Having a sibling (both brother and sister) can be fun, especially when you are a child and can have someone to play with and be by your side. However, sometimes there are some moments that require you to ignore or ignore them for some reason. This can be a very difficult thing to do, especially if you still live with them in the same house. Fortunately, there are steps you can take to effectively ignore your sibling.
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Method 1 of 3: Evaluating the Best Action
Step 1. Find out why you want to ignore your sibling
There are many reasons that might prompt you to ignore your sibling.
- If you're just busy and need to focus on something, make sure you explain it to him and make it clear that you're not ignoring him out of anger.
- If your sibling is doing something annoying, first ask him or her to stop doing it.
- If he does something that's really unfair to you, try to work things out first. If he still offends you a lot (especially to the point of really hurting you), the best thing you can do is avoid him for a long period of time.
Step 2. Decide to what point you can ignore it
Your reasons for ignoring them can determine to what extent you can ignore them. If he's doing something unfair, you might be able to silence him so he understands "what you mean." If you just need to focus on something (eg a task), still respect him when he enters the room or tries to interact with you. Just make sure you don't have a long chat with him.
Step 3. Think of alternative actions you can take
Open communication is an important aspect of all healthy relationships, including family relationships. When you ignore it, you ruin the opportunity for both of you to communicate with each other. Therefore, find another way to solve the problem by talking to him first. If necessary, involve your parents. If you need advice on what to do, ask a friend, counselor, therapist, or someone you trust for help.
- If you need to concentrate, try telling him, “I need to study for tomorrow's exam. Could you be calmer or move to another room?” or “Sorry that I've been ignoring you lately. I have a big project to complete and I need to focus on that project."
- If he does something annoying, you can say, “Clicking on a pen like that over and over really annoys me. Can you stop doing it?”
- If he does something that hurts your feelings, try saying, “I don't know if you realized it or not, but what you did really hurt my feelings. I want you to understand it and not do it again."
Method 2 of 3: Ignoring Siblings Who Live in the House
Step 1. Try to go outside more often
If you want to study or work, take your laptop or books with you to public places. Many people visit libraries, cafes, and parks when they need to focus on something. If you have a car, you can drive your car into the parking lot (or just put your car in the garage and stay there). If you're ignoring him for other reasons, try taking more walks and spending time with your friends. Do your best to keep yourself busy outdoors.
Step 2. Lock your bedroom door
If you have your own room, locking the bedroom door is the best way to maintain your privacy (if you are allowed to lock your room, of course). This way, you can prevent the presence of unexpected people in your room. This is important to remember, especially if your sibling has a bad habit of not knocking before entering the room, or is too young to realize that it would be more polite to knock on the door before entering.
Step 3. Use headphones or earplugs
This can be a great move if you live in the same room as her (or travel long distances with her). When using headphones, make sure you don't set the volume too high or you may damage your hearing. In addition, headphones with active noise-cancelling can block noise without requiring you to set the volume high.
Step 4. Reduce stress with deep breathing exercises
Deep breathing exercises help make you feel calmer and helpful when you feel angry or upset with your sibling. Inhale slowly through your nose while counting to five (inside). After that, exhale slowly through the nose. Repeat these steps until you feel calm enough and your sibling is no longer bothering you.
Method 3 of 3: Ignoring Siblings Living Apart
Step 1. Unfollow him on social media
If you need to focus, try avoiding social media. If you just ignore it for a moment, most websites (including Facebook) allow users to hide other people's posts without requiring you to unfriend them. Unfriending siblings on social media can actually trigger drama that destroys real-life relationships. It is only the last option you can take for long-term or permanent problems.
Step 2. Don't answer phone calls from him
If you see his phone number appear on the screen when your phone rings, let the call go to your voice mailbox. You also don't need to press the " Silence " button because usually he will know that you did it. If your sibling leaves a message, make sure you hear the message as soon as possible in case of an emergency.
Step 3. Make sure the message you send remains short
Don't ignore all the messages, unless your sibling is really treating you unfairly (or putting you in an unfair position). However, you don't have to reply to the message right away. Send messages that are short and straightforward.
Tips
- Try asking him why he's doing such an obnoxious thing. If he doesn't mean to bother you, try to understand the situation he's in. Talk to him about alternative courses of action that you feel are less bothersome to you.
- Try to stay calm by taking deep breaths or thinking about something that can make you feel calmer.
- Don't fight or fight with him as this will only have a negative impact or outcome.
- If your brother imitates you, so be it. When someone imitates you, it's usually because of their admiration for you. If you keep quiet, and keep doing what you're doing, your sibling doesn't know anything else to sleep with and will eventually stop copying you.
- If your brother breaks your stuff, don't do the same to his stuff. It will not satisfy you and, in fact, will get you in trouble.
- Don't hurt him because it will only have bigger consequences.
- Don't take revenge on him. Reduce stress by taking a walk or visiting a place with no one but your friends, and not your siblings.
- Ask why your brother is being rude. If he won't listen to what you have to say, calm down and go for a walk. Things will get better.
