The desire to be a responsible person deserves admiration. Responsible people always keep promises and keep the commitments ever made. He is able to manage time and manage money well. In addition, he always takes care of himself and others by meeting his physical and emotional needs. This may seem difficult at first, but you will become a responsible person by doing the following steps consistently.
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Method 1 of 4: Caring for Yourself and Others
Step 1. Keep things tidy without being asked
If tools or trash are scattered after you work, clean and tidy up immediately. Don't expect someone else to do it. You are the cause, you are responsible for keeping things tidy. Imagine how the other person feels when he walks into a messy room or someone has tidied it up.
For example, you've just finished making a sandwich and the kitchen is a mess. Sweep the cut vegetables on the floor, clean up the ketchup spills on the kitchen counter, then wash the used dishes or put them in the dishwasher
Step 2. Put things where they should be
Don't put off storing recently used items. You have to keep everything you need yourself, such as shoes and motorcycle keys. By getting used to putting things in their place, you don't have to look for them when you need them. In addition to maintaining tidiness, this method shows that you value what you have.
For example, after closing the door when you get home, make it a habit to put your motorcycle key on a key ring or on a table so you know where it is
Step 3. Do something without being asked
Doing a task that is an obligation is a responsible attitude. However, to show concern for yourself and others, do something without being asked. This method proves that you are responsible enough for thinking about what to do and doing it well.
- For example, you know that today your roommate doesn't have time to take out the trash. Don't wait until he does his job. Take the initiative to help him.
- Another example, it's already evening, but you and your roommates haven't decided on the dinner menu yet. Ask for their opinion and then cook a meal for everyone.
Step 4. Prioritize the interests of others, not your own
Being responsible means putting the interests of family, friends, or pets above personal interests. However, this does not mean ignoring yourself. Postpone self-interest if loved ones need you right now.
- For example, you want to have dinner, but your child's finger has been cut by a knife and needs immediate treatment. Of course you have to help him even if you have to endure hunger.
- Sometimes, the decision to prioritize the interests of others is determined by what we "need" and "want." For example, you want to go to the movies with your friends, but your mother asks you to keep your sister at home. Maybe for you, watching movies is a necessity, but this is actually a desire.
Step 5. Be consistent
You are not the person responsible for shirking an assignment or missing an appointment. Set up a workable schedule and apply it consistently. For example, instead of studying late and then relaxing for 3 weeks, set aside 1 hour each day to study the material you just explained in school.
- Being consistent means keeping promises and keeping commitments to yourself and others.
- If you are reliable, other people will believe that you will do what you say.
Method 2 of 4: Be Tactful when Interacting with Others
Step 1. Demonstrate responsibility for your actions
If you did something wrong, admit that you were wrong. Everyone can make mistakes, including you. One way to show that you are responsible is to admit that you are guilty.
Even if no one knows what you did wrong, honestly say that you did it. For example, if you accidentally break a friend's glasses, don't stand still. Tell him, "Sorry, I accidentally broke your glasses. I'll replace them"
Step 2. Tell the truth to maintain a genuine relationship
You can't just lie to maintain a good relationship, for example, you can tell a friend that you like her scarf, but you don't. When lies color your relationship, like lying when you explain that you're very busy, be prepared to face the consequences. Be honest because honesty shows that you are a responsible person for telling the truth.
Plus, you'll run into problems later on because once you lie, you have to keep lying
Step 3. Maintain good relations with loved ones and friends
Don't let the relationship break. Have a meeting or activity together to show you are the person in charge and want to meet them.
- Offer help to others when they need it. You don't know when you need someone else's help.
- Set aside time to meet someone in person. You are a responsible person if you are able to manage your time well and make plans to meet someone.
- Keep your phone when you interact directly with other people. Prioritize the people you meet, over social media.
Step 4. Determine the best solution, instead of blaming someone else
Problems can always occur in a relationship. Instead of blaming others, try to find a solution. The person in charge is able to determine the best solution, not to determine who is at fault.
- For example, you have an argument with your sister because there was a misunderstanding while chatting via WA.
- Instead of blaming your brother, invite him to discuss to find a better way to communicate. Maybe you agree to send a clearer message or ask for an explanation if you don't understand.
