Going to a nightclub and dancing with a girl may seem very difficult to some. The nightclub was very noisy, the space was cramped, and no one seemed to know each other well. But, if you really think about what these things mean, and follow this advice, you'll find that getting a girl to dance with you is actually quite easy!
Step
Method 1 of 2: Approaching a Girl to Dance Together
Step 1. Find a girl that catches your eye
Make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend and that she's also looking for another guy who might also be interested in her. Generally, no one is looking for trouble unless you are being annoying or arrogant. If it turns out that the girl already has a boyfriend, say sorry and find another girl.
Step 2. Estimate the girl's attraction
While it's not always necessary, try to get hints from him that he wants to dance. You can look at him and smile. If he smiles back at you or signals in some way that he knows your intentions, he's likely wanting to dance with you.
Step 3. Dance to the beat of the music while approaching from behind
Your approach should be directed in such a way that the girl can see you coming towards her. First, create enough wiggle room so he doesn't feel like you're forcing yourself to get close in a pinch.
Some girls don't like being approached from behind. Read the situation and determine if it is better to try to approach it from the front
Step 4. Wait for him to approach you
If he is interested, he will move closer and start dancing by nudging, twisting, or rubbing his body. Most girls dance at their own pace, so for the time being, keep up with their dancing pace. Adjust the motion of your hips so that the dance is comfortable for both of you.
Method 2 of 2: Some Important Aspects of Dancing with Girls in a Nightclub
Step 1. Lead the dance
After you've danced with him for a while and are ready to change the pace of your dance steps, your partner may be okay with your hands resting on their hips. If he feels uncomfortable about it, apologize to him and consider finding another partner unless he shows that he wants to continue dancing with you.
Step 2. Let him start touching more often
There are girls who want to increase the intensity between the two of you by allowing touch in different parts of the body. In most situations, only women are allowed to initiate an increase in the intensity of the touch. Usually he will do this by grabbing your hand and placing it somewhere on his body.
Do not pinch or, conversely, pull the body quickly. You will destroy any emotional and psychological interactions that may have formed between the two of you. Choose the safe way and follow his movements until you are clear about what he wants
Step 3. Keep it balanced
If you are a tall, skinny guy, try choosing a girl who is also tall, or at least of medium height. If you're dancing with people who are much shorter than you then your moves are bound to look weird no matter what you do.
Step 4. Focus your attention on it
Don't look at other people around you. Pay attention to what you do. A good dancer is to be seen, not to see.
Use an "eyeblock" to help with this. You can wear a hooded jacket, sunglasses, or wear a hat
Step 5. Follow the rhythm
Most nightclub songs generally have the same rhythm. It's a good idea to follow the beat when you dance with him or he might lose his temper.
Step 6. Pay attention to the movement of the feet
It is also important, if not more important, than the movement of your body. Use the heels and toes. If your leg movements seem excited, then your body will follow suit.
Step 7. Merge the moves
When the song changes, change your moves too. Do not speak. Place your hands on various parts of his body (an appropriate part, unless he wants a certain part). Sometimes also use hand gestures. Set yourself apart and he will continue to feel attracted to you.
Step 8. Be confident
If you appear stiff or uncomfortable, this will squelch the girl's interest. Girls like men who are confident. Remember that no one else is coming to see you dance. They come to have fun and have fun in the same way you do.
Step 9. Accept the rejection
If your partner shows that he no longer wants to dance with you, no matter how short the time, accept it and find another girl. Remember that your best chance to dance with other girls is right after you finish your last dance.
Tips
- If you're dancing in front of a girl that catches your eye, make eye contact and smile at her. Don't appear too excited or nervous.
- If you're worried about being rejected, your best bet is to dance with someone dancing alone. Ideally, the girl dances next to her friend who is dancing with someone else.
- If the girl rejects you, don't just stand there. Keep on dancing and switch to another girl fast.
- If you start dancing with a girl and she doesn't dance to the beat or doesn't dance at all, it means she's not interested in you. Find another girl.
- Try not to look for girls who are with other girls in large groups. Chances are he'll turn you down in front of his friends to show off or because he doesn't want him to be the only one dancing.
- If the girl doesn't want to dance with you, she will take your hands off her hips.
Warning
- If you approach a girl for a dance and she suddenly wants to "use the restroom," assume you've been rejected. Don't try to get her to dance again when she comes back. If he really needs to use the restroom and wants to dance, he'll approach you again.
- Never ask a girl to dance with a girl directly in her face while in a nightclub because you will only scream in her ear. Better to just dance with it and let it happen naturally.
- Don't touch any part of her body to get attention or you may get slapped as this is very annoying for most girls.
- Try not to dance with him on the slow last song because you'll likely get rejected especially on songs for couples. If he rejects you, it will be very embarrassing for you.
