When we speak, we don't just use words to communicate. We pay attention to each other's body language and listen to the tone of the voice. If you're having a casual chat with someone, use a friendly tone of voice. To do this, adjust your speech and body language accordingly. You will sound very friendly!
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Method 1 of 2: Changing Speech Pattern
Step 1. Breathe from the diaphragm to control the sound
To make your tone more friendly, you need to be aware of how fast you speak and how high and low your voice is. Use strong breaths from your abdomen to better control your voice.
- To check if you are breathing from your diaphragm (the muscle under your lungs), look at yourself in the mirror as you inhale. If your shoulders and chest rise, you take short breaths without using your diaphragm.
- Practice using your diaphragm by placing your hands on your abdomen and pushing your hands up as you inhale.
Step 2. Use a variety of tones
Don't speak in a monotone voice. Use high and low tones when speaking. Emphasizing the important words in your sentences using a high pitch will reassure the other person, while a low tone will give you peace of mind.
- End the question on a high note and use a low tone when making statements. If you end your statement on a high note, you sound like you can't believe what you just said.
- The best way to maintain a friendly tone of voice is to use a variety of tones when speaking. If you always speak in a high pitched voice, people may think you've just inhaled air from a helium balloon. If you always use a low tone, the other person may think you're not really interested in the conversation.
Step 3. Speak quietly so that people are interested
When you talk too fast, you seem like you want to end the conversation quickly. Speak slowly so that the other person hears every word you say. This will give a signal that you really want to talk to them.
You don't have to spend 30 seconds on every word. Pay attention to the speed of your speech and you will naturally slow down. Pause so the listener can get your point across
Step 4. Use a softer voice to avoid sounding aggressive
There's no worse feeling than feeling you're being yelled at. Keep your voice loud so the other person can hear, but not feel yelled at.
Breathing from the diaphragm will help with this problem. This kind of controlled breathing helps the other person to hear without making you struggle to make a sound. Whenever you try hard to make yourself heard, you will likely scream and not sound friendly
Step 5. Avoid mumbling so that the listener is not confused
If you don't pronounce each word clearly, the listener may not understand. Worse, they may think you're intentionally saying something they can't hear. This will leave them confused and frustrated.
Practice pronouncing words with twists of the tongue (a string of words that are difficult to pronounce) for five minutes each morning or evening. For example, say these words quickly and clearly: "Snake coils on the fence," "Sit down, get the cormorant on the wall, Dung!" and "My yellow cat, pee on my keys."
Step 6. Record yourself to see the changes
Use your smartphone or camera to record your voice or make a video of you as you speak. Pay attention to the pitch, speed, and loudness of the voice. Improve speech after recording.
Method 2 of 2: Making Friendly Conversations
Step 1. Smile so that you look and sound friendly
When you smile, your face opens and stretches. This will automatically make your tone sound friendly. Smiling will make the other person comfortable around you.
Practice smiling while talking. Stand in front of the bathroom mirror and say a few sentences with a big smile
Step 2. Make sure your body is exposed and your posture is straight for an inviting look
Do not fold your arms and straighten your shoulders and back. Don't stoop in the middle of a conversation. Use body language to appear inviting and positive.
If you feel your arms move awkwardly at your sides when you speak, intertwine your fingers in front of your body. This position is better than folding your arms in front of your chest
Step 3. Listen attentively to show empathy
When you're talking to someone, it's important to show interest in what the other person has to say. Nod and concentrate on their faces when they talk to you. By showing concern, you maintain a friendly tone even when you're not speaking.
Ask questions based on what the other person said to maintain a friendly conversation. For example, if the other person is talking about their cat named Chloe, you might say, “I love animals! How old is Chloe?”
Step 4. Maintain a balanced conversation so that you and the other person chat
Maintain the chime-chip process with the other person. Don't tell a story that takes an hour. Use the conversation to get to know each other or get information about each other's current state.
Step 5. Give sincere compliments
Give friendly words in a friendly way too. Say something nice about the other person. Don't lie just to look good because you'll sound fake.
- Avoid gossip and don't complain too much. This habit will turn a friendly, positive conversation into a session of negative whining.
- Be careful what pitch you use when praising. If your tone of voice is high, you will sound sarcastic. For example, say “I love your earrings!” Saying "love" in a high voice will make the other person think you're mocking their jewelry.
