To find out the psychological side of a person about the way he behaves and acts, reading his profile is the main skill that can be learned. Pause for a moment in your surroundings and look at other people. Many people travel from place A to place B, but do you really pay attention to everything in detail? See more than you see, that's the point.
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Part 1 of 3: Getting the Basic Idea
Step 1. Compare those to the onions
Define four layers of onions as a person. The deeper you dive into the “onions”, the more this will determine how much you can read from someone.
- Skin: We, as humans, show and reveal our personality and traits to others without even realizing it. This disclosure may occur through small talk at the bus stop about the weather or other topics about lifestyle and the world around us.
- Second layer: People we value or know better, such as your workplace or classmates, rather than strangers, will understand you better because of the comfort and trustworthiness of the relationship you have with them.
- Third layer: Relationship ties, such as close friends and life partners, create a “locked-down” sense of security between people. This layer is defined as showing ourselves in a way that makes us personally connected, such as telling secrets based on trust factors, explaining fears and anxieties to others, and so on.
- Bottom line: Everyone has a “core” part, where thoughts and secrets are not shared with anyone but ourselves. This layer is more of a psychological aspect than the others, because it has to do with realizing the reality of a thing and the success or failure to accept it.
Step 2. Remove projection barriers around you
Be prepared to accept the truth that is given instead of forcing yourself to believe something that is not true.
Many situations are the result of shame, guilt, and insecurity that blinds us from the realities of life that we should accept
Step 3. Get rid of prejudice when you show yourself
Prejudice in psychology is not just about race and gender. Know that prejudice is an opinion based on ideas without knowledge or reality. Keep yourself in a neutral mind before making your brain consume false statements.
Part 2 of 3: Finding Experimental Subjects
Step 1. Analyze someone you know
Don't be strangers as you will need some time to observe them. Try observing your coworkers, friends, or spouse.
Step 2. Get to know their “base” profile
The basic profile of a person is defined as a comfort zone or resting place.
Step 3. Observe their behavior randomly
Take notes on how they react to an event, evaluate themselves on different days, and see how they interact.
We all have different levels of stress at work when compared to relaxing at home, or to times when one person has a grudge against another and acts differently towards others
Step 4. Analyze existing patterns
Form your list to list the most common traits and actions this person has done or exhibited. The patterns of these people are the basis for knowing their truth or falsehood.
- Different tone of voice (normal tone, excited, scared, defensive, etc.)
- Eyeball movement
- Facial expressions
- Body language (how she shows herself)
Step 5. Concentrate on what is not in the pattern
Write a list of inappropriate moments, behaviors, or things at the base of their profile.
Part 3 of 3: Increasing Your Knowledge
Step 1. Define who they are
Let their personality, appearance, and style be the real “them”.
Step 2. Get to know how they talk to other people
A subtle tone may mean they are shy, but consider other environmental factors such as fatigue. A loud tone indicates a desire to feel superior to others or to take control/responsibility over others.
- Did their voices change while defending opinions, or did they stay balanced?
- Do they communicate with you in mature or immature manners? This will give you a better sense of the level of education they have and the vocabulary knowledge they have.
- Make sure you are aware of and can distinguish between exaggeration, violence, slang, or other verbal expressions used in conversation. Observe the flow of context of the words used, as a sign to you if they have a good educational background or make them sound smarter than they really are.
Step 3. Analyze his personal space
Connect their home and/or work life to see how they present themselves to the public eye.
- What kind of neighborhood do they live in? Low-income neighborhoods usually tell people that they can live on their own, or with help compared to someone who lives in a well-known wealthy neighborhood.
- A person's organizational skills can tell a lot about him, but don't judge too quickly. If their life schedule is hectic, a messy house may just mean that they don't have time to clean the house, while for those who have time, a house like this can show that they are lazy people. The neater a person is and the more willing he is to show it in public, the person will be more confident and less stressed in various situations.
- How do they share their private life with others? Many of us don't feel safe/comfortable doing it in public, but – for example – if you walk into a business office, you are in someone's “comfort zone” at work. Many workers (even doctors and psychologists) put pictures of their families on the table. You can interpret that this person cares about their family and the photo reminds this person of their family.
Step 4. Look at the way they dress
Handle this assessment as you would a car and a house. You can describe a person's organizational ability simply by how they dress and present themselves.
- Are the clothes tucked in or out casually? Do they dress for a business setting or a casual outing? Does he look like a professional or fit to be someone who lives in a border area?
- How about her hairstyle? Does it seem like they're taking the time to do their hair or is it more of a "just like that" thing? This type of person may have a personality that likes to compromise, “as long as it still looks a little decent”, rather than really taking his appearance seriously to give his best in public.
- What kind of shoes do they use? Do they take pride in shining their shoes, or do they wear “disposable” sandals?
Step 5. Follow their reactions to sudden public events
If they burp, do they do it right away or do they try to cover it up? Burping, sneezing, and coughing in different ways can separate those who practice proper etiquette from those who don't.
Step 6. Watch for eyeball movements that occur
Are they looking straight in your eyes or moving sideways? Do his eyes look in different directions when asked for an honest answer? Look where their eyes are when they lie.
Step 7. Evaluate her calmness when around people
Some people are usually nervous, especially in crowded areas, will think of various ways to avoid a certain place.