- When there is an argument, don't hurt the other person's feelings because this will not solve the problem. Try to find a solution.
Step 5. Show concern by thinking before speaking
When communicating, irresponsible people will immediately say what they think, including yelling at the interlocutor. Consider each word you want to say first. Don't let anger get to you.
If you are so angry that you have trouble controlling yourself, count to 10 silently while taking deep breaths to calm yourself. Tell him, "We'll talk again when I've calmed down. I don't want to say what I'll regret later."
Step 6. Learn to understand other people's thoughts and feelings
Empathy means being able to feel what other people feel. Before saying or doing something to another person, think about how he or she will feel. If you are unsure, think about how you would feel. If you're not happy, reconsider what you want to do or say.
You are not responsible for other people's feelings, but you are responsible for what you say and do to others. Responsible people are able to empathize by thinking about how other people feel when faced with certain situations
Method 3 of 4: Setting the Time
Step 1. Make a schedule to set the time
Schedules can be created using an agenda or phone app and are useful in helping you fulfill your responsibilities. In addition to reminding you of what to do, the schedule shows you where and what you're spending your time on.
- Keep a record of meeting schedules, activity locations, and tasks to be completed each day. Write down a detailed schedule of activities, for example "Music class 15.15-15.45", "Doing homework 15.45-17.00", etc.
- Read the schedule as often as possible so that it can be applied consistently.
Step 2. Complete the task before having fun
One way to fulfill responsibilities is to not have fun before completing a task. Do the tasks that must be completed first then relax and have fun.
For example, if you have to do your homework, but want to go to the movies, finish your homework first so you can watch the movie in peace because you have fulfilled your responsibilities
Step 3. Find out how long you use social media
Without realizing it, social media usually takes up a lot of time. You may feel like you're running out of time to do tasks, but you actually have time if you're not using your phone, tablet, or computer to access social media all day.
Use apps to limit the time you use your phone or computer. This method helps you learn to be responsible for managing your time
Step 4. Set aside time to serve the community
In addition to taking care of your personal life, you need to show concern for the community. You are a member of the community who must participate in helping others. Set aside time to volunteer once a month.
Do activities you love! To do social activities, choose activities that you enjoy, such as those related to nature or books. For example, volunteer with the community to clean the garden or help put books on shelves in the library
Step 5. Maintain long-term commitments
Committing is easy when doing a new activity is fun, but hard when the same activity is boring. Stay in the community if you are already in a club, become an organization leader, or volunteer.
After making a commitment to do something, do it as best as you can, but not forever. For example, if you are elected as chairman of the organization with a term of 1 year, carry out your duties for at least 1 year, unless you are absent for good reasons
Step 6. Determine the personal goals to be achieved
Set long-term goals, such as becoming a doctor or being a good friend. Also, set short-term goals, such as making your bed every morning or taking part in a 5K run after a month of training. Whatever your goal, write it down and then determine the steps to make it happen.
After setting goals, determine the concrete steps that need to be taken each day to achieve them. For example, if you want to run a 5K race after a month of training, determine how long you have to walk or run each day to be ready for the race
Method 4 of 4: Managing Money
Step 1. Set personal goals in your financial life
As a high school student or adult, make sure you know your financial goals. That way, you know what needs to be done and there is a reason to save. Plus, you don't have to constantly ask other people for money.
For example, you want to save to buy a car. Find out the price of the car you want and then start saving so you have money to buy a car
Step 2. Find ways to make money for yourself
Even if you still live with your parents, you can work to earn money, for example by translating articles or selling goods through online stores.
You can work part-time outside the home, such as teaching private lessons or being a fitness trainer
Step 3. Prepare a financial budget
A financial budget is a document that shows how much money will be received and its allocation. Make a monthly financial budget by calculating the amount of money that will be received each month. Then, determine the amount of money used, for example to buy food and the amount of savings to anticipate unexpected circumstances and prepare for the future. Subtract expenses from receipts so you can calculate how much money you have available for fun.
You can create a financial budget manually on a piece of paper, using Excel, or the phone app
Step 4. Don't go into debt
When shopping using a credit card, limit it to the amount you can afford to spend each month, except in an emergency. Do not borrow money from friends and relatives. Instead, start saving so that you are prepared for unexpected expenses.
