Do you often feel down? Always looking down? Or feel weak? Almost everyone will feel weak at some point, but by learning how to recognize and overcome weaknesses, you will become less of a burden to your friends and family. Learn how to appear more confident in your social interactions by pretending to appear confident until you actually succeed.
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Part 1 of 3: Avoiding Weakness
Step 1. Break the habit of complaining
No one wants to be around someone who complains about anything. Mastering the conversation over dinner together, such as complaining about your food, is a weakness and a selfish attitude. If you have something to complain about, say it later in person. In general, try to look at the positive in every situation and focus on having fun, not on what's preventing you from having fun.
- If you don't like what you're doing, stop before you feel the need to complain. Why can't you be happy? Can complaining change things without hurting someone's feelings or not upsetting the other person? If the answer is yes, never complain again.
- Don't use your cousin as a place to complain, or rather, put yourself down while praising yourself. Don't use complaints as a disguised way to go into detail to make yourself feel good. Instead of saying, "'I was really stressed out when they misjudged me and didn't get accepted to Harvard," try to be honest. Say, "I feel really lucky. At first I really wasn't sure I could get into a school like Harvard."
Step 2. Stop exaggerating the little things
Do you remember how excited you were when you got a toy when you were five years old? Are you still as happy as you have the toy today? Weak people will treat anything like a toy. Try taking a step back so you can see the big picture. This way, you won't come across as having a hard time communicating with other people.
- It's okay to be happy about one thing, and it's natural to be disappointed about something else. The difference with people who say things that make them seem weak is in the way they like to put too much emphasis on excitement or negativity. Try to see things from the right point of view.
- A statement that gives off a weak impression: "I'd really die if I couldn't go to a school farewell party with someone this year. I felt like my life would end that night if I didn't make it." A reasonable statement: "I wish I could go to the school farewell party. It would be great if I could come."
Step 3. Do what you say you want to do
No one is weaker than those who behave arbitrarily. If you tell a friend that you want to have lunch together and then cancel the appointment at the last minute, this is weak behavior. If you promised to accompany your sister to the mall on Friday night but ignored your sister's texts and went on a date, you are behaving like a weakling. If you don't want to be weak, prove that your words matter by taking appropriate action.
There are people who have a hard time saying no and making commitments they can't keep. If you've already made plans with a friend and someone asks you out, it's fine if you find another time to date. You have to be honest and have the courage to tell the truth
Step 4. Don't ask for reassurance anymore
So-called "weakness" is usually caused by low self-esteem. People who always ask for reassurance from others or constantly need praise to build their self-esteem may be judged as weak by those who are more confident. Even if you don't feel confident, stop hoping that other people will make you feel confident and rely on yourself.
- You don't have to be the most confident person to be a less demanding friend. No one always feels confident and confident, but weak people will constantly ask others to make sure they are okay.
- If you want to know more about how to build self-confidence, read the next section.
Step 5. Be honest with others
Telling other people the truth is easy when things are going well for you, but what if you're at fault? What if you make a mistake at work and your boss is looking for someone to take responsibility for? What if your parents wanted to know why their car was scratched? Lying to get out of trouble is a weak attitude.
Teenagers sometimes like to cover up the truth or embellish stories as a way to make them feel better. Instead of making up what you did last weekend, decide what you want your next weekend to be. That way, you have a better story later
Step 6. Say "yes" to a lot of things, but don't be afraid to say "no."
If you are always moody, other people will perceive you as weak. Weak people always make excuses so they can avoid things instead of finding reasons to act, reasons to have fun, and reasons to take risks. Instead of looking for reasons why you can't, give reasons that you can.
Being agreeable doesn't mean you don't care about yourself. To be willing to compromise on your values and become someone you are not to impress others is a weak person. Never use alcohol or drugs just because other kids at school are using them or you're being forced to do something you don't want to do. This is the attitude of a weak person
Step 7. Provide empathy
Learn to listen and respect others for who they are. Show genuine concern for what is going on in their lives. Ask questions and pay attention to their answers. While you are listening, don't just wait your turn to speak. Listen carefully to what they have to say and learn what you want to know from them.
Weak people are usually self-obsessed and egocentric. If you want to avoid this behavior, learn to show empathy
Part 2 of 3: Becoming a More Confident Person
Step 1. Stop making excuses
If you are at fault, you may be making all sorts of excuses for why you did something wrong, why you failed, or looking for what you don't have in order to succeed. But this is all the attitude of the weak. Even if life isn't always on your side, if you face a lot of problems, even if you are harmed, still take responsibility for yourself, admit what you've done, and try the best you can.
Don't make excuses after you've done something and certainly don't make excuses before. If you've been thinking that you're going to fail a test because you don't think you're good enough at math, you probably failed before you started. Weak people don't even want to try at all
Step 2. Speak clearly and firmly
You can show confidence just by the way you talk, even if you feel weak and especially insecure. Speak at a volume appropriate for the room conditions and loud enough for everyone to hear what you are saying. Speak as clearly and briefly as possible.
- Don't speak in denial. Never start a sentence with, "Actually I really don't understand what I'm saying, but…" or "This is stupid, but…" or "Sorry, but…"
- Speaking with confidence has two consequences. Even if you're faking it, you'll feel good about speaking up and making yourself heard. Others will appreciate someone who is able to speak for themselves and this means they will respect you more in the future. This way, you will feel more confident. This is called win-win or win-win.
