If you see an attractive woman and want to approach her, you may want to know first what she thinks of you. Luckily, you can tell if he's interested too by watching his demeanor. Once you start chatting, it's another sign that he's starting to flirt and wants to get to know you better. However, no less important, there are also signs that women are not interested. If you see one, it's best to quit immediately.
Part 1 of 3: Looking for Signs a Woman Is Interested
Step 1. Notice if he looks around the room
Maybe he looked around for a few seconds, without looking at anyone. Then, he steals glances at you, sometimes from the side. This glance indicates that at least he is paying attention to your presence.
Some women don't want to be caught staring, while others glance deliberately. However, if you notice a woman glancing over and over again, chances are she's interested
Step 2. Notice if he holds his gaze for a few seconds
If he steals glances and looks you in the eye for a while, it's a sign that he's really interested. If you see him looking at you, smile to show that you're interested too.
Step 3. See if he is tossing his hair
If a woman is interested, she may look up slightly to accentuate her face. You'll probably notice that attitude once he sees you. Or, he tossed his hair with one hand.
- Usually, if a woman plays with her hair, that's a good sign.
- Likewise, if he changes his clothes, such as arranging a skirt, it's also a sign that he wants to chat with you.
Step 4. Notice if a woman exposes her neck
He may tilt his head to one side to reveal his neck. This is a way of showing that he is opening up and wants to get to know you better.
Women sometimes do this from afar or while chatting. If it's done while chatting, it's a sign he's listening because he's tilting his head so he can hear
Step 5. Look for a blushing smile from afar
If he notices and looks at you a few times, you should also glance at him often. If he's smiling, it might be a sign he's inviting you over and having a chat with him.
Sometimes, women give a smile with closed lips. Maybe he's inviting you to get to know him better even though he's probably just trying to calm down
Step 6. Look for positive body language when you approach
As you move closer to him, see how he responds. If he turns his body towards you and smiles, that's a good sign. However, if he turns around, crosses his arms and legs, or scowls, that's a bad sign, and you may need to abort the mission.
Part 2 of 3: Watching for Signs a Woman is Flirting Back
Step 1. Focus on the smile
If he's always smiling while chatting, it means he's interested and wants to continue chatting. Most women won't hesitate to frown or look bored if they don't want to continue the conversation.
- Laughing is also a good sign, especially if he laughs at all your jokes.
- Maybe she'll blink her lashes too.
- If her face is blushing, even better.
Step 2. See if he imitates your moves
Once you've approached and chatted with him, pay attention to how he reacts when you change positions. He may imitate what you do, such as crossing his legs, and that's a sign that he likes you.
He may not realize he is imitating
Step 3. Pay attention to physical contact
Physical contact here does not mean kissing. Usually, women will touch your arm or shoulder to make a point or just flirt. Every time he touches, it's a sign that he's flirting with you.
- Maybe he was trying to get closer too. If it feels like he's standing or sitting a little too close, it means he's trying to flirt. Or, maybe he leans in from time to time.
- If you're attracted to him, feel free to use the same gestures, such as lightly touching his arm during a conversation.
Step 4. Notice if he leans toward you
The more he likes you and what you talk about, the more likely he is to get close. Usually, women just bring the torso a little closer, as if trying to hear more clearly.
If he leans over, try not to move backwards. He just wants to be closer to you
Step 5. See if he nods his head at your words
If he is actively engaged in conversation, he may nod frequently to show that he is listening. It's not exactly a sign of flirting, but it's a good sign.
Step 6. See if he plays something
Small movements, such as playing with hair or jewelry, or walking along the rim of a glass, are usually a sign of flirting. Slow, controlled movements may be a flirtation cue, while finger tapping or jerking motions indicate that he's bored or uninterested.
- For example, if he touches his lips, neck, or collarbone, he may be sending a signal of interest. He draws your attention to the part unconsciously.
- When a woman strokes the stem of her wine glass or runs along the rim of her glass of water, she may be trying to get your attention.
Step 7. See if he looks straight at you, then looks down or looks the other way
Usually, an interested woman will stare for a few seconds. Then, he will look down or look the other way for a while.
A glance like this shows that he is interested, but shy
Step 8. Notice if he shrugs and other signs that he is relaxed
If he shrugs or opens his palms up, he has nothing to hide. He shows an openness to getting to know you better.
Also, look for a relaxed posture, while a stiff back is a bad sign
Part 3 of 3: Watching for Signs a Woman Is Not Attracted
Step 1. See if he looks anywhere but you
A flirting woman may look around the room for a moment, but will still glance at you and try to catch your eye. If a woman is always looking the other way, it's a sign that she's not interested.
Notice if the eyes are enlarged. If not, maybe he doesn't like you
Step 2. Find a rigid posture
If he's sitting with his back stiff and his arms crossed, he's probably not interested. Likewise, if he's leaning on one arm and looks really bored, that also means he's trying to find a way to politely say goodbye.
Crossing your arms and turning your body the other way is also a sign that he's not interested
Step 3. Notice if he frowns or suddenly stops smiling
Since a smile is a sign of flirting, pouting lips are a sign of the opposite. If he scowls or just stares blankly around the room, he probably isn't interested. Don't approach a woman who doesn't smile back.
Step 4. Notice if he refuses physical contact
If you touch his arm and he backs off, it shows that he doesn't want to be close. Also, if you lean in for a kiss and he reciprocates by extending your hand, it means he just wants to be friends, or isn't interested in physical contact at all.
Respect the limits. If it seems like he doesn't like it, just back off. Better yet, ask first if you want to kiss or hug. Simple questions like, "Can I give you a hug?" or "Mind if I kiss you?" would mean a lot
Step 5. Trust him if he says "no"
If he says "no", don't take that as a big sell-off. Trust that he doesn't want to get involved, and please step back. Pushing those boundaries will only make him angry, not bring him to his knees.
It's possible that he's not saying "no" out loud, but is using other words to get you to stay away. For example, "Thanks, but I'm waiting for someone," "I'm not interested in chatting right now," or "I have a boyfriend."
Step 6. End the chat politely if necessary
If you find yourself unwanted, find a way to end the chat as quickly as possible. But don't be rude because he doesn't really ask for your attention, and just wants to be left alone.