation worse by being obsessed with sex. Be mature and polite about sexual matters, at least when you're around women, and you're sure to attract women's attention.
Step 3. Don't treat women like objects or demean them
This may sound easy, but most men assume that women don't notice, or care, when men treat them like they are inferior to men. This is very wrong, and it will not help you make female friends. Think before you say negative things about women. As a guide, imagine your grandparents standing in front of you whenever you're talking about women – this will prevent you from saying anything inappropriate.
Step 4. Be relaxed around women
Even if you feel very nervous, being cool and calm around women will give the impression that you are confident and easy to talk to. When you're tense or nervous, you're more likely to be embarrassed when you make a small mistake. This is very unattractive to women. Staying relaxed will make it easier for you to enjoy female company, stay confident, and show your true self.
Staying confident is hard, still try to imagine that the woman you like is just a friend. You won't be nervous around a friend, so why should you be nervous around him? If you are confident and can look cool and calm, you will appear more popular. His attention will instantly be yours
Step 5. Smile sincerely
A smile is a universal sign of happiness. If you show everyone, especially him, that you're a happy guy, he'll want to be closer to you. Women like men who have a sense of humor and smile easily. Smile often, be a cheerful man and not shy.
Step 6. Help someone
This could be him, or someone else in the same room. Helping others will show that you are humble, and that you are a good person. Women are attracted to men who have empathy for others – be the man who helps her lift the heavy box and she will never forget it.
- Is he lifting heavy things? Say "Let me help you with that" and pick it up for him. Hold the door for him when he is carrying a lot of things. Give him your jacket when he's cold and give him your umbrella when it's raining.
- Is there someone who is short of money? Lend him a few dollars so he can buy lunch.
- Don't be a fake and only do good when you're around him. Always help others, in different ways. He'll see it, as well as the people he knows, and when someone talks about you, someone will say "He's such a nice person!" and this woman will start to think "Yeah.. she's really good, right?"
- One thing that will make it difficult for a man is fear that he will misinterpret your actions. For example, you may not want to help him lift something because you're worried he'll think you're a macho, and you think he can't lift it himself. But let go of this fear and think about what you are actually doing. You helped him because you really wanted to, what's wrong with that? If you don't underestimate her abilities in any way, that means she's not a good woman to think of you that way, right? If what you do comes from the heart, a good woman will see it.
Step 7. Give sincere compliments
For example, you could say she has beautiful eyes or a pretty smile. But only say things like that if they're true and you want to do more than just flirt. Choose something beautiful that only he has; this will make her feel special, admired, and beautiful.
Step 8. Involve women in your activities
If you're doing something and there's only men around, have the courage and take the women you want to be involved with. You don't have to do this all the time (sometimes it's really important to have time with your guy friends), but don't be afraid to ask girls.
If your guy friends make fun of you, you know they're just jealous because they don't have the guts to invite women over. There's no reason why women can't be part of your group
Step 9. Find ways to make physical contact with the woman you are attracted to
Physical contact can be a great way to warm things up between you and that special woman. However, don't go overboard with him – this can scare him off if he doesn't know you're interested in him. Do small things, like touch his arm when he says things that make you laugh.
If he has eyelashes falling out or hair on his face (or even if there isn't any) leaning close to him, make eye contact, and gently wipe off his cheeks (do it gently!)
Method 3 of 3: Catching Attention With Your Appearance
Step 1. Tidy up your appearance
Depending on your style, this step may vary from person to person, but here's the main thing: Shower regularly and brush your teeth. This is the most important, but there is much more to be done to help you attract the attention of that special woman. No one wants to cuddle up with a guy who smells bad and has leftover breakfast stuck in his teeth. Use your body wash and buy a good toothbrush.
- In addition, there are many ways men can spruce up their appearance to look their best. Hair mousse can turn your messy waking hair into a beautiful shape. But don't use too much – oily hair can detract from a woman's attractiveness.
- If you have a beard, make sure it is groomed. Some women really like a hairy face, but even the most manly beard can become like Rip Van Winkle's long beard if not cared for properly. Buy a beard trimmer.
- In addition to forming a beard, pay attention to other body hair. Trim eyebrows that are too thick, trim nose hair, and trim your ear hair as much as possible. Most women – even those who love beards – don't like excessive hair anywhere other than your chin, chest, and other private areas.
- Cut your nails. Women pay close attention to their hands, so make sure your hands don't look like they belong to Big Foot. Trim the long nails and clean the dirt underneath.
- Moisturize your skin. While this may seem unmanly, when you're holding hands with the woman of your dreams, you don't want your hands to dry and peel. Use lotion to have soft skin that she wants to touch all the time.
Step 2. Pay attention to your clothes
Everyone has a different style, and that's fine, but avoid the "lazy" style. Don't wear baggy pants every day, and try to change your T-shirt before going out every day. Also, remember that women like men who strive to look better, even if it's just a stylish flannel shirt, tighter pants, or a cool pair of thick-rimmed glasses (read How to Be a Hipster.)
If you're trying to steal the eyes of a woman who happens to work at the same place, try to look more professional. Buy a classy suit and some cool tie. If you don't know how, ask your female best friend for help
Step 3. Pay attention to your body language
Posture plays a very important role in how women perceive a man. If a guy often stays at the far end of the room, avoiding eye contact and not talking to anyone, they usually won't come over and start a conversation. Stand up straight, make eye contact, and smile. Remember that you need to have good posture, but don't push yourself so high that it looks awkward. Take yourself at ease.
- If you don't know how to look casual, pay attention to your idol. Watch the male lead in a film that is able to seduce and win the heart of the female lead.
- Pay attention to his body language too. If he looks agitated and doesn't make eye contact, he may not feel comfortable. This may be due to the topic of conversation, the proximity of you standing or sitting next to him, or other things. Respect his feelings, and change the subject or step back, if necessary, depending on what's bothering him.
Step 4. Pay attention to your body shape
While you may be a very nice guy, it's important to remember that women really like men who work out. Plus, the gym is a great place to grab the attention of that special woman. If you want to attract the attention of a beautiful woman you like, you have to pay attention to your physical condition as well. Start an exercise routine that includes cardio and weight management so you can build muscle and maintain your body.
Keep in mind that most women like muscular men, but not the man who looked like Arnold Schwarzenegger when he staged the Mr. Universe. If you're having a hard time lifting your arms in class because your muscles are almost tearing your t-shirt, it may mean you need to cut back on your weight lifting a bit
Tips
- Don't panic if you do something embarrassing. Many women find shy men very funny, especially if you can restore yourself with a great sense of humor.
- Don't let past experiences keep you from seeking the opportunities that are available to you. If you've ever had a relationship that ended badly, take it as a lesson and make it a thing of the past. It's not good to dwell on a failed relationship, and it doesn't make you attractive either. Be grateful for the life you are in now, not for what happened in the past.
- Do not pick your nose, scratch your buttocks, pick your body in any way, fart or burp etc. when you just got to know him. If you disgust him, you are very lucky if he sees you again.
- Be careful not to put your trust in one particular woman; this will make it even more painful if it doesn't end the way you want it to. Remember there are many fish in the sea. If it doesn't work with one woman, move on to the next woman. This will probably make him regret leaving you.
- If you have a good relationship with a sister close to your age, use it to practice how to behave and talk around women.
