Sometimes, a person wants to come out of his “shell” and become a more attractive person to himself and others. People who are not boring are usually open and adventurous. To be a non-boring person, you need to be open to others, have a sense of humor, and like adventure. By being a person who is not boring, you can change your personal interactions, social world, and everyday life.
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Method 1 of 3: Looking for Adventure so You Don't Become a Boring Person
Step 1. Show interest in different people, places, and things
If you are willing to try to get out of your safe zone, you can learn more interesting things. Boring people are usually not interested in other people (and only in themselves) so their presence makes the atmosphere less exciting.
- Visit a new area or restaurant. Don't just go to the same place every day because you won't be able to get new experiences.
- Read information or articles about people who are different from you. You can read about people who come from different countries, regions, ethnic groups, or genders.
- Listen to different music genres. While you may not understand it at first, try listening to new and interesting music that comes from a different background.
Step 2. Try learning a new skill or pursuing a different hobby
By learning a new skill or hobby, you will be encouraged to challenge yourself. A new hobby or skill can be fun to talk about with other people, and it shows that you are an interesting person, and not someone who is reluctant to learn new things.
- Your hobby can also introduce you to new people who share the hobby. For example, by learning to play the guitar with other people, you can make new friends.
- Taking up a hobby like cooking can also give you something to do and talk about with other people. If your hobby is also of interest to other people, of course, other people will be interested in learning more about the hobby.
Step 3. Try traveling to new and interesting places
By traveling, you can broaden your perspective on life and provide interesting life stories to tell others. Even if you are only traveling to a neighboring country, traveling always gives you interesting stories to tell rather than just boring stories about the same places you always go.
- Look for cheap flight tickets at the airport. There may be some great deals on flights to exotic places or domestic cities.
- Experience a different culture. By involving yourself in a different culture, you can broaden your mindset.
Step 4. Join an interesting club or group
By engaging in activities outside of work or school, you can get a lot to talk about. It also shows that you're interested in expanding your mindset and not just hanging out with the same people and doing the same things.
- Look for sporting activities at school/work. Even if you only play sports as a hobby, these activities can provide social benefits and self-fulfillment.
- Look for volunteer groups you may be interested in. There are many volunteer groups that might suit your interests. Helping others can make you feel better.
Step 5. Show creativity when seeking experience
Interesting activities like skydiving can show others that you are interested in taking on a challenge. Such activities also show that you want to try new things and have fun while doing different things.
- Try skydiving, either alone or with a group. Such activities can be an enjoyable once-in-a-lifetime experience.
- Take on new challenges, like rock climbing. Outdoor activities such as hiking can also be a fun thing to get creative experience and become a person who is not boring.
Method 2 of 3: Show Interest and Don't Feel Tired Of Others
Step 1. Listen to what other people have to say
When you talk to other people, you also need to listen to what they have to say. Boring people don't want to listen to other people, and just wait for the other person to stop talking so he can start talking. To avoid being a boring person, always listen to the other person so you can always have a two-way conversation with them.
- Pay attention to the body language displayed by the other person. If he looks slouched, crossed his arms in front of his chest, or seems unfocused, he may be bored with the conversation.
- Ask lots of questions about the other person. To avoid seemingly casual conversation starters like "What's your job?", ask interesting questions like "What was your favorite thing in one week?" or “What are you interested in?”
Step 2. Share your opinion
Boring people usually don't have an opinion or are afraid to share their opinion. By sharing your opinion, you can show that you care and that you can contribute.
- If you disagree with someone's opinion, show your empathy and respect for that opinion. Don't attack him, but show that you are willing to listen and interact with him.
- When you share your opinion, make sure you understand both parties involved in the conversation. If you don't, you may come across as being ignorant or not understanding the topic being discussed.
Step 3. Have fun while chatting with other people
Look for opportunities to enjoy your time. Boring people are usually hesitant or reluctant to do things that seem crazy. Instead, always look for ways to have fun with other people.
- If you have an ability or talent, show it. Don't make yourself the center of attention, but find a way to show that you know how to do something.
- Try not to think too much about what other people think. If you feel and act naturally, you can be a less boring person.
Step 4. Look at your life in a positive light
Boring people often complain about their life and work. Meanwhile, non-boring people view life in a positive light. Talk about the things you care about, not about the things that annoy or annoy you.
When you talk to other people about the things you are interested in in life, you indirectly become a more attractive and attractive person to others. Your enthusiasm radiates through nonverbal body language
Step 5. Give others a chance to “shine”
Focus on other people's talents or abilities. When chatting, ask questions about the things they like so that you and the other person don't just talk about yourself.
Don't be arrogant. Try not to worry too much about how other people feel about you. If other people are the center of attention, it doesn't necessarily make you a boring person
Step 6. Smile when you talk to other people
A small smile shows that you have a positive attitude towards life, and are interested in making friends with other people. If you have a flat or sad expression on your face, you will appear boring or uninterested in other people.
- Smiling makes you feel happier and open to new situations. Smiling can also improve your mood and make you more interested in talking to other people.
- When you smile, that smile is usually "contagious" to other people. Sometimes, other people want to smile back at you and feel more open when chatting with you.
Method 3 of 3: Using a Sense of Humor to Get Others' Attention
Step 1. Make laughter a priority
If laughter is an important aspect to you, try laughing when you are with other people. It is part of your personality to be a person who is full of laughter, and it can show that you are feeling happy in life. On the other hand, boring people usually seem gloomy and don't laugh much.
- Laughter can bring people closer. In addition, by laughing together, people will bond more with each other.
- If you make laughter a priority, your choices reflect you as a cheerful person. This choice also shows that you are connected to yourself and others.
Step 2. Don't be afraid to be "crazy" and witty
Sometimes it's good to dance like crazy, bring up unusual topics of conversation, and do silly things. If you hide the silly side of yourself from other people, you are indirectly closing yourself off from other people so that you come across as a boring person.
- Always involve other people in the silliness you do. Don't be a clown for other people, but invite them to join you in some silly or fun activity you do.
- By showing your goofy side, you're also showing that you don't really care what other people think. While you are interested and want to interact with other people, you don't really rely on other people for esteem and confidence.
Step 3. Don't wait for other people to have fun
Boring people often wait for other people to cheer them up. Instead of acting like this, start having fun yourself and encourage others to join in on fun activities with you.
- Start joking with other people when you see an opportunity. Other people may actually want to join in on the fun and jokes, but they also wait for other people to start a joke or joke.
- Do silly or crazy things to provoke other people's reactions. If they seem impressed or amused, you can tell that they too are interested in laughing and having a good time together.
Step 4. Try to see things from a unique point of view
Humor is an aspect that indicates intelligence and flexibility of point of view. Boring people usually have rigid views and are reluctant to change their point of view.
- When the other person is speaking, think of a memorable way to respond to his or her words or actions. However, don't insult him; You just need to look for the humorous aspect of the conversation.
- Don't be afraid to mock yourself. Making fun of yourself shows that you don't take life too seriously.