Step 3. Speak only when you have something to say
Everyone has been in a meeting, class, or group conversation with someone who just doesn't know when to shut up, and they feel like they have to keep contributing whenever something's being discussed. You will be seen as weak if you continue to talk when there is nothing to talk about. It's better to remain silent if you can't contribute to a conversation and then just listen.
You should also know when it's time to contribute. Conversation is a two-way communication and someone who doesn't know when to talk and when to listen is a weak person
Step 4. Don't compare yourself to others
Apart from wasting your time, always comparing yourself to others will only make you weaker. If you are not able to understand yourself and your mindset about self-confidence, but always compare your achievements and skills with others, you will do anything for the wrong reasons. This is a weakness.
"They are luckier than me," is the mantra of the weakling. Instead of focusing on what you don't have and what others have, focus on overcoming your barriers. Position yourself as a success story, not a failure, by imagining yourself as a great person
Step 5. Try to develop your abilities as best you can
Everyone needs help sometimes, but if you always ask for help from others, you will become like a paralyzed and helpless person. Try to learn as much as you can about the things you want to know in order to live a comfortable life independently. If you want to know how to do something, learn how, then do it yourself.
- This is especially true in the interests of your parents. Do you ask your parents to pay your phone bill or do you want to work part time so you can take care of yourself? If you can do it, do it.
- It's a weakness to do something you don't know how to do because you feel proud if you have to ask for help. Instead of feeling helpless doing a car repair you don't understand just because you're too proud to admit that you don't, get up the courage to ask for help so you'll know how next time.
Step 6. Treat your body in a way that makes you proud
If you want to feel proud of yourself, start treating your body in a way that benefits and makes you feel proud. From the way you dress to the choices you make, you should treat your body as something you can control, not something you feel powerless or disappointed in.
If you've been treating your body in a way that doesn't make you happy and proud, dare to make a change. If you want to stay active, find a physical activity you enjoy outdoors and get moving. If you drink too much or use illegal drugs, stop immediately. You are much greater than your weaknesses
Part 3 of 3: Appear More Confident
Step 1. Choose clothes that make you feel comfortable
Clothing trends and styles change so frequently that there's no single way you can always avoid being "weak." Certain models may be considered cool at one time and out of favor at a later date. But isn't this an unwelcome weakness in terms of fashion? Going to the mall every two weeks to make sure your choice is the right one? Consider these things carefully and choose clothes that make you feel comfortable.
If you feel comfortable wearing clothes that are trending, go ahead. If wearing pants with a high waistband or baseball cap doesn't make you feel cool, don't wear them
Step 2. Stand straight
Confident people walk away as people who feel good about themselves and with what they have. Weak people would pass as if they wouldn't be better off anywhere else than there. Pull your shoulders back and lift your chin. Walking in an attitude that makes you feel better will help you mold yourself to be a better person.
Step 3. Be physically capable of doing whatever you want to do
Everyone has a body with different conditions and abilities, but you need to know your limitations and increase these limits to the condition you want. If you want to spend your life playing video games and working on your computer, it's likely that you don't need to use weight training equipment, but pay attention to your diet and exercise patterns in order to live into old age.
- If you want to exercise but don't like running, you're going to be really weak (literally) if there's a sporting event. Take care of your body so that it can do what you want.
- Don't be embarrassed if you don't want to swim because it's uncomfortable to wear a bathing suit. But if you do want to go to the pool, have the courage to be yourself and feel good, or make changes to your liking.
Step 4. Just relax
You tend to rush when you're nervous. From public speaking to personal interactions, insecure people usually want to rush through these activities. Therefore, if you want to build confidence in yourself and make others see you as calm and confident, pretend until you succeed.
- Speak calmly and clearly while trying to pronounce each word well and arrange your words correctly.
- Regulate your breathing. As you speak, pause to take a breath, process what is about to be said, and think.
Step 5. Make eye contact
When was the last time you made eye contact with someone and they looked away first? Even if this seems a coincidence, practice making eye contact so you can change people's perceptions of you and make you appear more confident in personal interactions. Don't always look down. Look other people in the eye and have the confidence to keep your eyes on them. This will make you feel more confident and give the impression that you are a confident person.
This method can certainly make other people feel uncomfortable so that it can be something that weakens you. Don't keep looking at other people
Step 6. Be proud of your appearance
Again, there is no one way that you can look cool and there is another way that only makes you weak. Weak people usually spend too much or too little time paying attention to how they look, but you should be proud of how you look. Use your appearance as a means of building self-confidence instead of keeping your body in shape all this time.
- If you're obsessed with clothes, your body, and your beauty routine, maybe you should revisit your habits and build confidence in various aspects of your life. Appearance is not everything.
- If you don't like buying clothes and can't remember the last time you got your hair cut, that's okay, but dressing up and taking care of yourself is important. You have to dress yourself in a good way, take care of your body and maintain cleanliness so that you are more confident. Brush your teeth twice a day and wash your clothes, shower twice a day, and you'll be fine.
Tips
- Be careful keeping secrets.
- Don't wear too much make-up or clothes.
